Fighting... Mortal Sin?

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This is the letter I sent my pastor. I got into a fight today and I havent gotten a response from him yet. Can someone tell me if I committed a mortal sin and should schedule a confession for this. Thanks:

I am sorry to bother you but I think I may have fallen into mortal sin and may need to make an appointment for a quick confession. Here is what happened:

About an hour ago, my brother told my parents that he smelled alcohol on me and that I had been drinking. My dad said I hadnt and my mom made me blow in her face. She said I didnt smell like it and my brother started freaking out saying it was obvious I was drinking. This is the same brother who we have been having problems with recently. Anyway, he started saying rude things about me and yelling about me to them. Saying stuff like, “look at him, he is obviously drunk.” After a few minutes of this, I told him to shut up or something and he came up to me and I got upset and got in his face a bit and yelled at him to mind his own business. That is when he pushed me. Without thinking I pushed him back. He proceeded to swing at me several times and hit me in the face with his fist.

At this point, I remember thinking to myself that I would be sinning if I continued to fight with him, and up til that time, I had only been pushing him back from me. But then he hit me in the face a second time and I threw him down and took a couple swings at him, and although I didnt hit him good, I accidentally hit my mom in the side.

After that I stopped and walked away from him a bit and my dad got in between us, but he still wanted to fight me and he tried to get at me around my parents. I walked a few feet away from it and after a while my dad made him go out of the room and he left saying: “This isnt the end of this”. I was angry at this point because I havent had a drink in almost two years and even if my parents believed me I would never hear the end of it from my brother. I felt as if I had been slandered and so I asked to be taken up to the police station to take a breathalizer.

So, my dad drove me up there and I blew in the breathalizer and blew all 000’s. Meaning I had no alcohol in my system. I came home and after my parents told my brother what happened at the police department, he apologized to me and gave me a hug. I said I forgave him and hugged him back but I am still pissed at him, and while I forgive him, I don’t really like him right now.

My main concern right now is wanting to know if I am in mortal sin. Because I realized I was sinning during the fight, it seems I had full knowledge and I gave consent. So if this was grave matter, I would be in mortal sin. If so, do you reccomend I make a confession appointment? This would be the only thing I have to confess as I just went to confession yesterday.
 
You can talk to the priest about it at your next confession if you are bothered by your actions, but it sounds like self defense to me. Tell your brother that you love him and you are sorry for any part that you may have been responsible for in your past disagreements. These things are all a normal part of life. God understands. Say a few extra prayers this week for all the people who are involved in family conflict. Be at peace.

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Agree with TLM08…also remember that we are to love on another, but that doesn’t mean we’re always going to like each other.

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
The tongue of the wise dispenses knowledge, but the mouths of fools pour out folly.

Proverbs 15: 1-2

Your brother poured out a heap of folly and stirred up some anger. Pray for him that he finds the peace he needs and is probably looking for. If he’s anything like my siblings were, he’s likely just baiting you for whatever reason. The trick is to learn not to take the bait.

 
Sounds as if you and your brother both need to mature, grow up and not act like 8 year olds.

Speak to your Priest in confession about this.
 
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