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Seagull
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Remember that little guy who wanted to see Jesus go by …
and he didn’t give up, but climbed up a Sycamore tree -
and he didn’t give up, but climbed up a Sycamore tree -
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Theo2
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If you try to actively like them, it will be impossible for them to keep ignoring you. Smile, laugh at their jokes nod your head and be interested in everything they say. The truth is most people do not know how to welcome strangers.
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ykme20
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But what am I supposed to do exactly, is my actual question. To give you a background info. I’m a coptic Egyptian catholic from Egypt, and I have lived there for most of my life, I was always a shy and scared kid, because if people knew my faith, than I could get beaten up or worse. My teachers discriminated against me, because of my faith, and it wasn’t really good childhood. There were good moments with my family sure, but with society not so much.
When I came to the States, and became naturalized, I actually changed and became better. However, I always had that anxiety of mine, and I noticed that I started to regress back into hiding my faith, because of the new political climate. That’s why I seeked them out, because I don’t to go through that, and I don’t want to be a coward. Though the whole thing is still new to me, like if someone wants to have a conversation with me about history or religion or politics. I can talk for hours, but when it comes to commonsense everyday things, I just meet a brick wall.
My group with the KOC are much older than me, and I always felt the odd one out, there were more complications, but it wasn’t like the group that I’m dealing with today. You might say, that I’m trying to claim the things that I couldn’t experience when I was a child. That’s just the jist of it.
When I came to the States, and became naturalized, I actually changed and became better. However, I always had that anxiety of mine, and I noticed that I started to regress back into hiding my faith, because of the new political climate. That’s why I seeked them out, because I don’t to go through that, and I don’t want to be a coward. Though the whole thing is still new to me, like if someone wants to have a conversation with me about history or religion or politics. I can talk for hours, but when it comes to commonsense everyday things, I just meet a brick wall.
My group with the KOC are much older than me, and I always felt the odd one out, there were more complications, but it wasn’t like the group that I’m dealing with today. You might say, that I’m trying to claim the things that I couldn’t experience when I was a child. That’s just the jist of it.
Tis_Bearself
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Don’t believe the hype. You have nothing to fear. I bet your new peers will be interested in hearing your background once they get comfortable with you. They might even think you are pretty heroic.However, I always had that anxiety of mine, and I noticed that I started to regress back into hiding my faith, because of the new political climate.
Like I said, ask them questions. Get them to talk about themselves. People like to talk about themselves and it eases the conversational burden on you.
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ykme20
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Yeah, you’re right, but I don’t know about the not beliving in the hype though. Because, at my college most people were very anti christian, and supporting the things that are happening in the middle east. Honestly, I do get something akin to anxiety attacks, like if I talk about my past or about myself (I usually get chest pains). I start getting a little emotional, so I always try to redirect the topic about them, then all I hear is crickets. I’m not too skilled with keeping up small talk.
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TheOldColonel
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Keep trying. Keep coming back and they’ll get used to seeing you. You might also consider volunteering as an altar server. That’s a great way to make new friends. Discuss that with your parents. Your pastor can also tell you about the ministry.
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margaret42
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Don’t try to fit in; but if you don’t feel welcomed, than maybe you’re in the wrong group. Check around perhaps for other church activities or perhaps ways to help in hospital ministry.
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1ke
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If ever there was one thing that killed more opportunities than anything else it is our own imagination. I’ve seen on here countless times that people “looked at me funny…” or “I had the sense of…” or “they were avoiding me…” when all of this was inside the person who was posting’s head. This is in your head. This is YOUR issue of feeling inadequate or socially awkward or what-have-you.I had a sense of them wanting to avoid me, so I got depressed, and I’m not sure if I should even attempt to make friends.
It takes effort to make new friends. You will meet many people and you will hit it off with a few. It may take a while to find people with whom you feel comfortable or have things in common outside of Church.
If you are anxious in social situations in general, work on that with a counselor.
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dochawk
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volunteer to make or coordinate the calls/contacts/emails/texts/skywriting before events.I’m also part of knight’s of Columbus, but the knights never inform me of any event to do. I’m not sure why.
In most councils, that’s on autopilot.
It’s also hard to not know about upcoming events if you go to the meetings . . .
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