Dear Rob,
That is an interesting perspective you have from two sides. Actually the passion narrative in John’s Gospel, tells us:
…After this, Joseph of Arimathea, secretly a disciple of Jesus for fear of the Jews, asked Pilate if he could remove the body of Jesus. And Pilate permitted it. So he came and took his body. Nicodemus, the one who had first come to him at night, also came bringing a mixture of myrrh and aloes weighing about one hundred pounds.They took the body of Jesus and bound it with burial cloths along with the spices, according to the Jewish burial custom. Now in the place where he had been crucified there was a garden, and in the garden a new tomb, in which no one had yet been buried. So they laid Jesus there because of the Jewish preparation day; for the tomb was close by… (Jn 19: 38 - 42).
Mt 27: 57-60 is similar:
…When it was evening, there came a rich man from Arimathea named Joseph, who was himself a disciple of Jesus. He went to Pilate and asked for the body of Jesus; then Pilate ordered it to be handed over. Taking the body, Joseph wrapped it in clean linen and laid it in his new tomb that he had hewn in the rock. Then he rolled a huge stone across the entrance to the tomb and departed…
Luke 23: 50 - 53 tells us:
Now there was a virtuous and righteous man named Joseph who, though he was a member of the council, had not consented to their plan of action. He came from the Jewish town of Arimathea and was awaiting the kingdom of God. He went to Pilate and asked for the body of Jesus. After he had taken the body down, he wrapped it in a linen cloth and laid him in a rock-hewn tomb in which no one had yet been buried.
While your perspective is interesting and poetically beautiful, the testimony of God’s Word in the Gospels indicates otherwise. I’m inclined to think after Jesus died, John the Apostle took Mary to his home, seeing her now as Jesus told Him to: “Behold your Mother”. Mary was now a part of John’s life in a new way.
It is also possible that while Joseph of Arimathea was going to Pilate and asking for the Body and then returning and taking the Body down John could have waited with Mary, but no mention is made of Jesus being placed in her arms. So I tend to think they left, knowing others would take care of Jesus’ body. I believe Mary had faith that He would rise again, so was willing to leave the place of death to await His rising.
There is only One Savior and that is Jesus, God’s Word made Flesh, yet the Church recognizes Mary as having such a unique union with Jesus as the New Adam and Mary as the New Eve in the New Birth for us in Baptism. Mary perfectly cooperated with the Redeemer – never as equal but cooperating, working with Him as Mother and Model for us.
Perhaps Michelanglo’s “Pieta” conveys something similar to your perspective: Mary holding Jesus in His death, as in birth – as she also holds us, according to the Father’s Plan. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
It is touching to read it was a “righteous man” - Joseph - who took Jesus’ Body down from the Cross.