Finding a good Catholic spouse

[John_Augustine]

Oh, and be careful of the “Wal-mart” mentality of finding a good Catholic man – you know, where you want a line-up of a large selection you can browse through, and then pick out just the right size, color, price, style, etc. God has one man for you – and God will use your love and service of Him to bring the two of you together.

Quite right. I think the biggest danger is the assumption that God will send each of us a perfect spouse. It may very well be his will that we are given someone who is more of a… how shall I put this… a work in progress!

 

[moon1234]

Dredging up an old topic.

When I met my wife she not catholic, not spiritual was VERY attractive (to me anyway) and I loved spending time with her. As we dated she started going to Mass with me. When I proposed to her she was still no Catholic. I did make becoming a precondition though.

I did not pressure her. I asked her honestly if she wanted to become catholic. I did not want her to do it for me. She said she did. We drove 50 miles each way to see a Priest who was a friend of the family. For two years we had weekly instructions at his home. My wife received first communion from him, was instructed for confirmation by him and confirmed by the Bishop as an adult when the high school students were confirmed.

Please don’t limit yourself to only a select subset of people when looking for a spouse. Our Lord may want to use you to draw others to him. My wife, as a convert, knows more about her faith than many people I know who are cradle catholics.

That was my point with my comment about those who are waiting for the “perfect” person. It is like the have a checklist:

1. Must be catholic right off the bat Check
2. Must have no wierd personality traits. Check
3. Must have a good job. Check
4. etc.

If the person fails the check list then we toss up our hands and say “Ohh well, God will send me the right person” Sometimes you have to seek out what you want while having the wisdom to accept what is “just good enough.”

My wife and I have things about each other that annoying us to no end. We accept that part of our spouse and live with it. In many ways those differences give us different perspectives on life that can be beneficial.