Family issues for Christmas

[Poet]

I had to laugh at your example. Yes, that’s exactly the sort of thing that goes on here. And yes, some of the examples here, too, are so outlandish and ridiculous–in the end, when we begin healing, we end up just laughing at some of it.

And as we grow, ourselves, we reach a point of pitying them more than feeling bad for ourselves. My mother volunteers at the church, helps clean it, does her adoration hour weekly, is on her guilds, says her daily Rosary–and yet somehow she remains bitter, still re-telling stories from 50, 60 years ago, still locked in anger about those things, and still tried to start a fight with me right after Christmas Eve Mass a couple years ago!

As I find my own healing and become more confident of God’s love for me, I’m able to see that as just sad and ask God to heal her.

 

[DarkLight]

Far more likely it’s going to bring about a bunch of pressure for a false “reconciliation.” I don’t think my mother was ever particularly close to my grandmother (her mother-in-law). I was closer to her but we never lived nearby.