First Reconcilation

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I am in a bit of a panic and need some help. I went to my first reconciliation with my RCIA class not long ago. I was the last one to go in. It was late by the time it was my turn. I do admit I was mindful of the time and was trying to be concise and timely. I walked through this handout for confession and was walking through it trying to be as thorough as one can and as we were finishing and the priest was ending with me I recalled in my mind another sin I forgot to say by name. I did confess to what it would be counted with by topic but I wasn’t thinking of it at the time earlier and at the end when it came to my mind, I didn’t want to interrupt the Priest and so I then let my time end without speaking it……… and now feel panicked……. because I don’t know if I’m in a true state of grace or not……. I am to receive my first communion on Saturday but now feel that I shouldn’t until I go again to the priest and confess. I have since then remembered more things that I forgot which I know technically are forgiven because I confessed and asked to be forgiven for those that I didn’t remember to say……. but the one I did before we ended is weighing on my mind as to how it should be handled? I know I could always just ask my priest but now I’m sort of embarrassed that I didn’t speak up when I should of which is probably a 2nd sin in itself…
 
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Do you think the sin was mortal? I doubt it since it wasn’t on top of your list.
 
It would be counted as mortal in my mind, because immortal means in my newer understanding something I did even though I knew it was wrong but chose to do it anyway ….which this sin was and falls under. It was 1 of the 10 commandments even. I had planned to confess it but bigger ones were the focus… not to make light of it but having a good few decades to confess on my list it just got overlooked until the last second when we were ending…
 
If you had forgotten them at the time of your confession, just confess them next time. As with the one you remembered as the priest was speaking, it’s not as if you withheld it intentionally. Please be at peace. Your sins were forgiven by the priest.
 
Welcome Home, by the way!! <3

I was so nervous at my first Confession, that I went home and stressed for the rest of the day about all of the sins that I’d forgotten. So I understand! But truly, be at peace. You are forgiven of everything. You truly are. If, however, it would give you extra peace of mind, go to Confession once again before Easter Vigil.
 
It is not that easy to commit a mortal sin! Stealing for example has to be a significant amount. You have to want to offend God.
 
This happens to almost everyone who is about to enter the Catholic Church. If you had the intention to confess everything and did your best then you are OK. If the sin keeps bothering you then confess it at your next confession. If not forget. Our thoughts and the “bad guy” loves to torment people… and especially after confession.

It is common for converts to have between 20-70 years of sins to confess and the Church knows that we can’t possibly remember every single mortal sin.

I am off to buy a beautiful flower for the Blessed virgin with Child statue just as I have done since I was received into the Church to bring with me on Easter Sunday.
 
Please don’t feel sorry for me. I am just trying to do what is right and in the big picture … I recognize the beauty of this sacrement and the part I am having issue with is … I still knowing in a way sinned doing it… that is the panic. I couldn’t even be fully truthful in this moment even at the last second if that makes sense and while I try to justify it, the feelings I have show that I knew I should of spoke up but chose not to… again proving that while I am remorseful for my sins and wrong doings I didn’t speak up when I probably should of. Never was the the sacrament torture, nor was I not shown mercy while there… what I am feeling is from myself and from my own doings or what I feel was wrong… It is within myself that I need to be honest with … Although, it is still my desire to be right with God and was my desire even then while doing so… I want to do what I should to please God not that the sacrament caused me any wrong it was I that possibly did / am confused if I did so myself… make sense?
 
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If you had forgotten them at the time of your confession, just confess them next time. As with the one you remembered as the priest was speaking, it’s not as if you withheld it intentionally. Please be at peace. Your sins were forgiven by the priest.
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This happened to my daughter recently. She said she’d confessed to the first thing she wanted to say and paused. In that brief moment, the priest continued with the absolution and she didn’t know what to do because she didn’t want to interrupt him.
I told her she fully intended to say it, and it wasn’t her fault, and I’m sure she was absolved and forgiven.
 
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