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I know I am mostly just in a funk. But my life does not seem to be improving. My friends, most of them, have gone their own ways. I have a relationship, but I don’t know what’s going on with that. My family is unavailable for personal reasons, people at my Church are mostly emotionally distant. I have Jesus though. I know when things seem worst He is closest. But yeah, I feel like I am stagnating. My prayer life seems unfruitful (spiritually, not talking about temporal favors). I am thirty and still work a **** job and am below the poverty line or at least teetering on it. So, I haven’t any money to keep myself entertained or distracted. I have no skills and work my butt off to tread water. And I am looking for a second job. For some reason I feel even more depressed when I am working. I simply feel no joy in it. In short, I am restless. I am thankful of course for what I do have, but I just feel so alone. I know I’ll be ok but I am down at the moment. Feel like I’ve no place to feel at home. Sorry to whine. I just need some friends and a home life. A place to go to feel welcome. I am sick of spending birthdays and holidays alone. The worst thing is when someone does treat me welcomingly I cant seem to accept it. I feel like I should grovel and be very very careful to not wear out my welcome. I feel like an imposition.
 
Layp3rs0n said:
I know I am mostly just in a funk. But my life does not seem to be improving. My friends, most of them, have gone their own ways. I have a relationship, but I don’t know what’s going on with that. My family is unavailable for personal reasons, people at my Church are mostly emotionally distant. I have Jesus though. I know when things seem worst He is closest. But yeah, I feel like I am stagnating. My prayer life seems unfruitful (spiritually, not talking about temporal favors). I am thirty and still work a **** job and am below the poverty line or at least teetering on it. So, I haven’t any money to keep myself entertained or distracted. I have no skills and work my butt off to tread water. And I am looking for a second job. For some reason I feel even more depressed when I am working. I simply feel no joy in it. In short, I am restless. I am thankful of course for what I do have, but I just feel so alone. I know I’ll be ok but I am down at the moment. Feel like I’ve no place to feel at home. Sorry to whine. I just need some friends and a home life. A place to go to feel welcome. I am sick of spending birthdays and holidays alone. The worst thing is when someone does treat me welcomingly I cant seem to accept it. I feel like I should grovel and be very very careful to not wear out my welcome. I feel like an imposition.
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May God lead you out of this unwelcome feeling.

May God lead you to accept when someone welcomes you. May you not sabotage the welcome they give you.

May you no longer feel a need to grovel.

May God lead you to someone who helps you understand your feelings and helps you understand how to release this feeling of being unwelcome.

May God lead you to a strong friend who can help you with your spiritual needs. (You might begin this with your priest or other strong Catholic.)

May God lead you to the right person to help with your emotional distress. (You might begin this search with your doctor - looking for profession help.)
 
I feel like that a lot. I live in Mexico so have no family here, and I have been unable to connect. I know I compensate by writing a lot on the forum. It’s just that I’ve found that, at least in the meantime, it has helped me. It’s been like family to me. I, also, know I am at risk of “wearing out my welcome”, because I can overdo it. I, too, admit I’ve been lonely.

I do have a few friends, here, but you probably know how it goes in modern times. When people have families, they now have to work and work just to make ends meet. Sometimes, you have both working, and when they come home, they’re tired and don’t feel like doing much of anything. I have another friend who works full time, sometime 12 hr days and then goes to school on top of it! When she goes on vacation, I try to catch her, but she’s even taken “vacation days” just to catch up on her studies!

When I was in the US, I tried to reach out, but so many were too busy. Sometimes, people use that as an excuse, but I think a lot of it in modern times is quite real. So many people are just plain out EXHAUSTED!

You can also contact me! I’m in the same boat!
 
Prayer taken from "Jesus Is My All in All: Praying with the ‘Saint of Calcutta’ " - Mother Teresa

Jesus is the Word made Flesh.
Jesus is the Bread of Life.
Jesus is the Victim offered for our sins on the Cross.
Jesus is the Sacrifice offered at the Holy Mass
For the sins of the world and mine.
Jesus is the Word – to be spoken.
Jesus is the Truth – to be told.
Jesus is the Way – to be walked.
Jesus is the Light – to be lit.
Jesus is the Life – to be lived.
Jesus is the Love – to be loved.
Jesus is the Joy – to be shared.
Jesus is the Sacrifice – to be offered.
Jesus is the Peace – to be given.
Jesus is the Bread of Life – to be eaten.
Jesus is the Hungry – to be fed.
Jesus is the Thirsty – to be satiated.
Jesus is the Naked – to be clothed.
Jesus is the Homeless – to be taken in.
Jesus is the Sick – to be healed.
Jesus is the Lonely – to be loved.
Jesus is the Unwanted – to be wanted.
Jesus is the Leper – to wash his wounds.
Jesus is the Beggar – to give him a smile.
Jesus is the Drunkard – to listen to him.
Jesus is the Retarded – to protect him.
Jesus is the Little One – to embrace him.
Jesus is the Blind – to lead him.
Jesus is the Dumb – to speak for him.
Jesus is the Crippled – to walk with him.
Jesus is the Drug addict – to befriend him.
Jesus is the Prostitute – to remove from danger and befriend.
Jesus is the Prisoner – to be visited.
Jesus is the Old – to be served.

To me –
Jesus is my God.
Jesus is my Spouse.
Jesus is my Life.
Jesus is my only Love.
Jesus is my All in All.
Jesus is my Everything.

Jesus, I love with my whole heart, with my whole being. I have given Him all, even my sings, and he has espoused me to Himself in tenderness and love. Now and for life I am the spouse of my Crucified Spouse. Amen.
 
Layp3rs0n said:
I know I am mostly just in a funk. But my life does not seem to be improving. My friends, most of them, have gone their own ways. I have a relationship, but I don’t know what’s going on with that. My family is unavailable for personal reasons, people at my Church are mostly emotionally distant. I have Jesus though. I know when things seem worst He is closest. But yeah, I feel like I am stagnating. My prayer life seems unfruitful (spiritually, not talking about temporal favors). I am thirty and still work a **** job and am below the poverty line or at least teetering on it. So, I haven’t any money to keep myself entertained or distracted. I have no skills and work my butt off to tread water. And I am looking for a second job. For some reason I feel even more depressed when I am working. I simply feel no joy in it. In short, I am restless. I am thankful of course for what I do have, but I just feel so alone. I know I’ll be ok but I am down at the moment. Feel like I’ve no place to feel at home. Sorry to whine. I just need some friends and a home life. A place to go to feel welcome. I am sick of spending birthdays and holidays alone. The worst thing is when someone does treat me welcomingly I cant seem to accept it. I feel like I should grovel and be very very careful to not wear out my welcome. I feel like an imposition.
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:console:
 
RoseMary131 said:
May God lead you out of this unwelcome feeling.

May God lead you to accept when someone welcomes you. May you not sabotage the welcome they give you.

May you no longer feel a need to grovel.

May God lead you to someone who helps you understand your feelings and helps you understand how to release this feeling of being unwelcome.

May God lead you to a strong friend who can help you with your spiritual needs. (You might begin this with your priest or other strong Catholic.)

May God lead you to the right person to help with your emotional distress. (You might begin this search with your doctor - looking for profession help.)
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:amen:
 
RoseMary131 said:
May God lead you out of this unwelcome feeling.

May God lead you to accept when someone welcomes you. May you not sabotage the welcome they give you.

May you no longer feel a need to grovel.

May God lead you to someone who helps you understand your feelings and helps you understand how to release this feeling of being unwelcome.

May God lead you to a strong friend who can help you with your spiritual needs. (You might begin this with your priest or other strong Catholic.)

May God lead you to the right person to help with your emotional distress. (You might begin this search with your doctor - looking for profession help.)
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I join in the above prayers. How beautifully said.
Mary.
 
You are definitely not alone. Mother Teresa talked about how the lonely are the poorest of the poor. Alot of it, we do to ourself. I don’t know why, but I isolate myself. When I have the energy I try to think of something to say to who ever before I see them, then take that minute when I see them… chances are, they are lonely too.

Dear God, help us to hold our chin up high, help our self esteem to build, give us the courage to reach out to others… in helping them we will also help ourselves. Amen ✝️
✝️ Today is the beginning of the rest of Eternity. ✝️
✝️ The only option I allow my self from here is up! ✝️
 
RoseMary131 said:
May God lead you out of this unwelcome feeling.

May God lead you to accept when someone welcomes you. May you not sabotage the welcome they give you.

May you no longer feel a need to grovel.

May God lead you to someone who helps you understand your feelings and helps you understand how to release this feeling of being unwelcome.

May God lead you to a strong friend who can help you with your spiritual needs. (You might begin this with your priest or other strong Catholic.)

May God lead you to the right person to help with your emotional distress. (You might begin this search with your doctor - looking for profession help.)
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Amen.

I know you’re feeling miserable right now, but I can assure you that this will pass. I’m certainly not an ancient but I’ve raised a family and have had ups and downs in my marriage, social and prayer life. It will pass, it might get a lot easier or just a little, but things rarely stay the same, especially if you’re motivated for a change. Most times though it will require effort on your part, but it sounds as if your trying. I’ll keep you in my prayers.
 
Layp3rs0n said:
I know I am mostly just in a funk. But my life does not seem to be improving. My friends, most of them, have gone their own ways. I have a relationship, but I don’t know what’s going on with that. My family is unavailable for personal reasons, people at my Church are mostly emotionally distant. I have Jesus though. I know when things seem worst He is closest. But yeah, I feel like I am stagnating. My prayer life seems unfruitful (spiritually, not talking about temporal favors). I am thirty and still work a **** job and am below the poverty line or at least teetering on it. So, I haven’t any money to keep myself entertained or distracted. I have no skills and work my butt off to tread water. And I am looking for a second job. For some reason I feel even more depressed when I am working. I simply feel no joy in it. In short, I am restless. I am thankful of course for what I do have, but I just feel so alone. I know I’ll be ok but I am down at the moment. Feel like I’ve no place to feel at home. Sorry to whine. I just need some friends and a home life. A place to go to feel welcome. I am sick of spending birthdays and holidays alone. The worst thing is when someone does treat me welcomingly I cant seem to accept it. I feel like I should grovel and be very very careful to not wear out my welcome. I feel like an imposition.
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26Sep13…I have lived and worked in 23 countries and you can take it from me, that most of the world feel the same as you…except that you have things better.

Ps: Go and visit a psychiatrist. If he confirms you to be suffering from depression, there are medications that can fix these thingys today.
 
Teese said:
Amen.

I know you’re feeling miserable right now, but I can assure you that this will pass. I’m certainly not an ancient but I’ve raised a family and have had ups and downs in my marriage, social and prayer life. It will pass, it might get a lot easier or just a little, but things rarely stay the same, especially if you’re motivated for a change. Most times though it will require effort on your part, but it sounds as if your trying. I’ll keep you in my prayers.
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26Sep13…I don’t believe the latter part of your message about ‘turn me over, I’m done on this side’…
 
RoseMary131 said:
Prayer taken from "Jesus Is My All in All: Praying with the ‘Saint of Calcutta’ " - Mother Teresa

Jesus is the Word made Flesh.
Jesus is the Bread of Life.
Jesus is the Victim offered for our sins on the Cross.
Jesus is the Sacrifice offered at the Holy Mass
For the sins of the world and mine.
Jesus is the Word – to be spoken.
Jesus is the Truth – to be told.
Jesus is the Way – to be walked.
Jesus is the Light – to be lit.
Jesus is the Life – to be lived.
Jesus is the Love – to be loved.
Jesus is the Joy – to be shared.
Jesus is the Sacrifice – to be offered.
Jesus is the Peace – to be given.
Jesus is the Bread of Life – to be eaten.
Jesus is the Hungry – to be fed.
Jesus is the Thirsty – to be satiated.
Jesus is the Naked – to be clothed.
Jesus is the Homeless – to be taken in.
Jesus is the Sick – to be healed.
Jesus is the Lonely – to be loved.
Jesus is the Unwanted – to be wanted.
Jesus is the Leper – to wash his wounds.
Jesus is the Beggar – to give him a smile.
Jesus is the Drunkard – to listen to him.
Jesus is the Retarded – to protect him.
Jesus is the Little One – to embrace him.
Jesus is the Blind – to lead him.
Jesus is the Dumb – to speak for him.
Jesus is the Crippled – to walk with him.
Jesus is the Drug addict – to befriend him.
Jesus is the Prostitute – to remove from danger and befriend.
Jesus is the Prisoner – to be visited.
Jesus is the Old – to be served.

To me –
Jesus is my God.
Jesus is my Spouse.
Jesus is my Life.
Jesus is my only Love.
Jesus is my All in All.
Jesus is my Everything.

Jesus, I love with my whole heart, with my whole being. I have given Him all, even my sings, and he has espoused me to Himself in tenderness and love. Now and for life I am the spouse of my Crucified Spouse. Amen.
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26Sep13…Mother Theresa had no idea what it’s like to raise kids. She didn’t have any.
 
Layp3rs0n, let me take it upon myself to welcome you to this place, at least. Your testimony brings many people who are feeling the same way, together.

May the Lord who welcomes you with his open arms bring you a feeling of peace of wholeness today. I have been in this wilderness before, and like you, sometimes the coldness of the people at my parish can bring me some sense of isolation. Thank God for his Presence, because HE is what draws me there, and I pray that you have a renewed sense of his presence at the very next Mass that you participate in.

Peace, Peace, Peace…
 
Thank you all so much for your kind words. Clearwater, I will respond to your pm in a bit. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
 
Don,t feel so bad,most of my lifeI felt lonely,and still do,I have no freinds,my marriage has been an and up and down rollercoster,have nothing to show for my life,live from month to month,but I do have Jesus, which has lifed me up all my life,for with Jesus I need no one else,just keep your Faith strong,and leave all in Gods hands.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†
 
Layp3rs0n said:
I know I am mostly just in a funk. But my life does not seem to be improving. My friends, most of them, have gone their own ways. I have a relationship, but I don’t know what’s going on with that. My family is unavailable for personal reasons, people at my Church are mostly emotionally distant. I have Jesus though. I know when things seem worst He is closest. But yeah, I feel like I am stagnating. My prayer life seems unfruitful (spiritually, not talking about temporal favors). I am thirty and still work a **** job and am below the poverty line or at least teetering on it. So, I haven’t any money to keep myself entertained or distracted. I have no skills and work my butt off to tread water. And I am looking for a second job. For some reason I feel even more depressed when I am working. I simply feel no joy in it. In short, I am restless. I am thankful of course for what I do have, but I just feel so alone. I know I’ll be ok but I am down at the moment. Feel like I’ve no place to feel at home. Sorry to whine. I just need some friends and a home life. A place to go to feel welcome. I am sick of spending birthdays and holidays alone. The worst thing is when someone does treat me welcomingly I cant seem to accept it. I feel like I should grovel and be very very careful to not wear out my welcome. I feel like an imposition.
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Did you consider making online friends? That too might help you “tread water” until you find real friends. As for the unfruitful prayer life, don’t give up. Be persistent, God likes that. Pray harder and longer, and pray for other as well because it is in giving that we receive. Try to deepen your relationship with Him and things will work out. Tis’ always darkest before the dawn.
 
Skyhighblue34 said:
Did you consider making online friends? That too might help you “tread water” until you find real friends.
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I don’t know… some of my online friends I really consider to be real friends. (I’m talking to YOU Lochias!) But it’s a great suggestion still. 🙂
 
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