although i was wondering, is it a sin or wrong to see each other naked (not touching) before you are married?.. I think the reason i would be nervous is cause i panic at the thought of being naked…what do you think?
I’m going to add a guy’s viewpoint here and say that I feel like although it would not necessarily be sinful to see each other naked before your wedding, it would be an extreme disservice to your boyfriend to allow him to see you that way.
Please remember that (at least according to what I have been taught) guys tend to handle the impressions of seeing nudity very differently than women. (Why do you think pornography is so prevalent among men?) So even though it might not be a big deal for you to see him naked, it probably much different for him. A guy can get “turned on” by sight alone.
Also remember:
“Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.” (Matthew 5:27-28)
So my (name removed by moderator)ut is this: Out of your own love and concern for him, don’t do that to him. That would be a situation in which it would be very difficult for him to avoid managing his lust for you.
Also, on a somewhat different note. You asked “what do you think?” And frankly, my initial thoughts on this matter were that your nervousness was simply an excuse made up by your subconsciousness to trick you into getting a little closer to sex. It sounds ridiculous, I know, but in my experience, I’ve found that I often think I am doing something for one reason, only to find out later that I was subconsciously doing it for some other reason that I did not want to admit to myself.
I am not accusing you of falling victim to that type of self-deception, but it is something to keep in mind. Typically the way these things work is that if you give yourself a little leeway, you soon find yourself taking further steps than you would have considered before. You allow yourselves to see each other naked, and once that becomes acceptable, you take one more tiny step after another, and soon you are to the point where you are doing “everything but.”
Although you may have more self-control than the majority of human beings in this world, my personal recommendation is to not test yourself in that way and to not go down that road at all.
Best wishes.
Edit: Sorry. I started typing this reply prior to the other replies being posted and didn’t know that this question had already been responded to. My apologies for posting a redundant answer.
