First Communion...No Longer Teach "On The Tongue"?

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My daughter will be making her first communion next month. We have been talking about it for the last year, even practiced her receiving on the tongue (like me). At any rate, she said that they will be receiving in the hand only because they were told that OTT was what was done long ago? :confused: I was unaware that they no longer give the children the choice. Is this the norm now?
 
There is always a choice. According to the rubrics we may receive standing, kneeling, in the hand, or on the tongue. Any combination of the first two with the latter two works (though I’ve never heard of anyone kneeling and receiving in the hand). If someone has told your child otherwise they are either lying or misinformed. We are free to follow our conscience on this issue.
 
dailey said:
My daughter will be making her first communion next month. We have been talking about it for the last year, even practiced her receiving on the tongue (like me). At any rate, she said that they will be receiving in the hand only because they were told that OTT was what was done long ago? :confused: I was unaware that they no longer give the children the choice. Is this the norm now?
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My understanding is that (a) it can be received on the hand, on the tongue standing, or on the tongue kneeling, and this is the choice of the recipient, and (b) on the tongue standing is presently the normative way.

We haven’t talked about it in my own class; it’s a good question, I’ll have to bring that up with our deacon this Thursday!
 
When my son made his FHS several years ago, his teacher was not going to teach COTT. She said it was too difficult to teach both forms and it looked better if the kids all recieved the same way.

We had to go to our pastor on that one. He wasn’t the most orthodox priest, but he did tell the teacher she was in the wrong.

We had to do the teaching on COTT, but the teacher didn’t say another word about it.

The Catholic school was attached to a parish that was not our own. We were going to have him make his FHC with his school class, mostly because we thought that my son would want to.

We were wrong, he really wanted to make his FHC at our own parish, kneeling at the altar rail 👍
 
Back at my home parish, the children all knelt down at the altar rail, and received on the tongue, and the was the Novus Ordo mass… Blessed Irish priest and Portuguese community 😃
 
Brendan said:
When my son made his FHS several years ago…

…We were wrong, he really wanted to make his FHC at our own parish, kneeling at the altar rail 👍
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Good show!
Thanks for sharing it. 👍
TradionalWay said:
Back at my home parish, the children all knelt down at the altar rail, and received on the tongue, and the was the Novus Ordo mass… Blessed Irish priest and Portuguese community 😃
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You lucky beggar! 🙂
 
When I had my FHC, we were taught about reception in the hand, and I cannot remember nearly 30 years ago if we were taught about reception by tongue or not. I learned about reception on the tongue many years later.
 
Thanks for the (name removed by moderator)ut everyone! 🙂

I was taught COTT when I made my first communion, so that is what feels most comfortable to me. I know both ways of receiving are acceptable so that is why I was surprised they were no longer teaching it. 🤷
 
dailey said:
Thanks for the (name removed by moderator)ut everyone! 🙂

I was taught COTT when I made my first communion, so that is what feels most comfortable to me. I know both ways of receiving are acceptable so that is why I was surprised they were no longer teaching it. 🤷
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Hopefully you plan on talking to the teacher about this now that you have additional information! They should know that COTT is still the preferred method of reception.

catholicism.about.com/b/2008/06/26/pope-benedict-sets-the-norm-for-receiving-communion.htm
 
Our DRE only teaches COTT. They use unconsecrated hosts to practice with. If a family wants to teach CITH, they are welcome to and the children receive however they prefer. Our parish/diocese is quite traditional, but the practical reason is the COTT is harder to teach and practice if you don’t have access to the unconsecrated hosts – although Necco wafers work well in a pinch! 😛
 
For my FHC back in the 90s we were never taught COTT. I found out about COTT years later in my own personal study and attraction to the EF.
 
Communion on the tongue ***is ***the norm according to Church law. Nobody anywhere is allowed to refuse that. No doubt about it at all.

The issue of standing and kneeling can be regulated by the bishops, I think.
 
Leon_Bloy said:
The issue of standing and kneeling can be regulated by the bishops, I think.
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The US bishops had to get permission from the Vatican to make standing the norm and it was only given to them on the condition that people who want to kneel may do so and these people should not be treated as disobedient.
 
It may just be her way of telling you she rather do this way rather than how you been practicing. As someone has said, its how you preferably choose to receive communion that counts. Let her go with this choice. It don’t matter. All are valid. What matters is that your daughter finds her own way in communion and chooses how she feels most comfotable with.
 
englishredrose said:
It may just be her way of telling you she rather do this way rather than how you been practicing. As someone has said, its how you preferably choose to receive communion that counts. Let her go with this choice. It don’t matter. All are valid. What matters is that your daughter finds her own way in communion and chooses how she feels most comfotable with.
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Why should parents assume that their children have some hidden meaning? If I were in the OP’s position, I would take my child’s words at face value. There is nothing at all implausible in the account reported here.
 
englishredrose said:
It may just be her way of telling you she rather do this way rather than how you been practicing. As someone has said, its how you preferably choose to receive communion that counts. Let her go with this choice. It don’t matter. All are valid. What matters is that your daughter finds her own way in communion and chooses how she feels most comfotable with.
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Perhaps I should have mentioned that I also told my daughter that I would be calling the Church to get some more information. They confirmed what my daughter had said…they do not give the children the choice to receive on the tongue. See, my daughter wasn’t lying to me like you implied. 😉
 
My daughter is doing her first communion this May, and they were taught that they can either receive by mouth or hands.
 
Ideally, children should be taught about both ways as some parishes I’ve gone to, the norm is to kneel and/or receive COTT especially if they go to a church where they may use the rail (as one parish that does OF still does) or if they go to an EF Mass where you don’t receive in the hand at all. I had to learn about COTT as I was never taught that way as EF is only COTT.
 
floresco said:
The US bishops had to get permission from the Vatican to make standing the norm and it was only given to them on the condition that people who want to kneel may do so and these people should not be treated as disobedient.
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I have read a few things about that in the past, but do not recall where. Do you know where we could find something - perhaps the statement from Rome - about it?
 
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