Filled with so much guilt and anger

[AmyS]

That’s easier said than done. And I have not lost my way to where I have lost faith… I think that if you were to ask others how they would feel if a loved ones body was put away for months in a morgue and forgotten…I am pretty sure that the majority would be horrified and very angry.

I also think you have not taken into account the fact that it has only been a little over a month since I was informed of my father’s death. There are too many other variables that you are not aware of that I will not get into that doesn’t make my situation so black and white. Unless you have been in a similar situation as mine I think it is 100% human that I feel anger over the fact that there was no respect shown for the dead body of my father.

Thank you for your post.

God bless

I can’t relate in anyway to how you are feeling, or what you are dealing with… I don’t thing anyone can unless they are you. I do not think it would be a bad idea to go and talk to someone, even if only a few times. They are there to give you the “tools” to deal with your grief. I know it is all a natural part of the grieving process (it is called a process for a reason), but, you want to make sure you are dealing with it in a healthy way. I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you!

 

[SORROWS]

I would talk to a priest. I can’t count the number of times I have been so desperate or angered by others that I can’t think straight, and by going to see a priest, their words of wisdom have helped me and changed the path I was headed.

We have outstanding priests in all the parishes in my town and I always go in with an attitude of …“I will accept what this holy man says and think if God would agree…” Somehow God always agreed because all my despair and anger disipates.

I am sorry that this has happened to you and your family. May God give you peace.

 

[PazFeAmor]

I have been in a simular situation as yours. My best friends mother whom was like my mother bled to death while she was in the hospital.

Your right, it is 100% human to feel anger. What I’m trying to tell you is that you need to recognize that anger and not let it consume you.Yes, I think it was morally wrong what they did to your father, but are you truley going to be satisfied in taking these people to court. Do you really think that will bring your father to be at peace?

Or is this all for you, so you can be at peace with your self?

You really, really need to see a grief counsler,

You came on here asking for advise we have given it to you, but still your anger and guilt, as mentioned previously, has caused you to not see the truth.

Read the quote at the bottom of this reply?

I will be praying for you.

God bless all you do in the name of Jesus!

I think that you have missed various things that I have posted (which happens alot on forums when sometimes one will skim through paragraphs…I know that I have done so at times). I have stated that I want those responsible punished by law for what happened to my father so that this does not happen to another family at this hospital. I am not doing this so my father will rest in peace… nor am I doing it to ease my conscience.

As I said to you in my previous post…there are many variables that you are not aware of and that would take me too long to explain and that I really don’t have the energy to list them all so I will write out one more detail one this situation…

In addition to the negligence my father had his valuables stolen…the assistant prosecutor in my father’s robbery case said there have been other cases of stolen valuables of other patients totaling close to $5,000 Do you really think that what happened to my father is something I should just let go and that another family have the same thing happen to them?

I am sorry but I can’t for the life of me see the rationality of letting go something so serious and not try my hardest to expose what happened in the hospital and have those responsible punished by the law.

And I repeat for the last time… **it has not been more than a month since I got the news of my father having died. ** If 6 months or a year had passed and I was still in the same emotional condition then that would be a different matter.

Lastly, I didn’t ask for advice but said in my original post “Please pray for my father’s soul and thanks for letting me vent.” But I know that on forums there will always be opinions even on VENTING posts… which is normal.

Thanks and God bless

 

[PazFeAmor]

I can’t relate in anyway to how you are feeling, or what you are dealing with… I don’t thing anyone can unless they are you. I do not think it would be a bad idea to go and talk to someone, even if only a few times. They are there to give you the “tools” to deal with your grief. I know it is all a natural part of the grieving process (it is called a process for a reason), but, you want to make sure you are dealing with it in a healthy way. I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you!

I am talking with someone…but you can’t have access 24/7 to someone who can listen to your vents… The only one that I can vent to like that is GOD but right now the emotions don’t let me be still and let God heal me.

Thank you for your prayers. God bless

 

[PazFeAmor]

I would talk to a priest. I can’t count the number of times I have been so desperate or angered by others that I can’t think straight, and by going to see a priest, their words of wisdom have helped me and changed the path I was headed.

We have outstanding priests in all the parishes in my town and I always go in with an attitude of …“I will accept what this holy man says and think if God would agree…” Somehow God always agreed because all my despair and anger disipates.

I am sorry that this has happened to you and your family. May God give you peace.

I don’t have a priest that I can talk in confidence to but I am seeing my therapist who I have gone to in the past for my depression and letting it all out but like I posted before I don’t have the therapist 24/7 to vent to and so I let some of it out here on CAF.

Thanks for posting and God’s peace to you as well.

 

[forgiveall]

[SIGN]In addition to the negligence my father had his valuables stolen…the assistant prosecutor in my father’s robbery case said there have been other cases of stolen valuables of other patients totaling close to $5,000 Do you really think that what happened to my father is something I should just let go and that another family have the same thing happen to them?[/SIGN]

If the prosecutor mention that there had been other case before then why wasn’t the Hospital exposed during those other cases?

It doesn’t make sense?

 

[PazFeAmor]

[SIGN]In addition to the negligence my father had his valuables stolen…the assistant prosecutor in my father’s robbery case said there have been other cases of stolen valuables of other patients totaling close to $5,000 Do you really think that what happened to my father is something I should just let go and that another family have the same thing happen to them?[/SIGN]

If the prosecutor mention that there had been other case before then why wasn’t the Hospital exposed during those other cases?

It doesn’t make sense?

My father’s stolen valuables and that of other patients total close to $5000 It is part of the criminal case against two hospital employee’s who will soon go to trial May 22 and you will have to ask the police why this hasn’t been exposed and not me. This is a separate matter apart from the negligence and that is why I am AGAIN saying to you that there are too many variables in my situation that I don’t have the energy to get into.

Can you please just pray for my father. I really am not up to explaining anything else tonight. Goodnight.

God bless

 

[forgiveall]

I will pray for your father, but you are being very rude and arrogant!

I will post no more replies to your “venting”!

 

[PazFeAmor]

I will pray for your father, but you are being very rude and arrogant!

I will post no more replies to your “venting”!

I am rude and arrogant to say that I wish not explain anything else for tonight because I am tired emotionally? Thank you for respecting my grief and it is better that you not post anymore…plus, I will do one better and put you on ignore. God bless

 

[PazFeAmor]

I came to vent knowing that some would chime in not taking that into account but I posted the thread and brought this on myself and so I will just stay away from CAF completely and will put all my focus on making sure that what happened to my father doesn’t happen to another family at this hospital.

I could never presume to tell anyone when it was time to get over grieving for a loved one, say to a grieving person that a loved ones body is no longer needed and questioning my motives for wanting to hold those responsible for what happened through a court of law…etc

No one is in the position to give to someone they don’t even know personally such advice for something as sensitive as what was done to my dead father’s body. It is horrifying that a loved ones body that is the temple of God…as is all of our bodies… can be looked at as nothing. So when Christ comes again and all of our bodies are Resurrected will our bodies be nothing then? No, our bodies are sacred whether living or dead.

I am sorry that for some the Catholic teaching of the body being sacred and being the Temple of God does not resound as powerfully as it does in my heart.

I thank those of you who offered your prayers and kind words. Please continue to keep my father in your prayers.

God bless

 

[AmyS]

I am talking with someone…but you can’t have access 24/7 to someone who can listen to your vents… The only one that I can vent to like that is GOD but right now the emotions don’t let me be still and let God heal me.

Thank you for your prayers. God bless

That is good, I am glad to hear it. You will get there to where you can be still. There are points in grief where it seems almost unbearable. I promise you each day will bring you to a new place. Be patient with yourself. You are taking the right steps in getting there. Grief is a lifelong process.

 

[AmyS]

I came to vent knowing that some would chime in not taking that into account but I posted the thread and brought this on myself and so I will just stay away from CAF completely and will put all my focus on making sure that what happened to my father doesn’t happen to another family at this hospital.

I could never presume to tell anyone when it was time to get over grieving for a loved one, say to a grieving person that a loved ones body is no longer needed and questioning my motives for wanting to hold those responsible for what happened through a court of law…etc

No one is in the position to give to someone they don’t even know personally such advice for something as sensitive as what was done to my dead father’s body. It is horrifying that a loved ones body that is the temple of God…as is all of our bodies… can be looked at as nothing. So when Christ comes again and all of our bodies are Resurrected will our bodies be nothing then? No, our bodies are sacred whether living or dead.

I am sorry that for some the Catholic teaching of the body being sacred and being the Temple of God does not resound as powerfully as it does in my heart.

I thank those of you who offered your prayers and kind words. Please continue to keep my father in your prayers.

God bless

You hit is right on the nail. Some peopler really don’t know how to understand. They don’t mean not to, they just can’t.

 

[Trishie]

It’s good that you had a place to vent so that you could sort out a tiny part of your feelings and thoughts. Writing sometimes helps. You don’t have to stay away from CAF. It’s there, we’re there, if you need us. You’ve had an awful shock to deal with and it takes time to get over shock as well as grief. Take good care of yourself. Do nurture yourself in a least some little way.

God bless you, our sister,

Trishie