First Confession- Completely Terrified

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Wonderful, isn’t it great?!
I have been on my best behavior, I feel obligated to be and I can already tell a difference. I was making an effort to be a good Catholic but having those sins lifted from my shoulders just made a huge difference for me.

Also, I am so excited! I was chosen to accept the Holy Oils from our Archbishop for the Chrism Mass, when I was told that, I was so honored and giddy:D
 
MaryRita85 said:
Prior to that, all that are already baptized are required to meet for a 30 minute confession with one of the priests and it must be face to face this first time.
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Did the priests really say that you need to go to confession to one of them? That doesn’t sound quite right. In many instances, one or two priests are brought in from somewhere else to avoid this problem.

Request that another priest be asked to assist in the confessions to make it easier on the penitents. There is no reason to put stumbling blocks in another’s way, the process should be made as easy as possible.
 
The reason being was that, yes it was your first confession, but it was to help you understand the order and what which to do to make a good confession. It turned out wonderfully and I actually think I like the face to face reconcilliation. He was very helpful and I’m it actually made me more comfortable than if it would have been someone I did not know, surprisingly:)
 
Our pastor says start with the worst first and the rest will flow. You will feel better afterwards, even if it is a bit scary. I kind of practice it in my head with “the list” if there are multiples. I’ve only done 2 Roman Catholic confessions so far, but I love it.
 
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It was amazing. In the Protestant Church I grew up in, all I ever felt was shame and guilt. I know I am a sinner and not perfect, but I am good, I have God in me.
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As Father Fausto says at the start of Mass, I’m a sinner how about you. Your post was beautiful, welcome home.
 
Confession is a wonderful sacrament. It takes the weight of sin off of you. It makes me feel worthy of Gods love once more.
 
RedSparklyShoes said:
Our pastor says start with the worst first and the rest will flow.
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That is so true–once I started naming my heinous sins, the rest just rolled out and I couldn’t have stopped the gush if I had wanted to. What. A. Relief.
 
ajecphotos said:
I had to take a list in with me!
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I planned on taking a list in with me, but my wife and I (we were both in RCIA) had to go to the church for some reason a day or two early. We were talking with Father, when he asked if we wanted to do it then. We said yes. So I was kind of caught off guard. I hadn’t brought my list with me!

I am so thankful that it happened that way though. If I would have had to wait until the time I had been scheduled, it would have been torture. Like the OP, I was terrified thinking about it beforehand!
 
About to have my first confession this afternoon, slightly nervous.
 
ajecphotos said:
Well, i am dreading my confession this week!!! First time i have sat down and thought about the sins committed over many years and there are quite a few i have never confessed to!!

I have now made a list ready to take with me this week.

Is it ok to ask the priest for a big penance? Its what i want.
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I had to go to confession after falling away for a few years. It really wasn’t too bad. Just tell everything you can remember. If you can’t remember each and every time, you can say something like “I have habitually fallen into the sins of wrath/lust/gluttony…etc.”

Do NOT ask the priest for a big penance. Just listen humbly to his counsel, and immediately do whatever penances he tells you.

You can do voluntary penances later on.
 
I hope of you that just had yours found as much comfort afterwards as I did:)
 
MaryRita85 said:
Hello all!
My name is Mary and I am currently going through RCIA with my Husband. He will be baptized at the Saturday night Easter Vigil, along with my twin daughters. I have been baptized so I will have Confirmation and I will be able to particpate in the Eucharist. Prior to that, all that are already baptized are required to meet for a 30 minute confession with one of the priests and it must be face to face this first time.
Here is the trouble, the Fathers have been very active in the RCIA and I have had the opportunity to build a wonderful relationship with both.I am scared to death of confession. I know they have heard it all, but mine really is pretty bad, on a whole new level (terrible Mortal sins and frequently) and plus I have 28 years to go through. So despite them hearing it all, I doubt they have heard it all at one time:( I am scared they will think lowly of me, as I deserve it. If I didn’t know them as well, maybe it would be different? I just don’t want to tarnish this relationship. Does this make sense? Any words of encouragement?
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I say to you, that even so there shall be joy in heaven upon one sinner that doth penance, more than upon ninety-nine just who need not penance.
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I had, frankly a similar experience when I was in the process of coming back to the church after effectively checking out for 10 years. Without God our souls are as black as night, no matter how “good” we think we are, the fact is when we are mislead or not being lead we will all descend into the deepest pits of sin and despair.

That’s the whole point of Christianity, we need Christ in our lives. Don’t worry, rather pray for fortitude and for good confession.
 
Reading this thread fills me with some ease; I too am just beginning my RCIA and am dreading the confession. I already adore the priest at the church I attend and can tell I am going to be able to have a wonderful relationship with him, and through him with Christ. I have been apprehensive about confessing my awful sins, and was panicking when I read the post about face to face confession. I’m hoping that the confidence and anonymity will help me confess all, rather than being tempted to withhold for fear of embarrassment.

I would just like to thank everyone for their (name removed by moderator)ut on this thread for people like me to be able to read, and to ask if anyone has any advice regarding where to start? Should I write it all down and make a list so I don’t forget anything?
 
All I can say is, “Wow! This is a wonderfully powerful thread!” At first I was just curious, and so I started to read. Then I found myself empathizing with Mary Rita as I remembered my own confession after a long time away from my faith. (I was scared to death!) As I read further into the thread, I was inspired and uplifted by all the amazing servants of Christ that responded here to help out a sister in need. As I continued to read, I began to pray for Mary Rita that she might find some courage and comfort and strength for her first confession. (even though this thread is old and I knew that her confession must have already occurred!) Soon enough I was rooting and cheering for Mary Rita like I was a parent watching my kid’s sports events! “Go Mary Rita, go! We’re WITH you!” And finally…YES! “Success” as Mary Rita reports that her confession went well! Hooray!
And perhaps the most powerful part of all is that there are still people coming to this thread to get answers and find comfort. So may God Bless you, Mary Rita. Your topic continues to help and encourage people even months after your first confession. And welcome to the Catholic faith!
Your friend,
Jim
 
Hacksaw_Jim said:
All I can say is, “Wow! This is a wonderfully powerful thread!” At first I was just curious, and so I started to read. Then I found myself empathizing with Mary Rita as I remembered my own confession after a long time away from my faith. (I was scared to death!) As I read further into the thread, I was inspired and uplifted by all the amazing servants of Christ that responded here to help out a sister in need. As I continued to read, I began to pray for Mary Rita that she might find some courage and comfort and strength for her first confession. (even though this thread is old and I knew that her confession must have already occurred!) Soon enough I was rooting and cheering for Mary Rita like I was a parent watching my kid’s sports events! “Go Mary Rita, go! We’re WITH you!” And finally…YES! “Success” as Mary Rita reports that her confession went well! Hooray!
And perhaps the most powerful part of all is that there are still people coming to this thread to get answers and find comfort. So may God Bless you, Mary Rita. Your topic continues to help and encourage people even months after your first confession. And welcome to the Catholic faith!
Your friend,
Jim
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Does anyone know when the first confession is made during the RCIA?

Thanks in advance,
Louise
 
LouiseHine said:
Does anyone know when the first confession is made during the RCIA?

Thanks in advance,
Louise
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Usually right before the Vigil if you have already undergone a valid Baptism, if you will be Baptized at the Vigil then you don’t have to make one before.
 
Quaesitor said:
Usually right before the Vigil if you are already have already undergone a valid Baptism, if you will be Baptized at the Vigil then you don’t have to make one before.
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I’m not sure when the Vigil is, or what it is, not that far into my RCIA yet… would you mind explaining? Thanks … sorry to be a pain.
 
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