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Today I attended my first mass, it was a daily Mass of course and didn’t last too long. This is the first time I have EVER been to church, it was quite interesting. I have a few questions obviously though.

1- I noticed before everyone sat down, they kneeled and did the sign of the cross. What does this mean?

2- When I was leaving there was a little bowl of water people dipped their hands in and did the sign of the cross. What does this symbolize?

3- I don’t know all the things or even where to look for the things people were saying, it’s extremely hard to understand them as well. Where can I learn what to say?

4- Communion - When it was time for this everyone got up and went up, did their thing, but I just kinda sat there feeling dumb. Should I walk up there and say anything and not take it, or exactly what should I do here?

5- I plan on attending my first Sunday Mass this sunday (3 days). What should I expect to be different? Other than lots and lots more people. Should I worry about not knowing what to do?

That’s it off the top of my head, I will think of more and add them as time goes by I’m sure, Thanks in advance.

God Bless.
 
Welcome! I’ll try and answer your questions to the best of my ability, but anyone else, please feel free to correct and/or add on to my response.
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abb:
Today I attended my first mass, it was a daily Mass of course and didn’t last too long. This is the first time I have EVER been to church, it was quite interesting. I have a few questions obviously though.

1- I noticed before everyone sat down, they kneeled and did the sign of the cross. What does this mean?

This motion is called a genuflection, and is done facing the tabernacle (usually a box-like structure behind the alter, made of gold) as a sign of respect for what is inside - the Body of Christ in the form of the Eucharist. If you don’t understand that last bit, just ask us to clarify.

2- When I was leaving there was a little bowl of water people dipped their hands in and did the sign of the cross. What does this symbolize?
** The water is Holy Water, and among other things, signing yourself with the water upon entering the church is a reminder of the water of out baptism. I’m sure there are other meanings that others can provide.**

3- I don’t know all the things or even where to look for the things people were saying, it’s extremely hard to understand them as well. Where can I learn what to say?
Oftentimes, somewhere near the seats, are paperback books called missalettes. These contain the readings for the Mass, as well as the general order of the liturgy and the various responses, times to stand/kneel/sit, etc. There are other guides to the Mass, but that one is usually provided in the church itself.

4- Communion - When it was time for this everyone got up and went up, did their thing, but I just kinda sat there feeling dumb. Should I walk up there and say anything and not take it, or exactly what should I do here?
Staying in your seat is perfectly acceptable. If that’s uncomfortable for you, some parishes, especially those, I believe, who serve a younger community, recognize the gesture of crossing one’s arms and bowing one’s head before the eucharistic minister as a sign to not give that person the Host and offer a blessing instead. You can then just bypass the Cup.

5- I plan on attending my first Sunday Mass this sunday (3 days). What should I expect to be different? Other than lots and lots more people. Should I worry about not knowing what to do?
There are a few more prayers in the Sunday Mass, such as the Nicene Creed and the Gloria, which can be found in the missalette…Nothing else is occuring to me off the top of my head…

That’s it off the top of my head, I will think of more and add them as time goes by I’m sure, Thanks in advance.

God Bless.
I hope that helped!
 
Hi abb, a warm welcome to you.

Just to clarify your question for myself and others, may I ask what your present understanding of the Mass is? By that I mean, how familiar are you with what the Mass is for?

Thanks,
Seabird
 
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abb:
Today I attended my first mass, it was a daily Mass of course and didn’t last too long. This is the first time I have EVER been to church, it was quite interesting. I have a few questions obviously though.

1- I noticed before everyone sat down, they kneeled and did the sign of the cross. What does this mean? The sign of the cross reminds us of our Baptism, when we were Baptised in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Blessing oursellves is something we do frequently, beginning and ending prayer, entering and exiting a church for starters. Kneeling down as we enter the pew is a sign of homage and repect to Jesus, who is present in the front of the church in the Tabernacle.

2- When I was leaving there was a little bowl of water people dipped their hands in and did the sign of the cross. What does this symbolize? This is Holy Water which has been blessed. Again it reminds us of the waters of Baptism.

3- I don’t know all the things or even where to look for the things people were saying, it’s extremely hard to understand them as well. Where can I learn what to say? There should be a Missal (prayer book) in front of you, usually in a pocket attached to the back of the pew ahead of you.

4- Communion - When it was time for this everyone got up and went up, did their thing, but I just kinda sat there feeling dumb. Should I walk up there and say anything and not take it, or exactly what should I do here? **Just stay in your seat. Not everyone goes up, for various reasons. No one will look at you funny. **

5- I plan on attending my first Sunday Mass this sunday (3 days). What should I expect to be different? Other than lots and lots more people. Should I worry about not knowing what to do? There will be more poeple to follow their lead, and you won’t feel so much as sticking out.

That’s it off the top of my head, I will think of more and add them as time goes by I’m sure, Thanks in advance.

Welcome. It is so awesome to watch people as they inquir about our faith.

Arlene

God Bless.
 
How wonderful that you were led to a mass! What a beautiful time for hearts to be converted…God bless you as you grow in faith!

Please go by the church before Sunday and feel free to take a misselette home with you. You’ll be able to study the “mass” at your leisure…

May the Sacred Heart of Jesus bless for your seeking heart!

With Him~
Renee
 
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abb:
Today I attended my first mass, it was a daily Mass of course and didn’t last too long. This is the first time I have EVER been to church, it was quite interesting. I have a few questions obviously though.

1- I noticed before everyone sat down, they kneeled and did the sign of the cross. What does this mean?
If they did this in the pew, they were kneeling down and saying a prayer before Mass. It’s up to you what you pray. Some people do an examination of conscience and ask God for forgiveness, some may pray traditional prayers such as the “Hail Mary”, some pray the rosary, some people may praise God and thank him for all his goodness, or maybe just kneel in silence before the tabernacle asking God to quiet their hearts and open their minds to the Mass. It’s your personal prayer time with the Lord.

If they did this before entering the pew (going down on one knee and then coming up fairly quickly (should be the right knee), then it’s a genuflection as noted above. I wasn’t sure by your post which one you were wondering about.
 
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abb:
Today I attended my first mass, it was a daily Mass of course and didn’t last too long. This is the first time I have EVER been to church, it was quite interesting. I have a few questions obviously though.

1- I noticed before everyone sat down, they kneeled and did the sign of the cross. What does this mean?
When we enter into a Catholic church we look toward the tabernacle where Christ is present in the Eucharist. It is because he is present there that we genuflect to Him before we take our seats.

If the genuflecting isn’t what you were referring to, then people tend to kneel before mass to pray in the presence of the Eucharist (reserved in the tabernacle) to prepare their hearts, minds and souls to participate in the upcoming sacrifice of the Mass.
2- When I was leaving there was a little bowl of water people dipped their hands in and did the sign of the cross. What does this symbolize?
Water is the symbol of life and of our baptism into the family of God. When we were baptized with water in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit we became brothers and sisters of Christ. We make the sign of the cross with the holy water when we enter Our Father’s home as a reminder that we are entering hallowed ground and to remind ourselves of our baptismal vows.
3- I don’t know all the things or even where to look for the things people were saying, it’s extremely hard to understand them as well. Where can I learn what to say?
In each pew there should have been a book. That book is called a missal. Whenever you go into a church (even if mass isn’t being held) feel free to just sit down to peruse the book. There will be a section in there explaining the mass, all the different parts, why we say/do what we do. There are also a collection of hymns in each missal. Churches are basically open from sunrise to sunset each day so you can always enter God’s house to sit, reflect, listen, learn, pray. Just remember that in a Catholich church Christ is present in the tabernacle (it’s the gold box on a table with a red candle lit beside it).
4- Communion - When it was time for this everyone got up and went up, did their thing, but I just kinda sat there feeling dumb. Should I walk up there and say anything and not take it, or exactly what should I do here?
Oh. You did the right thing by just sitting and observing the first time around.

Communion for us, the Eucharist, is different than for other churches because we believe in the Real Presence of Christ as a result of the consecration which takes place during the liturgy of the eucharist (somewhere in that time frame where the priest speaks the words of Christ instructing us to take and eat, take and drink, etc.).

The consecration takes place because of our participation in the prayers and the priest’s participation and the gift of the Holy Spirit which brings Christ into the moment, or really brings us, the congregation into the eternal sacrifice of Christ which is ongoing (don’t worry about understanding that part, it’s a bit complicated for now). Bottom line, though, is we are approaching the eucharistic ministers to receive the Body, Blood, Soul and Divinity into our bodies. That’s why when we get back to our seats we kneel to pray in thanksgiving for God’s saving grace, His mercy, His strength and His gift of making Christ present to us today - 2000 years after Christ’s death. It’s a very solemn moment.

In the future you are welcome to walk up with the others but not to receive the Eucharist. You would cross your arms over your chest (right hand touching left shoulder, left hand touching right shoulder) which would indicate to the minister and/or the priest that you are not Catholic, are not able to partake in receiving Christ in that manner, but seek a blessing from the minister to help you grow closer to Christ. The minister/priest will then bless you with the sign of the cross and you would proceed back to your seat, and kneel to pray to Jesus present at the altar.
 
5- I plan on attending my first Sunday Mass this sunday (3 days). What should I expect to be different? Other than lots and lots more people. Should I worry about not knowing what to do?
There will be processions beginning and ending Mass and lots of music. When the procession opening the mass occurs you’ll see altar servers carrying candles in front of the lector who will be carrying the Word above his head so all the congregation can see the Word. He/she will be followed by the priest. Observe the reverence shown by all involved toward the Book and the altar.

Daily mass has 2 readings…one from the old testament and then the gospel. Sunday mass has an additional old testament reading. We sit for the first readings.

Between the readings and the Gospel is the responsorial psalm. During daily mass this is usually read. During Sunday mass it’s usually sung.

Then the priest will stand and carry the Word to the podium as we stand and sing a short praise for the Word. He then will read from the Gospel. Then we sit down and listen to the priest’s homily.

There is music during Sunday liturgy at the part where the priest begins to prepare for the liturgy of the eucharist. During daily mass we usually hear everything the priest is saying in preparation for this part of the mass, but on Sunday we have a song to help us prepare for what’s about to take place.

The “holy, holy, holy” is usually sung on Sunday, where it isn’t for daily mass. Same with the “Lamb of God” and possibly the “Our Father”. And then there’s music while people go up to receive the Eucharist.

The rest is pretty much the same, but the priest will make some announcements and they will proceed out of the church as they proceeded in (except not carrying the Word this time).

I would highly recommend you visit the church between now and then to read through the missal a bit and if there are any people there praying, you might want to introduce yourself to them as they get up to leave to let them know you are a visitor and are preparing to attend your first Sunday mass. I’m sure they’ll be happy to answer any questions for you.

Welcome to the mass. It’s wonderful that you are open to learning more about it. I hope you enjoy your experience.

One thing to note, you are visiting during the season of Lent (representing the 40 days Jesus spent in the desert before His death/resurrection). This is a time of preparation for us so things are different right now than they are during the rest of the year.

Usually we sing a “Gloria” and we sing an “Alleluia” during the mass but since those are celebratory prayers we don’t use them now.

I highly recommend your visiting the Church all next week if you can. Next week is Holy Week leading into what we call the “Triduum”. On Thursday mass begins (in some churches it begins outside the front doors with a fire) and there will be a washing of the feet, but there won’t be a closing of that mass.

On Friday you won’t find any holy water in those bowls and you’ll find the tabernacle doors open (the red candle beside it will not be lit) because it will be Good Friday, the day we remember Jesus’ crucifixion. There won’t be a mass and thus no liturgy of the eucharist (because Jesus will be leaving us for a short while), but there will be communion distributed (reserved from Thursday’s consecration service, I think). There will be a veneration service where you’ll see people approaching the cross to venerate it on this very sad day for us. Some people will kneel before it, some will kiss the foot of the cross or where the hands would be nailed to it, some will genuflect, others will kiss their fingers and place them on a part of the cross. No prayers, no songs…

On Saturday there won’t be an opening procession or a closing procession because we are in waiting, just as the apostles and all the disciples were on that Saturday but we gather together anyway, just as they did - reflecting on what just happened and wondering why.

Late Saturday evening there will be an Easter Vigil…this is a beautiful, though long, ceremony when we listen to the readings from old and new testaments showing how Christ fulfills the old testament. It usually starts in darkness and ends in light as we await the Good News that Jesus has risen. It’s also the service when new members enter into the Church through baptism, communion and confirmation. Most of these new members prepared for 9 months to reach this very special day in their life…their rebirth in Christ.

And then, of course, is Easter Sunday when the church will be totally decked out in flowers and banners and light and song…it’s a wonderful day for all Christians.
 
Hello,

Welcome to the Catholic Church. I’ll try to answer your questions.
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abb:
1- I noticed before everyone sat down, they kneeled and did the sign of the cross. What does this mean?
Before one enters the pew, one genuflects, that is gets down on one knee, before the Tabernacle as a sign of adoration to Jesus Christ truly present there. After one enters the pew, most will kneel and say a prayer or just say hello to Jesus.
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abb:
2- When I was leaving there was a little bowl of water people dipped their hands in and did the sign of the cross. What does this symbolize?
The water is Holy Water, and symbolizes the water of our Baptism. They dip their hands in it and make the Sign of the Cross as a reminder and reaffirmation of their Baptismal promises. This should be down upon entering the Church.
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abb:
3- I don’t know all the things or even where to look for the things people were saying, it’s extremely hard to understand them as well. Where can I learn what to say?
Try this website:
ewtn.com/library/LITURGY/CREDO.TXT
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abb:
4- Communion - When it was time for this everyone got up and went up, did their thing, but I just kinda sat there feeling dumb. Should I walk up there and say anything and not take it, or exactly what should I do here?
Just stay in your seat. That is the proper thing to do. You may if you want go up with your hands crossed and ask for a blessing, but this may cause more attention than just staying in your seat. You can make a spiritual communion with this prayer:

My Jesus, I believe that You are present in the Most Holy Sacrament. I love You above all things, and I desire to receive You into my soul. Since I cannot at this moment receive You sacramentally, come at least spiritually into my heart. (pause) I embrace You as if You were already there and unite myself wholly to You. Never permit me to be separated from You. Amen.
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abb:
5- I plan on attending my first Sunday Mass this sunday (3 days). What should I expect to be different? Other than lots and lots more people. Should I worry about not knowing what to do?
You are in for quite a treat. For this Sunday is the Sunday of the Passion of the Lord, a.k.a. Palm Sunday. It will be somewhat longer than a normal Mass.
To start there will be a reading of the Gospel, blessing of the palms and a procession around the Church. (not at a normal Sunday Mass.)
There will be no Gloria. (still in Lent, will get back to it at Easter.)
There will be two readings, one from the Old Testament and a New Testament Epistle and a Responsorial Psalm that is sung.
The Gospel will be loooong. It is the narrative of the Passion of the Lord and the Congregation will participate. Your part will be in the missalette. Then a homily.
This will be followed by the Nicene Creed.
The rest should be about the same as the daily Mass, but the Sanctus (Holy, Holy, Holy), Mystery of Faith, Amen, and Agnus Dei (Lamb of God) will probably be sung.

Please keep in mind that Mass is usually not this long. A normal Sunday Mass will run approx. 1 hour.

I hope this helps.
 
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JMJ_coder:
You are in for quite a treat. For this Sunday is the Sunday of the Passion of the Lord, a.k.a. Palm Sunday. It will be somewhat longer than a normal Mass.
Ah, yes. How could I have forgotten to mention that!?!

Thanks, JMJ_coder.
 
Welcome, Abb.

My husband, himself a convert, has said that if he had first attended Mass on Palm Sunday, Easter Sunday, or Christmas, he may not have joined the Church. These liturgies are much longer than a regular Sunday Mass and include a lot more procession and pomp.

They are beautiful services, just longer and include parts that some of us Catholics forget about from year to year. So if you have any problems following along, you’ll be in good company.

If you’re worried that you might run into problems, you could mention to an usher when you come in that it is your first Mass and ask for help. That’s what they’re there for.
 
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abb:
Today I attended my first mass, it was a daily Mass of course and didn’t last too long. This is the first time I have EVER been to church, it was quite interesting. I have a few questions obviously though.
Yay for your first Mass. My first Mass was a weekday Mass too. I recommend it.
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abb:
1- I noticed before everyone sat down, they kneeled and did the sign of the cross. What does this mean?
Catholics always genuflect (kneel) and make the sign of the cross out of respect for the Tabernacle. Or rather, Who is in the Tabernacle. The Tabernacle is where the Eucharist is placed after Mass. Since we believe that the Eucharist is truely Christ, and he is truely present in the Tabernacle, we genuflect as a way of acknowledging his presence.
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abb:
2- When I was leaving there was a little bowl of water people dipped their hands in and did the sign of the cross. What does this symbolize?
The bowl contains Holy Water, water which has been blessed by the priest. When we dip our hands in it and make the sign of the cross, we remind ourselves of our baptism.
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abb:
3- I don’t know all the things or even where to look for the things people were saying, it’s extremely hard to understand them as well. Where can I learn what to say?
Well, a good place to start would be the Missal, the book that contains the Order of the Mass. There should be a copy of the Missal in the church pew. Go to Mass early one day, or stay late, and take a look. You can also ask us. 🙂 Be patient. It takes time. I mainly learned the responses simply by listening.
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abb:
4- Communion - When it was time for this everyone got up and went up, did their thing, but I just kinda sat there feeling dumb. Should I walk up there and say anything and not take it, or exactly what should I do here?
First of all, don’t feel dumb. You did the right thing. Second of all, you have two options. You can go up to the priest with your arms across your chest and ask for a blessing. (Make sure you go to the priest!) You might want to talk to the priest before hand, to ask him more about this. Plus, that way when you go up, he’ll be expecting you. Your second option is to stay in the pew and pray. I recommend the Act of Spiritual Communion. If you’re not sure how you feel about the Real Presence yet, simply spend the time in personal prayer. (The act of Spiritual Communion is online, but if you can’t find it, post again and I’ll tell you it.)
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abb:
5- I plan on attending my first Sunday Mass this sunday (3 days). What should I expect to be different? Other than lots and lots more people. Should I worry about not knowing what to do?
First of all, there will be music. Many of the prayers that people speak during a weekday Mass will be sung. The priest will process into the Church and out of the Church, while the faithful sing. In addition, gifts (the unconsecrated bread and wine) will be brought up to the altar by members of the congregation. Also, since you’ll be going to Palm Sunday Mass, the priest will likely bless the palms. The Gospel reading will probably be longer than normal, since it’s an important day. Anyway, everything else should be exactly the same.
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abb:
That’s it off the top of my head, I will think of more and add them as time goes by I’m sure, Thanks in advance.

God Bless.
No problem. Enjoy your first Sunday Mass. Come back and let us know what you think.
 
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seabird3579:
Hi abb, a warm welcome to you.

Just to clarify your question for myself and others, may I ask what your present understanding of the Mass is? By that I mean, how familiar are you with what the Mass is for?

Thanks,
Seabird
Like I said, this was my first Mass, but I have a pretty good understanding of it from the “The Mass Explained” CD someone suggested I get from the Mary Foundation.
 
Just a quick note on knowing what to say. . . I went through RCIA three years ago. It took a long time to memorize all the things that are said during Mass. As you go to Mass, you will hear and understand more of what is being said. You may certainly participate in speaking these words, but do not feel obligated to do so. I would advise you to spend time thinking about the meaning of what is being said . . . this will add greatly to your experience. And, as time goes on, don’t be shocked if you hear something different than what you get used to, especially if you go to a different parish and/or as the Church seasons change. (And just wait until you pray with Catholics outside of Mass – just a couple of days ago a group said I pray that I had never heard before. I just listened and thought about the beauty of the words of the prayer.)

Welcome. I pray that your visit leads you into the Church.

Mary Jo
 
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abb:
Like I said, this was my first Mass, but I have a pretty good understanding of it from the “The Mass Explained” CD someone suggested I get from the Mary Foundation.
Isn’t Father Larry Richard wonderful!!! Oh, but I wouldn’t go in and take off your shoes when you get to Mass. You might get a few strange looks!

Notworthy
 
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abb:
Today I attended my first mass, it was a daily Mass of course and didn’t last too long. This is the first time I have EVER been to church, it was quite interesting. I have a few questions obviously though.

1- I noticed before everyone sat down, they kneeled and did the sign of the cross. What does this mean?
People genuflect(Or kneel as you said) before the tabernacle to show a sign of respect toward Christ who is present in the Eucharist.
2- When I was leaving there was a little bowl of water people dipped their hands in and did the sign of the cross. What does this symbolize?
Holy water is a sacramental. It is blessed and is like a renewal of your baptism. Water represents the cleansing of the person. The sign of the cross is your profession of the Trinity.
3- I don’t know all the things or even where to look for the things people were saying, it’s extremely hard to understand them as well. Where can I learn what to say?
There is a little missalete that should be in each pew. It contains the whole order of the mass. It also contains all the responses that the people say. For weekdays it does not contain the readings though, they are only in there for the Sunday mass.
4- Communion - When it was time for this everyone got up and went up, did their thing, but I just kinda sat there feeling dumb. Should I walk up there and say anything and not take it, or exactly what should I do here?
It would probably be fine for you to walk up with your arms crossed over your chest. You can ask for a blessing. Or you could sit in the pew and say some prayers.
5- I plan on attending my first Sunday Mass this sunday (3 days). What should I expect to be different? Other than lots and lots more people. Should I worry about not knowing what to do?
It is pretty much the same, but longer. They say the Nicene creed every Sunday, but not necessarily at weekday mass. There will also be singing.
That’s it off the top of my head, I will think of more and add them as time goes by I’m sure, Thanks in advance.

God Bless.
I will keep you in my prayers and hope everything goes well for you.
 
Many of you have mentioned singing of this upcoming Mass on Palm Sunday, what exactly do we sing, is there music, etc…
 
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abb:
Many of you have mentioned singing of this upcoming Mass on Palm Sunday, what exactly do we sing, is there music, etc…
Psalms and some hymns.
 
Since this Sunday is Palm Sunday, I have something to add. In case it hasn’t been mentioned yet, on Palm Sunday feel free to take a palm frond. Some parishes bless some beforehand and will leave them in the vestibule (the entryway) coming into the church. Others are unblessed, but are blessed during the mass. Others may have them available after mass is over. Whichever way it goes, you may take one.

Remember that it has been blessed and should be treated with respect. Some people weave their palm frond into a cross while others may put them behind a crucifix on the wall. Still others just keep them as they are.

They are not thrown away in the trash but rather burned (which you can do). As a side note, the ashes used during Ash Wednesday masses are from burnt palms from the previous year(s).

For others on this thread, if I misstated something above, please correct me…

God Bless Abb
 
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