First Communion

[TC3033]

Would it help if I mentioned that my husband is not Catholic yet he stood proudly by my side each time one of our children received for the first time? He didn’t come to receive with us and as he put it, “I’m not Catholic, I don’t believe the same thing so why would I pretend I do?”

Unfortunately for us, we were military and our families were nowhere near for these important milestones in our children’s Faith journey. They were all there for the Baptism of the first two which took place in my childhood parish and rejoiced with us but that’s all they did.

Honest question here since I don’t really understand the ceremony. How can he stand with you when your children received with you, but not come up to receive with you?

 

[Phemie]

Honest question here since I don’t really understand the ceremony. How can he stand with you when your children received with you, but not come up to receive with you?

Our eldest received at home. The Padre came to our house, celebrated Mass and gave those Catholics who were present Communion, including our 7 year old. Today I would not do it this way, but at the time he offered this option and I accepted. Hubby was present and participated in the Mass by my side but he didn’t receive.

With one of the boys we simply went up as a family, DS1, DD & I received, DS2 and hubby didn’t.

 

[TC3033]

Our eldest received at home. The Padre came to our house, celebrated Mass and gave those Catholics who were present Communion, including our 7 year old. Today I would not do it this way, but at the time he offered this option and I accepted. Hubby was present and participated in the Mass by my side but he didn’t receive.

With one of the boys we simply went up as a family, DS1, DD & I received, DS2 and hubby didn’t.

Can I ask how that went and what did they do? Just walk through the line an bypass everyone?

 

[Phemie]

Can I ask how that went and what did they do? Just walk through the line an bypass everyone?

In that case the first communicants went up one at a time, accompanied by their family.

 

[fbl9]

Would it help if I mentioned that my husband is not Catholic yet he stood proudly by my side each time one of our children received for the first time? He didn’t come to receive with us and as he put it, **“I’m not Catholic, I don’t believe the same thing so why would I pretend I do?” **
Unfortunately for us, we were military and our families were nowhere near for these important milestones in our children’s Faith journey. They were all there for the Baptism of the first two which took place in my childhood parish and rejoiced with us but that’s all they did.

Honest question here since I don’t really understand the ceremony. How can he stand with you when your children received with you, but not come up to receive with you?

Bolded section should answer your question, if I understand you correctly.
Did you stand up with your children when they were baptised? If so you also promised to raise the child in the Faith. That is the faith of the Church.

Personally I don’t understand why it would matter to you not receive communion within a church that you are not in union with. Myself it would not be awkward not receive communion at your worship service, if you do this.

 

[TC3033]

Bolded section should answer your question, if I understand you correctly.
Did you stand up with your children when they were baptised? If so you also promised to raise the child in the Faith. That is the faith of the Church.
Personally I don’t understand why it would matter to you not receive communion within a church that you are not in union with. Myself it would not be awkward not receive communion at your worship service, if you do this.

This statement has absolutely no bearing on the question(s) that I’ve asked, why make it? I asked about inviting my family to First Communion, and if I can participate at all. Not how do I make sure my kids aren’t Catholic.

Did you stand up with your children when they were baptised?

Yes, but I did not recite, I believe that is neither here nor there when it comes to my question.

We’re talking about the awkwardness of inviting my family (if they should be) and how to participate here (if they/we can at all).

My children are Catholic, I am not. I don’t understand why it’s that hard to understand that it can be tough for myself, and others in my family, not really being able to be part of this portion of their life. Correct me if I’m wrong or overgeneralizing, but I haven’t exactly felt welcomed to the Church as a non-Catholic and am wondering how this may arise at his First Communion as to whether myself and family should be invited and if so how they/we could participate.

Maybe you would feel awkward, maybe you would not during communion at my service. That’s not my place, but at my worship service (the one I get to about 3 times a year because I attend Catholic Mass w/ my family far more often) you would not be singled out for not receiving either but let’s stop trying to derail here. That’s not what this thread is about. It’s about how may I be part of my son’s first communion, if I and my family fit into my children’s First Communion.

I feel you’re fishing for an argument here where there is none to have when I’m just looking for some insight/information.

 

[fbl9]

This statement has absolutely no bearing on the question(s) that I’ve asked, why make it? I asked about inviting my family to First Communion, and if I can participate at all. Not how do I make sure my kids aren’t Catholic.

Yes, but I did not recite, I believe that is neither here nor there when it comes to my question.

We’re talking about the awkwardness of inviting my family (if they should be) and how to participate here (if they/we can at all).

My children are Catholic, I am not. I don’t understand why it’s that hard to understand that it can be tough for myself, and others in my family, not really being able to be part of this portion of their life. Correct me if I’m wrong or overgeneralizing, but I haven’t exactly felt welcomed to the Church as a non-Catholic and am wondering how this may arise at his First Communion as to whether myself and family should be invited and if so how they/we could participate.

Maybe you would feel awkward, maybe you would not during communion at my service. That’s not my place, but at my worship service (the one I get to about 3 times a year because I attend Catholic Mass w/ my family far more often) you would not be singled out for not receiving either but let’s stop trying to derail here. That’s not what this thread is about. It’s about how may I be part of my son’s first communion, if I and my family fit into my children’s First Communion.

I feel you’re fishing for an argument here where there is none to have when I’m just looking for some insight/information.

sorry
you asked how could the other poster’s hubby could stand up.
That you feel unwelcome is most unfortunate.

 

[TC3033]

sorry
you asked how could the other poster’s hubby could stand up.
That you feel unwelcome is most unfortunate.

My bad. I was more wondering how he could stand with them while they were receiving, but yet not accompany them when they went up to receive. Didn’t make sense at first.