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I have been a member of my church since 2011.
I have A LOT of history with the place. I was baptized there as a baby in 1986. I was married there in 2010. I did the RCIA there in 2012 as I previously stated along with Altar Serving. My Aunt’s funeral was held there in 2005, My Grandmother’s in 2011, and my Great Uncle in 2012. I also led the funeral procession for the priest who baptized me there when he passed away in 2017.
The church has been struggling a lot financially over the last 4 and a half years. We used to have a stewardship committee that I was a part of and poured my heart and soul into. One evening I stayed up half the night making a list of possible fundraising ideas that could bring extra cash flow in that would help cover the costs of repairs. Pretty much everyone was on-board with a good chunk of them but our priest he hummed and ha’d over most of them.
He has really strict rules regarding fundraising. He forbids any raffle tickets being sold inside the church even after mass but he’ll let the Catholic women’s league do it. If he doesn’t like the idea it doesn’t happen. Plain and simple.
His solution at the time was to ask parishioners to increase their donations at mass. Other people on the stewardship committee were getting fusturated too and the committee stopped meeting. An email
Went out not long after from ten hairnan stating that it had to go on hold as there were other matters that had to be dealt with.
My hubby joined the KOC a little while ago and when he comes home from the meetings he tells me that he’s feeling the fusturation from them too because they want to fundraise to get equipment that they need for charity events but our priest is such a stickler with fundraising events.
There is a real lack of social events as well. The only real family event that they have is a bbq once a year. That’s it. Everything else is geared toward the elderly folks.
I was diagnosed with Autism last year at age 32. It really didn’t come as a surprise. It is what it is. I never actually told him about it but I’m thinking he already figured it out.
Along with doing Altar Serving at mass I also do it at funerals and weddings.
Only me and one other altar server do the weddings. He is also trained in Eucharistic ministry I am not.
I have been asking if I can take the course so I can help at weddings with communion as usually at weddings they don’t have any Eucharistic ministers. There are also several other Altar servers trained in Eucharistic ministry including one of the woman I usually do altar serving with. Every time I tell the priest I’m more than willing to take the course he tells me no that they don’t like having people do both. I tell him well others do and he says yeah but we really don’t like it.
I’m fed up. Im depressed. I don’t know what to do. I’ve had some tell me to confront him. I’ve had some tell me to seek advice from a priest in another community, I’ve had people tell me to go directly to the Archdiocese and make a formal complaint because where others are fusturated with him too and I’ve had some tell me to go find another church that appreciates me.
I’m lost and don’t know what to do.
I have A LOT of history with the place. I was baptized there as a baby in 1986. I was married there in 2010. I did the RCIA there in 2012 as I previously stated along with Altar Serving. My Aunt’s funeral was held there in 2005, My Grandmother’s in 2011, and my Great Uncle in 2012. I also led the funeral procession for the priest who baptized me there when he passed away in 2017.
The church has been struggling a lot financially over the last 4 and a half years. We used to have a stewardship committee that I was a part of and poured my heart and soul into. One evening I stayed up half the night making a list of possible fundraising ideas that could bring extra cash flow in that would help cover the costs of repairs. Pretty much everyone was on-board with a good chunk of them but our priest he hummed and ha’d over most of them.
He has really strict rules regarding fundraising. He forbids any raffle tickets being sold inside the church even after mass but he’ll let the Catholic women’s league do it. If he doesn’t like the idea it doesn’t happen. Plain and simple.
His solution at the time was to ask parishioners to increase their donations at mass. Other people on the stewardship committee were getting fusturated too and the committee stopped meeting. An email
Went out not long after from ten hairnan stating that it had to go on hold as there were other matters that had to be dealt with.
My hubby joined the KOC a little while ago and when he comes home from the meetings he tells me that he’s feeling the fusturation from them too because they want to fundraise to get equipment that they need for charity events but our priest is such a stickler with fundraising events.
There is a real lack of social events as well. The only real family event that they have is a bbq once a year. That’s it. Everything else is geared toward the elderly folks.
I was diagnosed with Autism last year at age 32. It really didn’t come as a surprise. It is what it is. I never actually told him about it but I’m thinking he already figured it out.
Along with doing Altar Serving at mass I also do it at funerals and weddings.
Only me and one other altar server do the weddings. He is also trained in Eucharistic ministry I am not.
I have been asking if I can take the course so I can help at weddings with communion as usually at weddings they don’t have any Eucharistic ministers. There are also several other Altar servers trained in Eucharistic ministry including one of the woman I usually do altar serving with. Every time I tell the priest I’m more than willing to take the course he tells me no that they don’t like having people do both. I tell him well others do and he says yeah but we really don’t like it.
I’m fed up. Im depressed. I don’t know what to do. I’ve had some tell me to confront him. I’ve had some tell me to seek advice from a priest in another community, I’ve had people tell me to go directly to the Archdiocese and make a formal complaint because where others are fusturated with him too and I’ve had some tell me to go find another church that appreciates me.
I’m lost and don’t know what to do.
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In the end, though, these are really your only options. I would not go to the Archdiocese without speaking to the priest first, a calm conversation while both of you are sitting down and with distractions kept to a minimum (you may need to make an appointment for this). Even if the outcome of this conversation is unsatisfactory, I don’t know what the Archdiocese could do about it since the parish priest has the authority to make these decisions. In other words, he isn’t breaking any (Canon) laws.