First time praying in front of abortion clinic... Advice?

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God’s been telling me to do this, and I’m both really excited and really scared. I’m a senior in high school and will be going with two other friends (at least) to pray outside the abortion clinic that’s 2 hours away on Monday, the 26th of October (my school’s day off). Me and the two other confirmed girls are really intensely ready to do this. Either the pro-life lady from my church or my mom will be there for guidance, but this is our initiative.

Does anybody have any advice to help prepare me for this?? Specifically gory or non-gory signs, do we yell out, please don’t!, or what??

Already we’re being “persecuted” by our so-called friends at school, who are really tearing us down, cussing us out, and saying the worst things about us. This only reinforces how much we need to do this.

Thanks in advance for all the help!! I really appreciate it!
 
It is my opinion that the Pro-Life position is strong enough to stand on it’s own merits. I’m not sure that gory images are necessary. My fiance have been talking about doing just this soon. I guess my plan is to not back away from people who want to engage me, and of course be polite and stick to my arguments 🙂
 
I wouldn’t recommend gory images in that setting. While it is important that people understand what abortion does, using such images in protests often just makes people weary of the pro-life message. Just use prayer, that sets an example.
 
for the most part, Gory signs just label you “fanatics” and you will be ignored.
for the most part

and secondly, NEVER shout. with various people shouting all anyone hears is a threatening roar. its scary. i walked near a planned parenthood and heard the pro life rally… (and i am pro life) and all i heard was loud scary noise. not something to make you sound like you are trying to help.

big words on signs.
praying
on your knees if you can without freezing or violating the keep moving rules
rosaries.
give away knotted rosaries if you can ( www.rosaryarmy.com)
the words “let me help” are good.

just always remember, you are NOT there to harass the women. you are there to SAVE people. you want them to see you as people they could talk to, as people who care.
if YOU were doing something (no , not abortion) and a bunch of people were screaming and yelling at you… you wouldnt think they were your friends.
 
I think it’s important to keep in mind that alot of clinics provide many reproductive health services besides abortion and it’s not fair to assume that everyone who goes into a clinic is going there for an abortion. Furthermore, holding up graphic signs and yelling at people is not going to sway anyone towards your cause (it’s not what Jesus would do either). If your gonna do that people are going to write you off as a nutcase very quickly. I support your right to protest whatever you want, but I don’t believe it’s your right to heckle people who are going to this facility. Also keep in mind that your views on abortion are in the minority in the US, I assume that you live in the US. That means that you are going to be opening yourself up to further potential persecution if you go out there and protest, especially if your heckling people.
 
Pray, and carry a big sign with the first sentence of Jeremiah 1:5 on it.
 
If a medical clinic offers a wide range of medical services, then it wouldn’t be called ABORTION CLINIC would it?

Remember a thousand good deeds do not make this evil practice right.

For the OP, listen to this mp3. I know it is about exorcism, but hear this priest out and what he recommends people do to the abortion clinic is interesting.

audiosancto.org/auweb/20081007-An-Evening-with-an-Exorcist.mp3

May the Holy Spirit fills you with the grace and strength in what you are doing.

God Bless
 
God’s been telling me to do this, and I’m both really excited and really scared. I’m a senior in high school and will be going with two other friends (at least) to pray outside the abortion clinic that’s 2 hours away on Monday, the 26th of October (my school’s day off). Me and the two other confirmed girls are really intensely ready to do this. Either the pro-life lady from my church or my mom will be there for guidance, but this is our initiative.
God bless you for your witness to the Truth.

The first thing you need to do is know the law in your city. Some cities have “bubble zones” around clinics. You need to know your city ordinances regarding such things. Also, know your right to be on the public sidewalk. Know the law about permits for gatherings.

If there is already a pro-life presence at this site simply ask those who are there. Or call the local pro-life group that prays there. Or call your state Right To Life organization and ask.

It is important to know what not to do. It is equally important to know what is permitted. I’ve had “escorts” flat out lie to me telling me I couldn’t stand where I was standing in an effort to intimidate me. But, knowing the law I knew that what they were saying was untrue and I continued to stand exactly where I was and ingored them.
Does anybody have any advice to help prepare me for this??
Go to confession and receive the Eucharist as close to the time you will be there as you can. Be armed spiritually. Say the prayer to St. Michael before you arrive.
Specifically gory or non-gory signs, do we yell out, please don’t!, or what??
There is a difference between prayer presence and sidewalk counseling. If you want to do counseling, I suggest you get trained from a local pro-life group. It’s emotionally intense. There are methods that are more effective than others, and there are also things you can say that are absolutely ineffective and can be harmful.

When you are praying, focus on the prayer. Your witness will be silent but powerful.

If you feel called to talk to the women, be kind. Don’t yell. Don’t say “Don’t do it” or “don’t kill your baby”. A woman going into an abortion clinic has already mentally aborted her baby. You want to reconnect her to the fact that she is carrying a baby. Instead, say “I’m praying for you, Mom.” “We can help you, Mom.” “We love you, Mom.” (Call them Mom whenever you can).
Already we’re being “persecuted” by our so-called friends at school, who are really tearing us down, cussing us out, and saying the worst things about us. This only reinforces how much we need to do this.

Thanks in advance for all the help!! I really appreciate it!
Most women going into abortion clinics are young and seeing young people out there is important.

If you want to evangelize your friends, start with Randy Alcorn’s book Pro-Life Answer to Pro-Choice Arguments. Become a skilled debater and shatter their pro-choice rhetoric. I guarantee most have never gone below the surface on why they believe they are “pro-choice.”
 
I think it’s important to keep in mind that alot of clinics provide many reproductive health services besides abortion and it’s not fair to assume that everyone who goes into a clinic is going there for an abortion.
This is quite true.

Women having an abortion will be arriving early in the morning. If the clinic opens at 7 and closes at 2 or 3, the bulk of abortion appointments will be there between 7-9. The women will be wearing loose clothing, usually two piece like jogging suits. They will have been told to wear loose clothing, and bring a jacket/sweat top to keep warm. They will not have eaten anything the night before or had anything to drink. They will likely not be wearing makeup but some do. Someone else will be with them because they will not be allowed to drive themselves home (or in the saddest cases, they arrive by taxi). Emotional disposition will not be an indicator as much as these other things. The young ones may be laughing or giggling going in even if it’s an abortion-- this is nervous energy coming out in an incongruous way.

Women going in for other types of “services” will be wearing skirts, tight clothes, high heels, have on makeup, be carrying a Starbuck’s cup, may be alone (although surprisingly many teens seeking birth control go in packs), etc.

It’s pretty easy to spot the abortions once you have experience with it.

One complicating factor is that the abortion pill is now available, so some women may be getting this pill and are harder to spot.

Also, women who are going to have an abortion may go in several times, so even if they are nicely dressed they may be abortion clients, just not that day.
That means that you are going to be opening yourself up to further potential persecution if you go out there and protest, especially if your heckling people.
It is important to keep in mind there is a difference between protesting and praying/sidewalk counseling.

There may be groups out there doing all of the above. But, you need to decide why you are there and then act accordinly.

The March for Life in Washington is a protest and a rally.

Praying outside the clinic is not.

Your demeanor should reflect your purpose.
 
God’s been telling me to do this, and I’m both really excited and really scared. I’m a senior in high school and will be going with two other friends (at least) to pray outside the abortion clinic that’s 2 hours away on Monday, the 26th of October (my school’s day off). Me and the two other confirmed girls are really intensely ready to do this. Either the pro-life lady from my church or my mom will be there for guidance, but this is our initiative.

Does anybody have any advice to help prepare me for this?? Specifically gory or non-gory signs, do we yell out, please don’t!, or what??

Already we’re being “persecuted” by our so-called friends at school, who are really tearing us down, cussing us out, and saying the worst things about us. This only reinforces how much we need to do this.

Thanks in advance for all the help!! I really appreciate it!
…peace be with you…really…

…it pleases me to read the posts made to your thread…

…be humble, kind, and gentle in all that you do…

…pray quietly, contemplatively if you can and know how…

…avoid distraction and frivolous speech…silent prayer speaks volumes about Life…

…avoid loud and agressive people…

…when you return to school, rather than allow the conflict between you and those who have “persecuted” you to take root, you might want to approach your senior class leadership to start a “save a child” (from starvation) campaign as a senior class project…hopefully, all in your senior class can/will work together in harmony toward this end…challenge the other classes to “save a child” as well and challenge teachers and administrators to maintain the project as an on-going good will/good faith venture in charity that lasts for the life of the school…i’ve done this before with classes that i taught in a jr. high - even though the students came from very poor families, they were able to raise the funds to “adopt a child” from the philippines through organizing a few car washes and bake sales…they did this almost completely on their own…they learned a lot about the philippines in the process, and more importantly, about themselves, cooperation, and good will…if you have a rival school, you might consider challenging them to do the same…with the right kind of mind/spirit/organization/publicity perhaps a state-wide effort might be possible…

…so many children in third-world countries die from lack of nutrition, safe/drinkable water, and/or medical care - it is just as sorrowful a situation as the loss of life by through abortion…by saving a child’s life in this way, you can perhaps build bridges with others who now oppose our position on abortion, allow them to enjoy the fruits of true charity, contribute in the fight against poverty/starvation/death, and maybe allow a chance for people to change their minds about what your faith re: life is all about…

…thank you for giving me hope in the generation that is to come…

…peace—>mark
 
If a medical clinic offers a wide range of medical services, then it wouldn’t be called ABORTION CLINIC would it?
In the US there are facilities that do only abortions and there are facilities that do abortions plus other “services”. US pro-lifers pray in front of both types of facilities.
 
I think it’s important to keep in mind that alot of clinics provide many reproductive health services besides abortion and it’s not fair to assume that everyone who goes into a clinic is going there for an abortion. Furthermore, holding up graphic signs and yelling at people is not going to sway anyone towards your cause (it’s not what Jesus would do either). If your gonna do that people are going to write you off as a nutcase very quickly. I support your right to protest whatever you want, but I don’t believe it’s your right to heckle people who are going to this facility. Also keep in mind that your views on abortion are in the minority in the US, I assume that you live in the US. That means that you are going to be opening yourself up to further potential persecution if you go out there and protest, especially if your heckling people.
Minority? You mean like 44% saying abortion should be illegal, and 46% saying it should be legal? With a margin of error of plus or minus two percent… I guess I’m the only one who feels this way. Wow, awesome argument Greebus. Great job. Nothing I haven’t heard before.:rolleyes:

Plus I actually would like to be persecuted for standing up for what’s right (in all seriousness). Maybe if some pro-abortion nut starts screaming at us, then he will scare off a woman walking in. She’ll see just who wants her to have that abortion.

Thanks everybody else! I think you’ve convinced me about the graphic signs. I kinda felt that way before but wasn’t sure.🤷
I’ll definitely share this with my friends!!
 
Also this is a video with people protesting in front of the Rockford Illinois Abortion Clinic:
youtube.com/watch?v=kCzAjBUjacI&feature=player_embedded

A woman says this:

They’re going to tear that baby limb from limb. Please will you let us help you today? I can give you a map to the free clinic down the street, anything you may need they can help you with. Please don’t do this today! Please love your baby and take care of her.

We’re going to say things like this.😃
 
Also this is a video with people protesting in front of the Rockford Illinois Abortion Clinic:
youtube.com/watch?v=kCzAjBUjacI&feature=player_embedded

A woman says this:

They’re going to tear that baby limb from limb. Please will you let us help you today? I can give you a map to the free clinic down the street, anything you may need they can help you with. Please don’t do this today! Please love your baby and take care of her.

We’re going to say things like this.😃
…peace be with you…really…

…pray to do as Spirit may move you…i pray that this may be so…

…i would like to know of the outcome…if you should get a chance, please let me know…i am a writer and in the process of writing an essay re: God’s message to “choose life”…your feeling/thoughts concerning the experience at the clinic would be greatly appreciated…

…peace—>mark
 
Minority? You mean like 44% saying abortion should be illegal, and 46% saying it should be legal? With a margin of error of plus or minus two percent… I guess I’m the only one who feels this way. Wow, awesome argument Greebus. Great job. Nothing I haven’t heard before.:rolleyes:

Plus I actually would like to be persecuted for standing up for what’s right (in all seriousness). Maybe if some pro-abortion nut starts screaming at us, then he will scare off a woman walking in. She’ll see just who wants her to have that abortion.

Thanks everybody else! I think you’ve convinced me about the graphic signs. I kinda felt that way before but wasn’t sure.🤷
I’ll definitely share this with my friends!!
I’d just like to point out that I wasn’t presenting an argument for abortion, just a reminder that better than 1/2 the people that see you won’t agree with what your doing
 
i gave you my opinions before…
now let me tell you the “oppositions” point of view…

not the hard core stuff, the “i am pro- choice” folks who are NOT rabid nut jobs. you see, i used to be one. i mean i wasnt… exactly… i mean… well i dont like anyone telling me that because of YOUR religion, i have to do what you say.

frankly a lot of the people going by, the kids in your school, the office workers who will see you… they are “pro choice” in that way. its mostly, well what i now recognize as a spirit of pride “no one can tell me what to do” plus a rather nervous fear that if they give an inch on this, they will end up living in Afghanistan.
oh, yes
you and i know we dont want women muzzled. we dont want women unable to work, or go to school… but all it takes is ONE loud religious nut job…and the pro abortion lobby says “see? see? they want their religious rules to govern your life… next step is a Burka!”

so remember you have two MAIN things underlying the average “pro choice” person
fear
rebellion/pride

and if you push… if you take an aggressive stance. unless you are very careful they will just get MORE afraid… and more rebellious.

Love drives out fear
make sure that you dont do anything “scary”. or they WILL be more likely to belive that pro abortion lobby…

and also remember, the escorts? the ones who are walking the women through the pickets and such? they are not the enemy either.
i know several of them
they are afraid you will HURT those women. many of them have BEEN those women. and they are afraid of you.
they honestly think you are out to get them. that you are like their “religious” uncle who raped them and then called them names… that you are like the crazy stereotype the pro abortion folks throw in their face day in and day out. that you are a potential bomber, shooter, etc
yes, they do
i know
its been all i can do to convince some of these folks that I wasnt going to hurt them, when they found out i was pro life, and i found out they were a “escort”. they honestly thought i might hurt them… and they had known me for a couple years.
they dont know you.
**
“be wise as serpents… and gentle as doves”**
 
i gave you my opinions before…
now let me tell you the “oppositions” point of view…

not the hard core stuff, the “i am pro- choice” folks who are NOT rabid nut jobs. you see, i used to be one. i mean i wasnt… exactly… i mean… well i dont like anyone telling me that because of YOUR religion, i have to do what you say.

frankly a lot of the people going by, the kids in your school, the office workers who will see you… they are “pro choice” in that way. its mostly, well what i now recognize as a spirit of pride “no one can tell me what to do” plus a rather nervous fear that if they give an inch on this, they will end up living in Afghanistan.
oh, yes
you and i know we dont want women muzzled. we dont want women unable to work, or go to school… but all it takes is ONE loud religious nut job…and the pro abortion lobby says “see? see? they want their religious rules to govern your life… next step is a Burka!”

so remember you have two MAIN things underlying the average “pro choice” person
fear
rebellion/pride

and if you push… if you take an aggressive stance. unless you are very careful they will just get MORE afraid… and more rebellious.

Love drives out fear
make sure that you dont do anything “scary”. or they WILL be more likely to belive that pro abortion lobby…

and also remember, the escorts? the ones who are walking the women through the pickets and such? they are not the enemy either.
i know several of them
they are afraid you will HURT those women. many of them have BEEN those women. and they are afraid of you.
they honestly think you are out to get them. that you are like their “religious” uncle who raped them and then called them names… that you are like the crazy stereotype the pro abortion folks throw in their face day in and day out. that you are a potential bomber, shooter, etc
yes, they do
i know
its been all i can do to convince some of these folks that I wasnt going to hurt them, when they found out i was pro life, and i found out they were a “escort”. they honestly thought i might hurt them… and they had known me for a couple years.
they dont know you.
**
“be wise as serpents… and gentle as doves”**
Thank you for your great insight. I too, a college soon-to-be grad, will be attending tomorrow at 1pm a local abortion clinic counseling/prayer and never been to one before. Good points to remember for me and the OP…
 
Check the 40 Days for Life website (www.40daysforlife.com) and see if they have a presence in your area. They are currently doing a national campaign and have people outside of abortion clinics in many areas. If they are in your area, contact them before hand and join their group. They have signs prepared, so you don’t have to take any and they give guidelines on how to act and things to say.

Good luck and God bless you for taking this stand.
 
Wow! What wonderful advice… I feel much more confident now 🙂
Check the 40 Days for Life website (www.40daysforlife.com) and see if they have a presence in your area. They are currently doing a national campaign and have people outside of abortion clinics in many areas. If they are in your area, contact them before hand and join their group. They have signs prepared, so you don’t have to take any and they give guidelines on how to act and things to say.

Good luck and God bless you for taking this stand.
I plan on doing it through them actually! The only problem is I couldn’t find the email for the local ones… The city with the abortion clinic is a two hour drive away (thanks be to God that there’s not one closer!!) so it will be quite an effort to get posters form them, but worth it.
 
God bless you for your amazing effort, you girls give me renewed hope for the future! We use the pictures of aborted babies at the Planned parenthood abortion clinic. I know of children that are alive today because their mother saw the sign and decided not to kill the baby. They are especialy useful if you are not able to aproach the women.
God does inspire you with the Holy Spirit so say what comes to mind, i have a friend who simply said “abortion is murder” to a woman going in and she came back out (a few months later we had a baby shower for her.) Father Pavone would send you literature if you asked, it is important to get this in their hands because then even if they still go in they may change their minds after reading the brochure.
Here is the CBR websight that your friends may need to see in order to understand your mindset.abortionno.org/
Last of all please keep in mind this is a spiritual BATTLE, go prepared, take your scapular and rosary pray to saint Michael.
 
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