Feeling very sad; can you help?

[maryanthony]

Hi, am a Catholic convert from Hinduism, i am a doctor preparing for my higher studies, i ve been in a couple of bad relationships n i ve been very hurt, i ve been praying for a good husband but all d guys whom i knew only wanted to get close to me physically. I feel abandoned by Mother Mary and i am struggling to achieve acadamically too. Is it wrong for me to wish liie any other girl to have a guy to love? Now my heart is so broken that I never want to be in a relationship again.
But why does God keep sending these wrong guys in my life?
I came to US few months back to write an exam, and a guy who i came to know on a study forum was helping me with d exam, after d first exam i had to write another exam and do a rotation in a university. But after my first exam this guy n me were speaking on skype and I thought he loved me and he went on to speak dirty things to me, i prayed the rosary for help that time to overcome d temptation not to speak wid dat guy but i couldn’t and i continued speaking wid him,Y dint Mother Mary help me dat time wen i prayed and asked for help? I was so disturbed by all dat he spoke to me, but i never met him. We used to chat for long hours on skype and also he told he will help me with the other exam so I continued speaking to him.
I have been very hurt, this is the 5th time my heart is been broken. Am still a virgin, am thankful that God protected me from losing my virginity wid any wrong guy but why can’t God also protect me from Guys who will hurt me emotionally, i gradually started liking dis guy and i thought i can change him into a good person now i realised dat he was close wid another gurl d whole time and meanwhile i was so disturbed, i couldn’t write d other exam and dint attend d rotation in d university that i was supposed to and this cost me 1350$ and ihad to return back to India. I feel like a terrible loser, i want a Spiritual director to help me. I keep blaming God and myself and I have just a month left for another very big exam in my life. I am feeling so hurt that my prayers are not being answered. Pls someone reply to my post and console me, pls i have no one to turn to

 

[Fr.Vincent_Serpa]

Hi,

God and our Lady have not let you down. You are very educated in medicine, but very naïve about yourself and the world we live in.

You seem surprised that the acquaintances that you have made on the internet have been disasters. Think about it; all that you know about them is what they choose to tell you. You are smart enough to know better. You seem so lonely that you have lost perspective. Before focusing on someone to date, you need to deal with your loneliness and belong to a community. You need friends of both sexes. Dating is not a remedy for loneliness. Once you feel good about yourself, then and only then, are you ready for a serious relationship.

I don’t know that you need a spiritual director so much as wise woman who could act as a mentor and friend. Ask the Lord for such a person. Check with you your diocese to learn where there are ministries to young adults. You are in our prayers. Feel free to write me privately by clicking on my name above.

Fr. Vincent Serpa, O.P.