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My sister has been divorced twice and has custody of her two children for the past 6 or so years. She hasn’t really worked all these years (some odd jobs on and off) and has apparently relied on the alimony & child support of her ex-husband. My parents helped her to get into a townhouse several years ago, and have helped her quite a bit, including buying her her last two cars, furnishing the kids bedrooms, financial support on and off for many many years, etc.
Basically, the problem is now that she’s trying to manipulate my parents (and me and my brother) into paying her way thru life. She quotes the bible verse from 1 Timothy 5:8 which says If any one does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his own family, he has disowned the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. She has basically alienated her entire family because she is not kind and demands that we ‘support her’ and is trying to guilt, especially my older parents, into taking care of her. My life is very stable and I am the younger sister - I have been happily married for 22 years. She has always been resentful of me, it seems, and it’s getting worse the older we get. She cut all ties with me last year when she demanded of me to help her (with threats using God’s word), and when I challenged her on the reality of what SHE needs to do, she said she wanted no part of me anymore and hasn’t spoken or responded to me in over a year. I accept that part because I really don’t want a ‘relationship’ with someone who isn’t kind or loving and is only a taker, even if it is my sister. I love her, but I really don’t like her. I pray for her daily. She is very confrontational and is a very angry woman who thinks the world owes her and she won’t be ‘happy’ until she gets what she wants, which is to NOT work and take charge of her own life and to have everyone else pay her way thru life. Oh, and she also says very unloving, hateful things about her kids in front of her kids and says ugly things about the kids dad in front of them. It’s child abuse, I think. Sometimes I wonder if she is mentally unstable.
MY QUESTION IS: IS it the ‘responsibility’ of her family (her parents who are 72, me who is married and has 3 kids of my own to raise and support with my husband, or my brother who likewise is married and supports his own family of 2 kids and his wife) to support her and give her money to live in the lifestyle she wants but doesn’t work at all in order to ‘make her way’ in life. I have prayed and discerned that it is NOT my responsibility to do this and don’t feel bad about it anymore, but if I am wrong, I would like to know. Also, I am seeking Godly advice to help my parents too.
Thank you for any advice.
I am a convert to the faith in 1997, and my parents are Methodist, and my sister doesn’t go to any church at all and hasn’t raised her children in the faith.
Basically, the problem is now that she’s trying to manipulate my parents (and me and my brother) into paying her way thru life. She quotes the bible verse from 1 Timothy 5:8 which says If any one does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his own family, he has disowned the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. She has basically alienated her entire family because she is not kind and demands that we ‘support her’ and is trying to guilt, especially my older parents, into taking care of her. My life is very stable and I am the younger sister - I have been happily married for 22 years. She has always been resentful of me, it seems, and it’s getting worse the older we get. She cut all ties with me last year when she demanded of me to help her (with threats using God’s word), and when I challenged her on the reality of what SHE needs to do, she said she wanted no part of me anymore and hasn’t spoken or responded to me in over a year. I accept that part because I really don’t want a ‘relationship’ with someone who isn’t kind or loving and is only a taker, even if it is my sister. I love her, but I really don’t like her. I pray for her daily. She is very confrontational and is a very angry woman who thinks the world owes her and she won’t be ‘happy’ until she gets what she wants, which is to NOT work and take charge of her own life and to have everyone else pay her way thru life. Oh, and she also says very unloving, hateful things about her kids in front of her kids and says ugly things about the kids dad in front of them. It’s child abuse, I think. Sometimes I wonder if she is mentally unstable.
MY QUESTION IS: IS it the ‘responsibility’ of her family (her parents who are 72, me who is married and has 3 kids of my own to raise and support with my husband, or my brother who likewise is married and supports his own family of 2 kids and his wife) to support her and give her money to live in the lifestyle she wants but doesn’t work at all in order to ‘make her way’ in life. I have prayed and discerned that it is NOT my responsibility to do this and don’t feel bad about it anymore, but if I am wrong, I would like to know. Also, I am seeking Godly advice to help my parents too.
Thank you for any advice.
I am a convert to the faith in 1997, and my parents are Methodist, and my sister doesn’t go to any church at all and hasn’t raised her children in the faith.
