First time wearing my mantilla

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LilyM said:
If you struggle for it and it’s not a requirement to wear it nor a spiritual help to you to do so then why continue?
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Ahh…but it is a spiritual help!

From a previous post:
“I freely choose to do this to battle my own pride (no worrying about my personal attractiveness), as a sign of the Lord’s authority, and as a sign to God that my hair - my “glory” - is covered because I desire His glory to be the sole focus.”

I can’t say that everyone will experience the same results, but at the least it relieves one from having to worry about the back of one’s hair during Mass. 😉
 
LilyM said:
If you struggle for it and it’s not a requirement to wear it nor a spiritual help to you to do so then why continue?
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Lilly,

Don’t you ever want to NOT do something, that you know you should? I do it because I believe I should… I struggle with it because I don’t want people commenting or speculating that I think I’m “holier than them,” or whatever. I grew up protestant without any traditions. I never thought about headcovering after I converted, but in the last 3-4 months I’ve read about it on this board and other places including the Bible. I don’t judge women who don’t wear a headcovering. It’s between them and God. I often find my mind wanders during mass. Somehow it does help me concentrate, even with it tickling, slipping, itching, and what not… I also believe I should because of the angels… It says what it says, the Bible that is. I don’t have to understand why necessarily I need to, but I do… scripture says to humble yourself before the Lord and He will lift you up… I don’t own a mantilla, but I did buy several nice lightweight scarves / shawls, and a couple of berets. I also realize that it is NOT required… I don’t freak out if I’m running late, run out the door and I forget to grab my scarf, hat. Just me being me. :o
 
I started wearing a mantilla about 2 months ago. I can’t say, I wanted to wear it. I took it on as a “cross”. After reading and studying St Paul’s words in the New Testament, and understanding that it was the practice of the Church for two thousand years, I decided to do it. I’m in a small parish of about 800 people. About five women wear head coverings of some sort. A few wear “baseball” style hats, one a “fishing” style hat, one a beret, and two of us are wearing mantillas. None of us would win any fashion awards.

I am a sort of shy person. When on vacation, and I go to Mass in a different church, it’s hard to be the only woman wearing a mantilla. I see it as hypocritical of me if I wear it when I have some company, and not wear it where I am alone. I wear it because as a woman, I’m the Church and Jesus is my head. It outwardly manifests the teaching of the Church in this regard. I do this voluntarily. I believe Jesus wants me to do this out of respect for His presence in the Eucharist. I also believe the Blessed Mother still wears a veil. I believe she wears it out of love for her Son, her head, not as a requirement.

It still feels like a cross at times. Mostly wearing a veil has been a blessing for me that I can not describe.
 
maryelizabeth2 said:
For the first time today I proudly wore my mantilla to Eucharstic Adoration. :clapping:
I found it very comforting and it helped me to concentrate more on the Lord. I didn’t feel uncomfortable but instead closer to God. For all you ladies that have been contempleting wearing a veil I say go for it!

maryelizabeth
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Yeah?
 
Cognito said:
Yeah?
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Yes. It is common for veiling to help you concentrate on the Lord. The encouragement I got here was truly helpful. I’ve been veiling for Mass and its been helping my concentration there, too, not just for Adoration.

I’m really happy it helps Mary Elizabeth and the others that much, too.
 
It was a surprise to me finding how effective and nice it was to pray with my head covered.
Now I really wouldn’t want to be without it at mass or adoration!
I am 33 and even the old dears I remember from my childhood have given up wearing scarves so I feel like a bit of a nut case. A lovely Anglo-Catholic friend of mine skitted and called me a “High Church Hag”:tsktsk: when he spotted me last St Luke’s day. But I think I don’t mind:thumbsup: The life of faith is a life of learning, I suppose? We are still friends:pizza:
 
Thanks for all the postive information. I have been searching for a mantilla for the last couple of weeks after I checked with the Father at our church to make sure it was still ok.

He said if it is my heart to wear one then goa ahead, beaing a child of the 60’s even not raised in the Catholic church, but living overseas and seeing all the lovel,y mantillas that women wore in Italy and France etc. It made an indelable impression on me. If you are in the presence of the Lord one should cover ones head. Att least that for me. Its everyones personal choice. But this one is mine. It makes me feel more prayerful and able to focus on the presence of Our Lord.

This is the best information I have found on this subject after searching for weeks.

Marilynclssc
 
Marilynclssc said:
Thanks for all the postive information. I have been searching for a mantilla for the last couple of weeks after I checked with the Father at our church to make sure it was still ok.

He said if it is my heart to wear one then goa ahead, beaing a child of the 60’s even not raised in the Catholic church, but living overseas and seeing all the lovel,y mantillas that women wore in Italy and France etc. It made an indelable impression on me. If you are in the presence of the Lord one should cover ones head. Att least that for me. Its everyones personal choice. But this one is mine. It makes me feel more prayerful and able to focus on the presence of Our Lord.

This is the best information I have found on this subject after searching for weeks.

Marilynclssc
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monkrock.com has some lovely unexpensive mantillas.
 
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Pride totally killed the point of wearing it. It’s supposed to be a token of humility.
 
maryelizabeth2 said:
For the first time today I proudly wore my mantilla to Eucharstic Adoration. :clapping:
I found it very comforting and it helped me to concentrate more on the Lord. I didn’t feel uncomfortable but instead closer to God. For all you ladies that have been contempleting wearing a veil I say go for it!

maryelizabeth
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Benedici te !
Dio te benedici.
IOW - either in Latin or Italian - God Bless You.
But here’s hoping that wearing any headcovering (it doesn’t have to be a mantilla) is out of respect for God. It’s a good idea to keep a small one in your car’s glove compartment. Sometimes, I find myself passing by my Church (without plans to go - and therefore, without a hat or veil).
 
Conservative said:
Sometimes, I find myself passing by my Church (without plans to go - and therefore, without a hat or veil).
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I’ve started carrying a small triangular one in my purse for those “just in case” moments. You never know when/where you are going to run into Jesus! 😃

~Liza
 
bpbasilphx said:
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Pride totally killed the point of wearing it. It’s supposed to be a token of humility.
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You really are not the first to say this on this thread. (so, not an original response, IOW) However, take it into context. Please.

Example:
I am so proud of my son, he made first confession the other day. :rolleyes:

I am so proud of myself, I learned all the mysteries of the Rosary by heart, I don’t need my little rosary book anymore! :rolleyes:

I am so proud of my sister, she’s coming into the Church. :rolleyes:

I am so proud…I think you know what I’m trying to say.
lizaanne said:
I’ve started carrying a small triangular one in my purse for those “just in case” moments. You never know when/where you are going to run into Jesus! 😃

~Liza
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Liza - for some reason I’ve got into this habit of wearing a scarf. Around my neck most of the time that I am out…(I think I got into the habit after going to Italy, now, those women dress there!) It does come in handy for Jesus moments! 😃
 
DJgang said:
Liza - for some reason I’ve got into this habit of wearing a scarf. Around my neck most of the time that I am out…(I think I got into the habit after going to Italy, now, those women dress there!) It does come in handy for Jesus moments! 😃
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Same here. It is a good feeling having a scarf around my neck, and very handy.
 
SherryLynn9 said:
This is not about my first time wearing a head covering, but I seem to struggle with wearing it. I don’t quite understand it, because it is something I want to do.
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“Because it is something I want to do”…A longing to do so may mean God is moving you towards it.
 
maryelizabeth2 said:
For the first time today I proudly wore my mantilla to Eucharstic Adoration. :clapping:
I found it very comforting and it helped me to concentrate more on the Lord. I didn’t feel uncomfortable but instead closer to God. For all you ladies that have been contempleting wearing a veil I say go for it!

maryelizabeth
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I just bought one today (or, rather, mom bought one for me and one for her). I’m so excited about wearing it because it is not only a privalege (which I can’t spell), but it is an honor. It is pure and feminine, and I do not think that anyone can deny the beauty of it, the beauty that is not seen with the eyes.
 
tseliotfan22 said:
I just bought one today (or, rather, mom bought one for me and one for her). I’m so excited about wearing it because it is not only a privalege (which I can’t spell), but it is an honor. It is pure and feminine, and I do not think that anyone can deny the beauty of it, the beauty that is not seen with the eyes.
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You will not regret your decision to cover your head during Mass. I started covering just this past May, after I came into the Church. I’m probably one of five that cover at my Parish and when I go to the Shrine, I’m one of many (you may notice on EWTN that a lot of women cover their heads, I like to attend the Benediction at the Shrine as well as daily Mass sometimes)…

To me, I don’t even notice that I have it on anymore when I walk in the door. I make sure that it’s attached well to my head, so I don’t have to worry. I find that I dress alot neater for Mass and no one bothers me or talks to me before Mass.

God bless.

Dana
 
Hello everyone,

I’d like to share my own experience wearing the veil. I echo the same sentiments that have been said here, namely, that I feel protected, much more focused on the LORD, and there is no question as to why I’m at mass. I also feel that many men appreciate it too (though I can’t speak for you men!)

I attended my first extraordinary rite mass in July, which was a life changing experience (it was “only” a low mass!!). While leaving church I felt I did not want to take the veil off at all. Outside, I was introduced to a devout Catholic lady who told me that she felt God had called her to cover her head, not just at the mass, but always. What she said really struck a chord with me; I kept my head covered for most of the rest of the day.

Since that time I felt the intense desire to cover my head all the time. Knowing that pretty much the only women we know who cover their heads are Muslims, and being the introverted person I am, I did not want to actually go through with this because I didn’t want to call attention to myself nor did I want to be mistaken for a Muslim. But this desire kept intensifying, and I kept praying to the LORD to ask me for his guidance. He answered me and clearly showed me that he wanted me to cover my head. In any event, after confession, spiritual direction, and much prayer before the Blessed Sacrament, I felt totally at peace in obeying God. I accepted that very few will understand why I am covering my head, especially among our own dear Catholic brothers and sisters. But I became comforted by Mary’s acceptace of being the bearer of God’s Son, even though among her own people there would be very few who understood outwardly what was taking place inwardly

I hope that this message encourages all of you, and thank you for starting this discussion!

Pax Christi,
Palomas
 
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