Feeling Scared and hopeless

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Okay this is the whole story and I apologize that it’s lengthy. I’ve been struggling grade wise since I’ve started at Desales. This semester in particular has really been a struggle for me. I have this one teacher for two classes who gives horrible lectures, vague notes and expects us to memorize every single detail. His tests in particular are really challenging. Everyone that I’ve talked to agrees with me and a lot of people are really having a hard time with it. People complain and yet he doesn’t change. My advisor says the department is aware of how low the average is in his classes but it’s not enough to do anything about it. That doesn’t seem fair. He’s got more classes next semester. I refuse to put myself through that again. It seems as though he really enjoys seeing us fail. When I asked him for help, all he said was just memorize everything. Memorizing is really hard when it’s every single little thing.

So now I took one of his finals yesterday. I know I did not do well. And this was the class I was struggling with more. If I somehow get through this class with at least a C-, I’ll be thrilled. I have one more final with him on Friday. I need to get through this.

What’s even worse is that my mom doesn’t seem to think that I am actually working hard. I am. She has no idea how hard I’ve worked. She doesn’t care that its him and not me. I know it’s wrong to blame the teacher but in this case, everyone is blaming the teacher.

At this point, I really don’t know what else to do. I am so scared. If it’s God’s will for me to stay here at Desales, then I really need a miracle. I feel like I have no future. I can’t see what my future is supposed to be and that’s really worrying me. I feel like I am not meant for college. I’m not smart enough for it.

Please pray for me. I really think this is a hopeless case though. :cry:
 
I promise you, you DO have a future. Just have faith in God’s will, and pray that His will be done.

I am praying for you!
 
First of all, don’t ever put yourself down. OK? Everyone is as smart as they come ok?? No one person is dumb or stupid… I went thru college and I know how hard it is. I had one teacher that was so outdated that he was actually hard too. Finally, at the end of the semester, he was forced to retired. So, if everyone in your class would sign a petition, and each one of you make an appointment to speak with the Dean of the college, Then the Dean as well as the faculty chair will see the problem is with him and not you guys. The world is different nowadays and technology is ever-evolving. So, teachers need to keep pace or they will lose their students and possibly their job too. I hope this helps.
 
Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
I’ve been on the same boat as you. Three of my classes during my second semester each had professors who didn’t give good enough lectures for the material and therefore made the material difficult to understand. Luckily, I passed the classes with a C+ in each.
Don’t think that you do not belong in college because of a difficult class, or beat your self up for that matter. I wanted to give up during that awfull semester. However, the one thing that kept me going was praying everyday for guidance, be it a daily rosary, praying to jesus, etc.
My advice to you is to pray for the strength to do the best you can and that your oter classmates do well as well. I wish you all the luck in the world.

Our Father, Who art in heaven
Hallowed be Thy Name;
Thy kingdom come,
Thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil. Amen.
 
You are in my prayers.

However, I must ask…are his notes/lectures/exams from the text or from outside sources? Have you spoken with him about guidance/pointers he can offer, without doing so as though complaining to him? Will he allow you to record the lectures?

I truly understand your feelings of hopelessness, I have been there, and in turn I am sure that I have had students that were there also.

Keep your faith in God (Father, Son, and Holy Spirit), pray, as I will also keep you in my prayers.
 
You have a future and a bright one. I don’t know if it is at your present college or not. Do you have any idea how many people in the world would give anything to trade places with you? To be young, to have a life full of options, and to have an active Faith?
 
Eternal God , in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhastible ,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us ,
that in difficult moments we might not despair
nor become despondent , but with great confidence ,
submit ourselves to Your Holy Will ,
which is love and mercy itself . Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Lord Jesus, You were often misunderstood, and often encountered persons who made Your life and mission more difficult. Please mercifully grant Ally’s prayers for better teaching and guidance, and for understanding and wise action of others, as she and her classmates prepare for a hopeful and fulfilling future.
 
Thank you all for your prayers. The worst thing is that he is one of the Oblates here at the school so that makes it even harder to teach. Most of the Oblates do teach so having him here without teaching would be kind of weird. He really needs to learn how to teach. He just enjoys watching his students fail. Personally, I would be embarrassed if my classes had the lowest averages in the whole department.
 
Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
Hail Mary, full of grace,
the Lord is with Thee.
Blessed art Thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of Thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.
Amen.
 
AllyC1991 said:
Okay this is the whole story and I apologize that it’s lengthy. I’ve been struggling grade wise since I’ve started at Desales. This semester in particular has really been a struggle for me. I have this one teacher for two classes who gives horrible lectures, vague notes and expects us to memorize every single detail. His tests in particular are really challenging. Everyone that I’ve talked to agrees with me and a lot of people are really having a hard time with it. People complain and yet he doesn’t change. My advisor says the department is aware of how low the average is in his classes but it’s not enough to do anything about it. That doesn’t seem fair. He’s got more classes next semester. I refuse to put myself through that again. It seems as though he really enjoys seeing us fail. When I asked him for help, all he said was just memorize everything. Memorizing is really hard when it’s every single little thing.

So now I took one of his finals yesterday. I know I did not do well. And this was the class I was struggling with more. If I somehow get through this class with at least a C-, I’ll be thrilled. I have one more final with him on Friday. I need to get through this.

What’s even worse is that my mom doesn’t seem to think that I am actually working hard. I am. She has no idea how hard I’ve worked. She doesn’t care that its him and not me. I know it’s wrong to blame the teacher but in this case, everyone is blaming the teacher.

At this point, I really don’t know what else to do. I am so scared. If it’s God’s will for me to stay here at Desales, then I really need a miracle. I feel like I have no future. I can’t see what my future is supposed to be and that’s really worrying me. I feel like I am not meant for college. I’m not smart enough for it.

Please pray for me. I really think this is a hopeless case though. :cry:
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Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning is now ever shall be world without end
Amen
 
Eternal God , in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhastible ,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us ,
that in difficult moments we might not despair
nor become despondent , but with great confidence ,
submit ourselves to Your Holy Will ,
which is love and mercy itself . Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
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