Feeling unwanted and embarrassed

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Please pray. I feel like most people don’t get what I mean when I speak and I feel much embarrassed when I try to explain something and no one gets me (with other people around). I feel so less of myself when that happens. For example, I got really frustrated with my music instructor when I just wanted to verify if I had to pay a service fee for adjusting my guitar. She kept saying “what?” And it made me feel so stupid as if I didn’t know what I was saying. It made me feel even worse knowing other people were around and I thought “my, they may think I’m dumb.” It makes me feel even more unwanted around there. Please pray for me so that people can get what I’m trying to say.

P.S. Is being super sure about something all that bad?
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is
the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners,
now, and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
Holy Michael the Archangel defend us in the day of battle.
Be our safeguard against the wickedness and snares of the devil.
May God rebuke him, we humbly pray,
and do Thou, O Prince of the Heavenly Host,
by the Power of God,
thrust down to hell satan and all the wicked spirits,
who wander through the world for the ruin of souls.
Amen.

Remember, O most loving Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession and was left forsaken. Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you I come, before you I stand, a sorrowful sinner. Despise not my words, O Mother of the Word, but in your mercy, hear and answer me.
Amen
 
Personally I think you need to go to “assertive classes” I often find some people with strong personalities can be more than unkind to shy people, you have to learn to stand up for yourself and then say a prayer for the person.

That is my advice for what its worth.
 
do not be so concerned with other peoples thoughts and know that your heavenly father loves you!

Our father who art in heaven
Hallowed be thy name
Thy kingdom come Thy will be done
on earth as it is in Heaven
give us this day our daily bread and forgive us
our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us
lead us not into temptation
but deliver us from evil
 
Eternal God , in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhastible ,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us ,
that in difficult moments we might not despair
nor become despondent , but with great confidence ,
submit ourselves to Your Holy Will ,
which is love and mercy itself . Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
I used to make myself sick worrying about what other people thought of me. I finally realized one day that it doesn’t matter what anyone think of me. If they have a problem with me it’s their problem to deal with not mine :). God loves you and not matter what you do or say changes the strength of His love. When you are in a situation of uncomfortableness or insecurity just remind yourself that God’s love is enough. It helped me and I hope it helps you!
 
If it’s the case that your instructor tuned your instrument and you wondered if you would be charged for that, the instructor probably had never been asked that question before as it would be considered a natural part of the lesson. However, the instructor was slow or annoyed by the question about something usually ‘taken for granted’. You are far from the only person who is more sensitive about issues and who sometimes seems out of step with others. You have the right to be who you are and no one should make you uncomfortable. Please don’t dwell on it and let it continue to hurt you. I have a sister who would possibly say similar things to you and often has been a little out of tune with others, and she’s a wonderful person. She was hurt may times, but she has become more confident. God grant you will also.

Dear Lord we don’t all think in the same way, and some of us are more uncertain and anxious than others.
Please bless persons like this member who are anxious about the right thing to do and thus may say or ask that something that others consider unnecessary.
Help these others to respond with respect and kindness, not attempting to ‘show them up’ for asking questions or making statements others wouldn’t bother to make.
Bless this person with healing and peace
 
Some people are so rushed with so many things to do that they don’t take the time to be pleasant when they should and treat people with respect as they should. They brush people off as unimportant. Try not to get into the feelings or emotions of it. As long as this person is a great music teacher and you are learning what you need to learn, do not take it as a personal attack. Remember that she is there just to teach, not to make everyone feel warm and fuzzy. Should she behave better? Yes. Will she behave better? Maybe, maybe not. I would just go to class, take instruction, and leave. Praying that all will become better for you. You deserve it and no less.
 
I love what St. Bonaventure says in his writings about the gifts of the Holy Spirit, this below he is talking about Wisdom:

You appreciate the affluence of riches, and Christ chose poverty; you appreciate the experience of sensual delectations, and Christ chose the sharpness of the Passion; you appreciate the ambition of secular ostentation, and Christ wanted to be despised and emptied [consfusus].

Don’t worry what other people think about you…its better to be a bumbling idiot and be with Christ than to be liked by all and not have Him.
 
Being sure about something is not a bad thing.

I have to assume that your instructors tone, when replying to you, may have been rather sarcastic? Sort of to imply that your question was “dumb.” Is that why she kept saying “What.”

In a case like this you could raise your voice a bit, and state very clearly: “Gee, I am sorry you can’t hear me so well.” I was wondering if there was a fee for …your guitar issue?

I guess I am trying to tell you to relax and little and worry less. Think about what you want to say in advance if possible, and even at the moment how you want to say or ask something. Take your time, and for a show of confidence, unless it is a very private topic, speak with certainty and at a volume that allows others to hear your question. Who knows, maybe someone else has the same question.

In cases were people are dismissive or rude, you may have to come up with your own preplanned replies. Here are a couple of mine:
  1. IF it appears I am being ignored or dismissed: I state clearly: “Excuse me, but I don’t think you understood my question. I would like to restate it again, so you can provide me with an answer.”
  2. The WHAT question: Try the "I am sorry you must not have heard me.’ line. Or: Oh I am sorry you did not understand my question, can I try to ask about this in another way or is there some way I can clarify this issue for you?
Another words, put the lack of knowledge, not hearing, ignoring you back on them. Make them pay attention, even in a meeting or group so that they find it harder to dismiss you. Your questions are fine, their response is not.
 
:gopray:

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning is now ever shall be world without end
Amen.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To thee do I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

:signofcross:
 
Jesus our Lord, I trust in you, and place this person’s
intentions in your most sacred heart. Please grant this person
the comfort of your love, healing and inner peace as well as
strength and courage

Our Father who art in heaven
Hallowed be your name
Thy kingdom come
Thy will be done
On earth as it is in heaven
Give us this day our daily bread
And forgive us our trespasses
As we forgive those who trespass against us
Lead us not into temptation
But deliver us from evil
Amen.
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
oremosjuntos said:
Please pray. I feel like most people don’t get what I mean when I speak and I feel much embarrassed when I try to explain something and no one gets me (with other people around). I feel so less of myself when that happens. For example, I got really frustrated with my music instructor when I just wanted to verify if I had to pay a service fee for adjusting my guitar. She kept saying “what?” And it made me feel so stupid as if I didn’t know what I was saying. It made me feel even worse knowing other people were around and I thought “my, they may think I’m dumb.” It makes me feel even more unwanted around there. Please pray for me so that people can get what I’m trying to say.

P.S. Is being super sure about something all that bad?
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Praying for you.
 
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Strong feelings of embarrassment and anxiety for some people, even when in what others would consider simple social settings, can be very overwhelming , and even to the point of becoming disabling. I do understasnd. I hope this site gives you a starting place for help. There are treatments available, don’t hesitate to seek them out, it can change your life for the better.

God bless you 😁🙂
 
Eternal God , in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhastible ,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us ,
that in difficult moments we might not despair
nor become despondent , but with great confidence ,
submit ourselves to Your Holy Will ,
which is love and mercy itself . Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me Amen
 
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