First Mass experience

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Hello. I am a Catholic who would like to bring non-Catholics to mass. As I look at the mass from a perspective of someone who has never been, i think that it probably looks quite strange.

I have heard from some people that the first time they went that it was beautiful and reverent and i have also heard that it was boring and scary. I recently heard that the people seemed dead inside and there there is no way they could ever go again.

I would like to invite anyone who came to mass for the first time from another tradition what your initial reaction was.

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If you find a good, reverent Mass, would you please share it with some of us?
I remember wondering what was going on at my first Mass, a Wedding of some adult friends.
 
I took my baptist roommate to mass with me about a month ago. All I told him beforehand was to not receive communion.

He did alright, although he didn’t know what to do. Just make sure your friend has a missal and (s)he should do fine.

Oh, afterwards, my roommate said that he’d like to go again but ‘doesn’t want to make a habit out of it’ 😉

-Penitant
 
I took my baptist roommate to mass with me about a month ago. All I told him beforehand was to not receive communion.

He did alright, although he didn’t know what to do. Just make sure your friend has a missal and (s)he should do fine.

Oh, afterwards, my roommate said that he’d like to go again but ‘doesn’t want to make a habit out of it’ 😉

-Penitant
did he comment on the people at the mass at all?
 
did he comment on the people at the mass at all?
I took a Baptist friend with me on Ash Wednesday. She was surprised the service (and the homily in particular) was so short. And she was somewhat amused by all the sitting, standing, kneeling, responding in unison etc.
 
Growing up Catholic, I recall feeling proud when I knew all the words to the prayers, and said them in the same cadence as everyone else, when I knew to sit, stand, kneel automatically along with everyone.

Then I attended Protestant churches for many years, and they “mix” it up more. The prayers are not always exactly the same. Often there are prayers that change each week according to the theme of the readings, etc. In some churches the order of the service changes weekly as well. Everything is not as predictable.

Now when I attend Catholic Mass, it seems different to me. People do sound “dead” and appear as if they are “going through the motions” because of the automatic nature of the response. The fact that people “drone” the prayers in unison can make them come across as fake and without spirit.

That is how it often appears to one who visits. It is impossible to know what is going on in anyone’s heart, but the intense unison sometimes comes across as mere recitation.

I know this is not the case and that people feel much in their hearts and are being reverant, but after attending other types of Christian services, I can understand how people can get the wrong idea of Catholicism.

It is easy to misinterpret things from just one exposure.

cheddar
 
I’ve been to one or two when family members had baptism. Very similar to my Lutheran church, too. I vaguely remember it, but I think it was a “smaller” church (1 priest), and I don’t think it had many of the traditional things I would see on TV. (I think they did have incense, though).
 
I think people feel cold and distance at the mass when they first go
 
did he comment on the people at the mass at all?
Not particularly, but I’m part of a rather good parish (thank God). He asked me a few questions afterward (why do we cross ourselves, for example) and said that he really liked the homily, but that was about it.

If he says he wants to go back, it couldn’t have been too frightening.
 
This is just my personal theory, but I think that one of the best ways to bring Protestants “home” to the Catholic Church is to get them to attend mass, not just once, but over and over again.

My husband and I were extremely involved evangelical Protestants for over 40 years. When my youngest daughter was in high school, she was a member of a world-ranked synchronized skating team that practiced in the Big City 65 miles away from our hometown. Her practice times were Saturday and Sunday from 5:30 AM -1: PM. (There were other practice times during the week–it was and still is one of the best teams in the world.)

That meant we couldn’t attend our Protestant church on Sunday mornings. We tried going to church in a church near the rink in the Big City, but spent most of the service wondering if our daughter was alright. (Synchronized skating is dangerous, and it’s better if a parent is around when there is an accident. Our older daughter had to be taken to the ER when she was bladed in the nose; thankfully Daddy was there to take her.)

So one weekend I announced that I would go to the Catholic Church down the road, since they had a Saturday EVENING service. (We didn’t know at the time that it’s not a “service.”)

My husband and I went to the Catholic Church, and said, “We should keep doing this. The Bible says that we’re not supposed to forsake assembling ourselves together with other believers. Even though it’s Catholic, it’s still Christian, and it’s important that we obey God’s Word, even if we don’t agree with everything they teach.”

Bottom Line–we started attending Mass out of OBEDIENCE to God’s Word. We had always been taught to obey God’s Word, and we did so.

And God honored that obedience.

We went week after week, seldom missing a mass. Within a few weeks, we made an appointment to talk to one of the priests, and asked him to explain all that was happening in the mass, and what a Protestant could and couldn’t do. (We knew we shouldn’t take the Communion.)

He recommended that we attend the church’s Apologetics Class, which we did, and discovered that the teacher was a former member of one of the evangelical churches we had attended!

Within a few months, we both “recognized” Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament. I think we recognized Him all along, but prejudice against Catholic teaching prevented us from admitting it. But we had known Him as Savior and Lord since childhood, so of course we recognized Jesus when we saw Him, even though He was “veiled” as Bread and Wine.

It was so exciting to see Jesus, even veiled. If I may make an analogy, it was like recognizing your favorite movie star in an airport! But Jesus is so much more than a mere movie star! He is the LORD.

I think both of us said the same thing–“It is the LORD!”

That’s when we really started studying the Catholic Church–when we KNEW that Jesus was there waiting for us.

I think if Protestants had the opportunity to attend mass, many of them would also “recognize” Jesus, their Lord and Savior. After all, it’s really, truly HIM! It’s not just a “teaching,” it’s HIM!

The problem is, many Protestants are committed to various ministries in their own churches, and they simply can’t miss those ministries for more than a few weeks. (E.g., Sunday School teacher, Children’s Church teacher, choir member, nursery aide, kitchen helper, communion preparation, etc.). So they might go to a Catholic Church once for a wedding, but they simply aren’t going to go week after week.

We are very thankful that our daughters were synchronized skaters, otherwise, we might never have visited the Catholic Church! Isn’t it neat the way God worked that out for us?

There is more to the story than that. About a year after we started going to mass at the Catholic Church, we were kicked out of our evangelical church when a woman pastor made accusations against me that were not true. (A year later, she was fired after being caught in a lie.) It was terrible, awful, but thank God, He had a Church all ready for us!

BTW, both of my daughters attend Catholic churches, even though they aren’t Catholic. But in recent months, both of them have stated that they think they should become Catholic.

So my theory might be true. Get Protestants to come to mass week after week, and they will see the same Jesus that they “accepted into their hearts.”

What do you think of my theory?

BTW, since that time, many Protestant churches have started doing Saturday evening services. So if God’s timing hadn’t been perfect, my husband and I might have started attending a Sat. night Protestant service, and we would have missed coming home. Again, thank God!
 
It depended on where I went. I’ve attended mass three times.

The first time was at the parish of a priest that had known my husband since my husband was a child. You could actually have a decent discussion with this priest on spiritual matters. He lovingly spoke to his flock and it was like a normal service to me.

The second time was at a Christ Mass Eve. My SIL needed to take communion…it was the only time of year she did so (she is now anabaptist). It was crowded and we were in the back. It was dark and seemed to be only ceremonial.

The third time was at a church where the priest shouldn’t have been. It was on Saturday evening. We didn’t know that they didn’t “dress for church”. Half the church stood in the foyer looking through the windows and dressed in their ball game clothes, they were there and then out of there to make the game. The only ppl actually in the pews were the older people praying the rosary. A catholic friend went with us. As we were leaving the priest snubbed us. He was greeting everyone. When my friend and husband both tried to speak with him and offered their hands he turned away from each of them and glared at me. Go figure…not a man I would want leading in ANY church.

Take from that what you will. If you want to take a Protestant to a service I would stay away from the “big days” (Christ Mass and Easter) and take them to a regular service.
 
When I took dh for his first mass he was amazed at how similar it was to Lutheran MO synod services. He said it was more reverent than the Lutheran Church and he liked it better…

When I took him to a healing mass he became visably moved by the experience…guess they don’t do those in the Lutheran Church…
 
When I went ot my first Mass while Mormon, I was astounded. I picked apart everything in the creed. I picked everything apart. I refused to kneel when everyone else did, I refused to stand while everyone else was doing it.

In time, I began to see how humble and beautiful the Mass was.

In time I became overwhelmed with a desire for the Eucharist.

Tell your friend to kneel when everyone else kneels. Stand when everyone else stands. Pray with everyone else and the Eucharist will call him/her to Himself.

in Christ
Steph
 
The first mass I went to was a couple of years ago. I don’t remember much about it and went in with a bad attitude. I had to go for a class. We had to go to churches of a denomination that was different from ours.

This past Saturday I went to my first mass since that one. I really liked it. I actually felt moved, which has never happened at church before in my entire life. I didn’t get a missal, though, because at the first church we went to they were at the pews. At this church they are in the lobby or whatever you want to call it.
 
Well santaro, I’ve been debating on whether I should post to this thread or start my own because I don’t have story but rathed a question similar to your own. If I’m derailing your thread just let me know and I’ll see if the moderators can move or delete this.

I have a friend whom I would like to take to mass. Right now she has no way to get to church, and I have offered to let her come with my family. She grew up in Nazarene and Baptist churches, but does recognize the Catholic Church as Christian. I know those churches are sooooo different from the Catholic Church and am afraid she will be completely lost and confused and not get anything out of it. I have taken her to a parish dinner and while there showed her the chapel and explained some things about our beliefs (relics in the altar, candles, stations, holy water, the tabernacle and real presence, and confession). She seemed really interested and commented about how she could really feel God’s presence there.

She is a really spiritual person and has told me she’d like some time to hear about my conversion to the Faith. I’m trying to be nonchalant in sharing my faith with her, but deep down I want to spill my joy in finding the Church out all over her. I really don’t want to scare her off by coming on too strong. I am praying for the Holy Spirit to guide me so I don’t rush it. But I would love, love, love to bring her home!!! (As I would everyone!)

I want to bring her to Mass so bad, but am really hesitant. My reasons are these:
  1. The parish I attend and love is very old school. I’m afraid she might find it boring. Our priest (I love him) is 75 and tends to drone on and on; I’m afraid she wouldn’t get much out of it even though I am filled to the brim every time we go.
  2. The parish we went to dinner at is where I would tend to steer her as it is a little more friendly. However, I left there because of unorthodox teaching that was going on and I don’t want her to think that these things are okay. (Also I think the priest there is a little mad at us for leaving.)
  3. I think the cathedral is a good balance between these two, however, it’s been temporarily closed (I just found out) because of a fire. It probably won’t reopen until Christmas. This is the parish I attended when I was converting.
These are the only parishes I’ve attended in my town.

So what do you guys think? I don’t know too much about Nazarenes and I want to make sure I don’t overwhelm her or make her feel pressured. I guess I just want her to feel the love for the Church that I feel.
 

So what do you guys think? I don’t know too much about Nazarenes and I want to make sure I don’t overwhelm her or make her feel pressured. I guess I just want her to feel the love for the Church that I feel.
Well…Nazarene and Baptist! Two very different doctrinal systems. If she was exclusively Nazarene - she’d be “stuck in the mud” like so many others. I was originally with the Nazarene church, then because military assignments all over I mixed with Baptists and other denominations. I can remember saying in those early Nazarene years _ "I’ll never leave the Nazarene Truth (church). Well, I’ve done it. Never say never. I’ve been through all the doctrines in Protestantism being left dry in the wilderness until I found The Truth in the Holy Catholic Church!

Pax and Best Regards,
Don
 
Well…Nazarene and Baptist! Two very different doctrinal systems…
Pax and Best Regards,
Don
Really?? Like I said, I don’t know that much about Nazarenes (except I think I heard they were somehow related to Methodists). I asked her one day what church she went to and she said that when she had a car she had attended a baptist one. I just remember her mentioning one day that she grew up in the Nazarene church.

I grew up southern baptist, so I pretty much know about them. Of course, there are what, like, 300 different types of baptists? I guess I was surprised that she considered Catholics Christians because of the baptist church I was raised in, but perhaps her baptist church was different. Or maybe she didn’t go to the baptist church for very long and has more of a Nazarene understanding.

I think it would be helpful to understand the background of the church she grew up in so I can better help her to understand our Faith.

Oh, and congrats, Don, on finding your way home!
 
Really?? Like I said, I don’t know that much about Nazarenes (…
Nazarenes consider themselves distinct from most other Protestants - in that they are “holiness” people. This means no smoking, drinking, and going with those that do those things. Their doctrines teach separation from the world and abstaining from things “not to the glory of God”. Well, this would include just about everything! I won’t go into the havoc of my life as a Nazarene! Suffice it to say that since I was not supposed to be a sinner anymore but rather holy I fell short. And the more it bothered me the more depressed I became. There was no way out. I couldn’t be that Holy. On the other side of the coin, most evangelical Protestants don’t think they’re sinners anymore and those that do, presume upon the Grace of God without being penitent.
What does all this have to do with your friend? Well, nothing, I hope! The word “Nazarene” evokes some memories of lost years.
In your friend’s case, it may be a lot different. Her age and experience have a lot to do with it. And…the fact that she “felt God’s presence” in the Catholic Church - well, that says something. As far as your fears about the Priest being old, etc…I think a solemn Mass may be refreshing in contrast to an upbeat protestant/nazarene service.
Regards,
Don
 
the Catholic church is like beef jerky. you have to chew and chew and chew to get the flavor out. but once it gets going the flavor is incredible!
 
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