I, personally, wish that states would simply get out of the marriage business altogether. Since the institution of marriage has been so desecrated over the past several decades, it really and truly doesn’t do anything.
Think about it for a minute: there is no legal issue with two people living together, marriage is no longer seen as a lifelong institution (except for a few backwards fundamentalist religious people ), divorce can be achieved for any reason or no reason at all, there is no real stigma to bastardy, and so on.
The only issues that the State would be involved in are strictly peripheral in nature: insurance benefits, welfare benefits, tax law, inheritance laws, and so on. And those can just as easily be taken care of without getting the State involved in what has historically been a religious ceremony.
The only authentic, integral reason for a couple to be married is for religious purposes. And those religious purposes can be accomplished with zero involvement of the State.
Pope Leo XIII, in his 1880 encyclical
Arcanum, stated:
16. Yet, owing to the efforts of the archenemy of mankind, there are persons who, thanklessly casting away so many other blessings of redemption, despise also or utterly ignore the restoration of marriage to its original perfection. It is a reproach to some of the ancients that they showed themselves the enemies of marriage in many ways; but in our own age, much more pernicious is the sin of those who would fain pervert utterly the nature of marriage, perfect though it is, and complete in all its details and parts. The chief reason why they act in this way is because very many, imbued with the maxims of a false philosophy and corrupted in morals, judge nothing so unbearable as submission and obedience; and strive with all their might to bring about that not only individual men, but families, also – indeed, human society itself – may in haughty pride despise the sovereignty of God.
- Now, since the family and human society at large spring from marriage, these men will on no account allow matrimony to be the subject of the jurisdiction of the Church. Nay, they endeavor to deprive it of all holiness, and so bring it within the contracted sphere of those rights which, having been instituted by man, are ruled and administered by the civil jurisprudence of the community. Wherefore it necessarily follows that they attribute all power over marriage to civil rulers, and allow none whatever to the Church; and, when the Church exercises any such power, they think that she acts either by favor of the civil authority or to its injury. Now is the time, they say, for the heads of the State to vindicate their rights unflinchingly, and to do their best to settle all that relates to marriage according as to them seems good.
18. Hence are owing civil marriages, commonly so called; hence laws are framed which impose impediments to marriage; hence arise judicial sentences affecting the marriage contract, as to whether or not it have been rightly made. Lastly, all power of prescribing and passing judgment in this class of cases is, as we see, of set purpose denied to the Catholic Church, so that no regard is paid either to her divine power or to her prudent laws. Yet, under these, for so many centuries, have the nations lived on whom the light of civilization shone bright with the wisdom of Christ Jesus.
19. Nevertheless, the naturalists,[32] as well as all who profess that they worship above all things the divinity of the State, and strive to disturb whole communities with such wicked doctrines, cannot escape the charge of delusion. Marriage has God for its Author, and was from the very beginning a kind of foreshadowing of the Incarnation of His Son; and therefore there abides in it a something holy and religious; not extraneous, but innate; not derived from men, but implanted by nature…
Don’t get me wrong, there are many blessings to society that spring from marriage: but we’re talking about a real, genuine marriage that is life-long and bears much fruit (lots of kids). What we have now has little or no resemblance to authentic marriage. And I, for one, would prefer the Church to have nothing whatsoever to do with it…and, without the blessings of the Church, I see no valid reason for the State to maintain it.