Finding a TLM Parish - or at least a benign OF Parish?

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I have attended a few Latin Masses. I am interested in learning more. There is a strange familiarity to it, which does not make sense because I am in my early 40’s and was denied this Mass growing up. But it is also strange in some respects and difficult to fully appreciate everything that is occurring. I love how transcendent it is, with an orientation toward God, not humans. It seems that if you are oriented toward God, Jesus’ first command, you naturally will tend to follow the second. So, it seems to be properly ordered, rather than the improper inverse that I am quite aware of at some OF masses.

We have no TLM near us. I would stay in a nearby church that does the OF if I could find one nearby that was even just mediocre and played it straight. My two nearby options are, 1) go to a church that thinks it is its own mini-Magisterium, or 2) go to the one that dabbles in the New Age.

The church outside our doorstep has decent liturgy, but is often heterodox, with pastor and parish leaders very bitter about the Church, there is grievance-nurturing about the Church’s injustice to women, and very disrespectful of church authority. I have gotten so angry during homilies that I really wondered whether I was worthy to receive communion. But the parish is wealthy and overflowing and everyone seems to love the priest, in part, because I think he’s convinced them that the parish is an oasis of safety from the rest of that big, bad Church. This priest and leadership is the reason that I don’t send my kids to the Catholic School. This parish is associated with the school and I really don’t know how much of that bleeds into the school. I’d rather only have to filter what my kids get for one hour at religion class they are required to go to (if they are going to receive the Sacraments) than have to try to undo only God knows what they will hear at Catholic school all day, five days a week.

Then there is the other parish option a little further away. The priest is seemingly orthodox in his beliefs, his homilies are orthodox and inspiring, but the liturgy is very distracting. Guitars, altar girls in two-inch heels, a horseshoe configuration of pews in semi-circle around the altar. And despite the priest’s seeming orthodoxy, they used to have yoga on the calendar all the time (although that seems to have gone away) and they have centering pray Fr. Keating followers coming in (which I’m thoroughly convinced is dangerous), and they have Taize Prayer (which I have little knowledge about). Liturgical dance practice is on the calendar, but I’ve never seen it actually performed. So, yeah, it has got its issues too. Of the two, I’d rather go here where my kids won’t hear something contrary to doctrine or be exposed to bitterness, and I can just keep them away from the New Age stuff. But this is hardly satisfactory.

I am considering finding a parish that may be a long drive away and maybe even in another diocese. I don’t know yet if I’m allowed to do that or not, but I am considering looking into it. It will be a hugely inconvenient with religion classes and an overall large investment of time and effort – and I will have to get my wife on board. But the proper development of the faith of your children is no small thing. I know how bad it can be when you’re not properly formed. I went to Catholic school and university but, as I said, I’m in my early 40’s so I was born after V2 and was not taught my faith in school, and was actually taught to not believe when I attended a Benedictine university. I’ve learned the faith mostly from the internet and books beginning in my mid to late 30’s, and a huge supernatural push from the Holy Spirit (but that’s another story).

I imagine that if I had a parish that celebrated TLM, the issues of heterodoxy, contempt for authority, and New Age intrusion would be non-existent. So, I may look at trying to find a TLM parish.

I have a couple questions. Has anyone faced similar issues and how did you handle it? What about asking to have an FSSP priest come in? What is involved with that? I would be willing to start a blog in my area to see if there is enough interest, but I think my bishop would be resistant. Any ideas there?

No matter what we do, I definitely want to learn more about the Latin Mass. It is beautiful, mysterious, but I am just trying to stay where I’m supposed to be in the book. I would like to understand it more. I would like to find a user-friendly orientation to the Latin Mass that will break it down and help someone new to the Mass understand it. This would be good for me, but also for family members. Something on DVD, or video on the internet would be ideal.

Thank you for any help.
 
sometimes driving a long way to a TLM parish may just be worth it.
 
Where are you ?
Southern Illinois, out in the cornfields and suburbs of what is considered the greater St. Louis area. There are two TLM opportunities about an hour and a quarter round trip.

There is a TLM in little log church in our diocese in a town that used to be nice called Cahokia. The TLM is done in a little log church that appears to be (I’ve not been) about a stone’s throw from the main church. It looks like they start the EF in the log chapel and, one hour later, the OF is started in the main church, so the Masses will run consecutively at some point, I presume. The TLM is done by an Institute of Christ the King priest who visits. I don’t think the pastor was one of the many priests in our diocese who signed the letter a couple years back to try to get rid of the bishop, so that’s good. The TLM conflicts with the time of the kids’ religion classes unless we switched to that parish, in which event, I’m not sure.

There is a TLM at a beautiful old church in St. Louis. The Mass, also done by the Institute of Christ the King, is wonderful, but is in a neighborhood where you breathe a sigh of relief when you return to your car to see that it has not been broken into. I’m not sure what the parish community is like. I suspect that a lot of people drive from various places in the city to experience the Mass. I don’t know if the TLM there has created a more vibrant and faithful parish community or if the TLM attendees are just random folks from around the city looking for the liturgy. Frankly, I don’t know if I’m eligible to join a paish outside my diocese anyway. We cannot attend TLM there when our children’s religious classes are in session because the time conflicts.

I could just resign myself to continuing in a less than ideal situation. But, out of guidance of my conscience, I no longer give money to the parish in which I am currently enrolled. (I have contributed to the “Church” writ large by contributions to other entities such as Catholic Answers). I could just accept that the spiritual battle against the world includes resisting the corrupting influences of even the churches that we must enter in order to receive the sacraments. I really don’t relish the “me against the world” approach. I would rather it be “me and my allies in my parish against the world.” Sometimes I have to wonder if I am being tempted to pride in thinking I know better than all these others who seem satisfied with these parishes and may well live much more devout lives than I. But, the more I educate myself, the more of what I see in these parishes appears wrong and potentially harmful to faith.

Again, any ideas from people who have found satisfactory resolution to these types of issues would be appreciated.
 
I certainly recommend going. It’s well worth the drive. I’m in a similar situation as you are. I have no TLM in my diocese so I have to drive more than an hour just to get to one. This beautiful Mass has been around for a long time. The Novus Ordo is only 41 years old. Don’t listen to anyone that says it’s a waste of time, find a TLM! I hope and pray you will find one.

God Bless.
 
I certainly recommend going. It’s well worth the drive. I’m in a similar situation as you are. I have no TLM in my diocese so I have to drive more than an hour just to get to one. This beautiful Mass has been around for a long time. The Novus Ordo is only 41 years old. Don’t listen to anyone that says it’s a waste of time, find a TLM! I hope and pray you will find one.

God Bless.
Do you have a family that you take along? How do you handle the education issue? Do you completely lack a parish community then, outside of actual Mass attendance?
 
One may, of course, attend Mass in any diocese, but generally one may only be enrolled in his own geographic diocese (unless one is part of a “personal prelacy” or something of that nature (e.g. the forthcoming Anglican-use Ordinariate) or unless one has “quasi-domicile” in another geographic jurisdiction). Unfortunately, it’s similar on the parish level, unless there is a “personal parish” available. I think (and I’m not sure about this) that the ICRSS parish in St Louis is constituted as a “personal parish” and it may be that the “cornfield church” is as well. A “personal parish” would seem to be the best option, even if it’s some distance from home.
 
One may, of course, attend Mass in any diocese, but generally one may only be enrolled in his own geographic diocese (unless one is part of a “personal prelacy” or something of that nature (e.g. the forthcoming Anglican-use Ordinariate) or unless one has “quasi-domicile” in another geographic jurisdiction). Unfortunately, it’s similar on the parish level, unless there is a “personal parish” available. I think (and I’m not sure about this) that the ICRSS parish in St Louis is constituted as a “personal parish” and it may be that the “cornfield church” is as well. A “personal parish” would seem to be the best option, even if it’s some distance from home.
Much of what you’re saying is not familiar to me. I googled “personal parish” and realize I have another avenue of research now. Do you have a suggested link where I could start my research on this? Thank you.
 
Much of what you’re saying is not familiar to me. I googled “personal parish” and realize I have another avenue of research now. Do you have a suggested link where I could start my research on this? Thank you.
Off hand, no, sorry. But you might give the ICRSS in St Louis a phone call and ask. I know that there is at least one “personal parish” in the Archdiocese of St Louis for the EF, but I don’t know the name. Since the “cornfield church” is in the same general area, it’s most likely served by the ICRSS from St Louis, and perhaps they can give some better guidance on how to handle the matter. If you’re lucky you’ll get two birds with one call. 🙂
 
Off hand, no, sorry. But you might give the ICRSS in St Louis a phone call and ask. I know that there is at least one “personal parish” in the Archdiocese of St Louis for the EF, but I don’t know the name. Since the “cornfield church” is in the same general area, it’s most likely served by the ICRSS from St Louis, and perhaps they can give some better guidance on how to handle the matter. If you’re lucky you’ll get two birds with one call. 🙂
Thank you very much.
 
Do you have a family that you take along? How do you handle the education issue? Do you completely lack a parish community then, outside of actual Mass attendance?
No, no family yet.

As for the parish community you mentioned, I have several parishes but none of them are Traditional. The fact is I do not go to a Novus Ordo because it isn’t the true Mass. The true Mass is the TLM, which Archbishop LeFebvre refers to as the Mass of all-times. I’ve had several priests say it wasn’t a sin if I didn’t go to the Novus Ordo on Sunday.
 
No, no family yet.

As for the parish community you mentioned, I have several parishes but none of them are Traditional. The fact is I do not go to a Novus Ordo because it isn’t the true Mass. The true Mass is the TLM, which Archbishop LeFebvre refers to as the Mass of all-times. I’ve had several priests say it wasn’t a sin if I didn’t go to the Novus Ordo on Sunday.
Thank you for the (name removed by moderator)ut. I cannot say that I’m with you on not going to Mass if you can’t find the EF just because some priests told you that. If I followed all the wacky stuff I’ve heard different priests say, I’d definitely be on hot rails to hell (assuming I’m not anyway).

Rome says that NO is a true Mass. End of discussion for me. You may have extremely good reasons for your preference for the EF. But please, you owe it to yourself to double check what these priests told you.

I’ve only seen this notion that you can skip Sunday obligation if you can’t find a certain type of Mass on a sedevacantist website. I gather that you admire SSPX. I don’t know too much about them, but they are not sedevacantist. Others may want to jump in on whether SSPX would encourage missing Sunday Mass obligation if only NO was available.
 
Thank you for the (name removed by moderator)ut. I cannot say that I’m with you on not going to Mass if you can’t find the EF just because some priests told you that. If I followed all the wacky stuff I’ve heard different priests say, I’d definitely be on hot rails to hell (assuming I’m not anyway).

Rome says that NO is a true Mass. End of discussion for me. You may have extremely good reasons for your preference for the EF. But please, you owe it to yourself to double check what these priests told you.

I’ve only seen this notion that you can skip Sunday obligation if you can’t find a certain type of Mass on a sedevacantist website. I gather that you admire SSPX. I don’t know too much about them, but they are not sedevacantist. Others may want to jump in on whether SSPX would encourage missing Sunday Mass obligation if only NO was available.
You’re right, and SpiritusSanctus is wrong – the Novus Ordo is indeed a true Mass, and the lack of availability of an EF Mass is NOT a reason for missing Mass unless, however, an individual has been granted a dispensation from the Sunday obligation for that reason. I mean, I know of FSSP and ICRSS priests who have been known to give such dispensations; their reasoning is that if your only Mass choice would be a badly said OF Mass, then said Mass could very well be an occasion of sin – such as anger – for the person involved. But as to whether these priests are justified in giving such dispensations, THAT I’m not so sure about.

At any rate, while individual SSPX priests and laypeople who attend their chapels may have a variety of opinions on the subject, if you browse the Society’s Web site, you’ll see that its official party line is that not only should Catholics avoid the OF even if it means missing Mass on Sunday, but also approved diocesan EF Masses.
 
You’re right, and SpiritusSanctus is wrong – the Novus Ordo is indeed a true Mass, and the lack of availability of an EF Mass is NOT a reason for missing Mass unless, however, an individual has been granted a dispensation from the Sunday obligation for that reason. I mean, I know of FSSP and ICRSS priests who have been known to give such dispensations; their reasoning is that if your only Mass choice would be a badly said OF Mass, then said Mass could very well be an occasion of sin – such as anger – for the person involved. But as to whether these priests are justified in giving such dispensations, THAT I’m not so sure about.

At any rate, while individual SSPX priests and laypeople who attend their chapels may have a variety of opinions on the subject, if you browse the Society’s Web site, you’ll see that its official party line is that not only should Catholics avoid the OF even if it means missing Mass on Sunday, but also approved diocesan EF Masses.
A true Mass, or THE true Mass? And please don’t start an argument on this thread. I’m not saying you’re to, but I’m just saying this isn’t the thread to have an argument and I therefore will not participate in one. I will, however, say that what those priests said and where I go to Mass on Sunday are my personal buisness, it’s not open to discussion to anyone else on this forum unless I allow it to be. Otherwise, case closed.
 
Did I read you right, an hour and a quarter round trip?. That’s not bad at all! I drive an hour round trip with my bunch of little ones and it’s no big deal. And I highly recommend the TLM offered by the ICKSP. They are excellent. Drop all that weird schismatic goofiness going on at those other parishes and never look back. That’s what I did and my only regret is not doing it sooner.
 
Hang in there buddy I know how you feel about your lack of options. I am up here in the suburbs of the windy city and EF masses are popping up, it’s not long before they start showing up in your area. Continue to go to mass (don’t listen to SpiritusSanctus) if you have to go to a mass where it lacks reverence then you lead by example by showing reverence. If you are willing to make the drive for the EF then do it, and offer the sacrifice to the Lord!

If you are willing, you can start to gather other people who might be interested in the EF and request for it.
 
Did I read you right, an hour and a quarter round trip?. That’s not bad at all!
Tell me about it! I live in Texas. An hour and a quarter round trip… that’s like a trip to a specialty shop or something.

You small-staters are such spoiled babies. 😉
 
By all means go to another diocese if you have to. I’m jealous. I can’t drive. If I could I’d be going to Austin every weekend.

You are allowed to move around as far as I know. This isn’t the ideal situation, but I think you should go for it.

I attended a Maronite church during 2008. Of course, Traditionalism and Eastern rites have their own problems occasionally too, but nobody’s perfect.
 
Speaking of the Eastern rites, the OP might want to try visiting a Ukrainian Catholic Church in Madison:

Saint Mary Ukrainian Catholic Church
1312 Iowa Street
Madison, IL 62060

Reverend Robert Piorkowski
(618) 452-9118
 
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