Feminine little boy

[Pete2]

Flounder:

I don’t understand…if his only siblilng is a brother, where are these dresses you said he likes to wear coming from? Or these girl toys? Who thought it was “cute at first,” and may have reinforced the whole thing?

yes, this was my thought as well. Most 3 year olds don’t shop for their own clothes, so there is something going on here…

 

[Peace-bwu]

kaymart:

I think people are reading to much into this. Little boys and girls pretend play. A girl who pretends she’s “Batman” more then likely not become a lesbian, just as a little boy pretending to be “Dora the explorer” will not become gay. Children are sweet and innocent at this age. It’s just play.

when I was a little girl I related more to boys because i liked the activity. I hated Barbie, with a passion. I loved Batman and the Incredible Hulk and was so upset that they didn’t make bat man or incredible hulk under-roos for little girls. I didnt like wonderwoman. I wanted nothing to do with feminine heroines who were sexually attractive (I was offended at an early age, LOL) I loved the Bad News Bears and Herbie the love bug (so excited they are coming back out) I have never once had lesbian tendancies and I am feminine, but I still am not attracted to Barbie or wonderwoman or Daisy Duke (I refuesed to watch Dukes of Hazzard because of her) I liked all this because they guys were having FUN, the girls were all just kind of catting around using their sexuality and I picked up on this early. It didn’t mean I thought I was a boy, I just liked the traits these characters had. A lot of times boys are curious about feminine things because they think their mommys are pretty amazing! They just need to make sure he has plenty of opportunities to go out and run and play and get dirty and relate to his dad, grandpa or uncles, so that he can relate to them as a boy. I hope they won’t make the poor kid feel bad.

 

[Peace-bwu]

Fitz:

I am a preschool teacher and I have one suggestion that hasn’t been voiced yet. Get a box of boy dress up clothes and he will gravitate to them I would bet. Put in an old suit jacket of dad’s, cowboy boots, hats and caps of all sorts, uniforms from teams, fireman hat and coat and boots, etc. Boys love to play dress up just as much as girls and sometimes the only reason they try on the girl things is that there is not enough selection of more traditional boy items in the stash. Mind you, I think girls will like some of those items too, but if you are worried about the dress up with girls clothes, then they could disappear.

Like many have said, this is not necessarily a concern at this early of an age.

I agree, we have both boy and girl dress up clothes, the main thing is to make sure the boys have a good variety!

 

[Peace-bwu]

BenRosa:

Kage…that is great.

Unfortunetly, this little guy has been like this for about nine months…and it appears to be getting more pronounced with each time we see him. I can’t believe it’s from the nurturiing of this good Catholic family…seems like it’s “in the genes” which leads to the great debate on the origins of homosexuality…

Are you a parent? My son likes to wear jewelery and wanted me to paint his nails with polish (we didn’t ) but it wasnt’ because he is showing gay tendencies, it was because human beings are attracted to pretty things, why do you think girls wear this stuff in the first place? I guess your comment makes me wonder whether you have had much experience at parenting? Nine months is not all that long. When boys do this at a young age it’s usually because they have alot of respect for their mothers, or think their mommies are pretty, it doesn’ mean that he has “gay genes” or something.

 

[buffalo]

Bringing Up Boys

 

[BenRosa]

Flounder:

I don’t understand…if his only siblilng is a brother, where are these dresses you said he likes to wear coming from? Or these girl toys? Who thought it was “cute at first,” and may have reinforced the whole thing?

Yes, to clarify that point…while the little guy was visiting us, he was using our little girl’s clothing. While at his home, no, I don’t believe he has access to child’s dresses.

But I’m tending (and hoping) that as some posters above have repeatedly pointed-out, this may just be a phase. It’s just that we’ve never seen it this pronounced before.

 

[buffalo]

BenRosa:

Yes, to clarify that point…while the little guy was visiting us, he was using our little girl’s clothing. While at his home, no, I don’t believe he has access to child’s dresses.

But I’m tending (and hoping) that as some posters above have repeatedly pointed-out, this may just be a phase. It’s just that we’ve never seen it this pronounced before.

It could be a phase, but the boy’s father needs to get involved and do boy things with him.