The human race has advanced so much (physcially and mentally) that I think the notion of women and men having separate roles to play in life is not accurate anymore. True, biology holds that the woman must carry the baby (for now at least–I could see some technological advance coming along to allow men’s bodies to harbor babies). But really, what does biology have to do with women becoming priests?
I never really questioned this aspect of Catholicism before, being a cradle Catholic. But lately I’ve been trying to figure out a logical way to tell my daughter (if she ever asks) why she isn’t allowed to become a priest. It breaks my heart to think that she might get the impression that women are somehow less capable than men because the Catholic Church deems it so. What else will she start thinking she shouldn’t do in life? I don’t want to raise my daughter in a faith that tolerates such pettiness. And why, for what? Just because it’s tradition and that’s how it’s always been?
I do see where you are coming from. I really do! My own mother, a devout Catholic, held a similar belief that women should be ordained, for many years. It wasn’t until she saw the damage to my femininity that she is starting to look further into her previous belief. Do question it! Look at it from all angles. Shine a light on it, and don’t just accept, “Because the Church says so,” as an explanation.
The phrase by Fr. Corapi is a good place to start, “Men and women are equal in dignity, but not the same.” What does equality really mean if it is just interchanged with “the same?” Why are we made as male and female? What is the real meaning of masculine and feminine? Is the ability to impregnate and be impregnated really that variable or random? Is there really a difference between men and women in our very souls? Is your daughter’s very soul feminine? If so what does that mean to every part of how she interacts with her world?
One of the things at the very heart of this question is really about our sexuality. No matter what I do, I am a woman doing it. I am a human doing it. None of those two things ever change. I can roll around on the floor and wrestle with my son, yet I am still his mother. Nothing I do or say will change that. My husband can nurture him all he can, but he is still his father. No one would deny that. But
how a woman wrestles and
how a man nurtures are
not the same. We may nurture equally, but no matter what it will never be the same.
What I found, in my own life, is that having a mom who believed women could be priests played a part in misunderstanding my own femininity. It made me fight to be the same as men, instead of just making sure we were always equal. Since beginning my very long study into “Theology of the Body” around 1993 my self respect has improved. Not only do I appreciate who God made me, but I have a deeper appreciation for men too. I no longer attempt to compete with them. Instead I am able to appreciate their strengths as men. My appreciation for other women has grown too. I am not as catty as a was, and I find I have deeper friendships than I used to.
Most importantly, I have found that my relationship with God is better. As I have understood more deeply what it means that He is Father, not mother, has helped me to be more receptive in what He is giving me.
I hope that helps.