Feeling a little low

[Xantippe]

Mary, thank you so much for sharing this with me. Reading your experience helps me to put my fears at ease. I don’t know why I became so gripped with worry today. It just rises up sometimes and sort of saturates me. Reading all of these responses of support, of encouragement from others who have encountered this, it has really helped put me back into a more grounded spot.

My husband used to threaten me with violence, much like yours. He would grab me by the shirt and pull his fist back as if he were going to punch me, and then want me to thank him for not actually doing it. There was a time where a piece of me wished he would just do it, and then I would have a “valid reason” to leave. But I excused the fact the he had pushed me, that he had grabbed me, that he had knocked me down the stairs, that he would scream in my face–I don’t know why I ever set any of that aside, but I did. I praise God that I woke up to reality before my face got broken. It was the novena to Mary Undoer of Knots that put everything into perspective for me, and gave me the quiet voice inside saying, “go.”

And that leads me to my next thought. I think that since this worry comes into my heart from time to time and grips me rather tightly like it did today, perhaps another novena to our Lady is in order.

I’m so sorry!

 

[pianistclare]

If you’d like we can post a thread asking for the prayer warriors to pray the Undoer of KNots Novena for all persons in abusive marriages. There’s right now another poster suffering as well.
Say the word, and we’re all on it and in it with you!

 

[Ophelia23]

If you’d like we can post a thread asking for the prayer warriors to pray the Undoer of KNots Novena for all persons in abusive marriages. There’s right now another poster suffering as well.
Say the word, and we’re all on it and in it with you!

I think that is an amazing idea. Let’s do this! Today can be day 1!

 

[pianistclare]

I think that is an amazing idea. Let’s do this! Today can be day 1!

DONE! Look in the prayer thread section.
I posted the Novena in 3 parts.

Love you.

If anyone is interested:
You can go to THREAD TOOLS on the top right of the page, and print out the three pages of prayers to keep handy.

 

[Irishmom2]

If he’s truly abusive, you made the right decision to leave. But since you have children, from what you’re saying, I assume they’re with him? If so, I guess you technically aren’t really of the valid situation for annulment, since you’ve presumably consummated your marriage.

No, you have no reason to say this to the OP. Please do not advise on things you know nothing about. :tsktsk:

 

[Mystic_Banana]

No, you have no reason to say this to the OP. Please do not advise on things you know nothing about. :tsktsk:

Really? I read a book about it and everything…a CTS one! I’ve got it somewhere… sorry if I’ve got it wrong… I really don’t want to give out wrong information…

 

[AnnArbor]

Really? I read a book about it and everything…a CTS one! I’ve got it somewhere… sorry if I’ve got it wrong… I really don’t want to give out wrong information…

Definitely wrong. There are many grounds for a degree of nullify–non-consummation is certainly not a common one. I suggest reading The Wedding That Was by Michael Foster.