Feeling sad, lonely, overwhelmed, worried, anxious,etc

[cecilia97]

Thank you everyone for your kind words and comforting thoughts. As I read them the tears stream down my face, I know I’m not alone, there are many people in my situation or worse yet and I feel horrible for even bringing this up and complaining about my situation.

I wondered a long time ago when I was going to “lose it” I knew I couldn’t have gotten over everything so easily. I realized, not too long ago, that I’ve been on “survival mode” God and the Blessed Mother got me through and helped me survive my situation, but I’ve never really dealt with what happened.

It finally hit me one day that ds and I were “replaced” we meant nothing to him. He just went out and found another woman and had another kid and presto he was done. How can someone who claims to love you so much trade you in like nothing. I tell myself that he’s the one with the problem and that I am a good wife and will be again…but I really don’t believe it. Down deep I wonder what I did…that we were, obviously, not good enough for him so how could we possibly be good enough for anyone else?

I’m sorry for going on and on…I hate feeling this way…I think I’m just tired of worrying all the time. Sometimes I wish I could just disappear.

Lexee…forgive me for not knowing, but have you seen someone for individual counseling? Divorce does a steam roller over your self-esteem and your statements are so familiar to me. I recently did a year with a great Christian counselor and it has improved every area of my life!

This book, suggested by my counselor, was SO helpful:

amazon.com/Rebuilding-Relationship-Books-Divorce-Beyond/dp/188623017X

 

[allhers]

Praying for you, Lexee. You are never a burden here at CAF. Please continue to vent all you need…it’s healthy.

My own situation seems easy compared to yours since I don’t have children from my marriage and I no longer have to deal with lawyers (thank you, God!), but I know just what you mean about things around the house that you need a man to do. Frankly, I LOVE being single again and only miss marriage when 1) something heavy needs lifting and 2) I want to cook a big dinner. My solution…invite a male friend over to lift the stuff and cook him dinner. Problem solved! Did I make you laugh?

It will get better. Learn to lean on others, for the sake of your sanity. Yes, God does not intend people to parent alone…you can fill the gaps with friends, family, counselors, etc. That’s part of the communion of saints. Ask your family in Christ to help you. You may be amazed to learn it’s not a burden at all…but a blessing for many who love to help.

You sure made me laugh, I was thinking, “Now why didn’t I think of that before I got married”?
(Continued prayers for you and your little ones lexee.)