Flirting with muslim women

[CTBcin]

Contrary to what other posters have said, NO , it is not “okay” to marry someone of a contradictory or even merely not-on-the-same-page faith.

This is absolutely not true. Are inter-faith marriages ideal? No. But they are allowed by the Church and are perfectly valid. But inter-faith marriages will lead to difficulties and complications, which the couples need to be cognizant of and prepared for.

 

[Niblo]

Maybe under certain schools of Islamic jurisprudence.

It’s not very conductive though to speak of Muslims as if they are monolithic. There is a vast array of differing schools of Islamic jurisprudence.

‘And do not give your women in marriage to the polytheists (l-mush’rikīna) until they believe.’ (Al-Baqara: 221).

Puritans quote this verse in support of their claim that a Muslim woman may not marry a Christian. As far as they are concerned, any Muslima who does is an adulteress.

This is pure nonsense.

Nowhere in the Qur’an are Christians referred to as ‘polytheists’. On the contrary, they are given the honorific title ‘People of the Book’. A Muslim male is free to marry a Christian woman; and she is at liberty to retain, and to practise, her Faith.

There is nothing in the Qur’an – or Sunnah – that prohibits a Muslim woman from marrying a Christian; and ‘that which is not forbidden is permissible’ (a maxim of Islamic law).

The Exalted gave each of us a mind, and a conscience. It is for each of us to discover what is true; and we alone are responsible for our actions. We answer to Him; and to He alone!

 

[Sophie111]

Yes, geo centrism isnt really in the Bible either…but Galileo didnt get far with that ideal did he!
Or today, Papal infallibility isnt really in the Bible either…hmmmn.
So despite these fine sentiments I would still be keeping an eye out for the pickup truck and baseball bats when flirting with Muslim girls

 

[AdamP88]

Because they understand human nature and know that it’s impossible to interact with the opposite sex in a 100% pure manner. Sex and physical attraction always, ALWAYS, plays at least some part in opposite sex interaction. At least between sexually mature, healthy, heterosexual individuals.

This is nonsense.
It’s assuming that there’s always a sexual tension between opposite sex adults.
Sometimes there just isn’t.

 

[Niblo]

So despite these fine sentiments I would still be keeping an eye out for the pickup truck and baseball bats when flirting with Muslim girls

Wise move! Some of our lasses can be pretty assertive

 

[ChristMyLife]

It’s assuming that there’s always a sexual tension between opposite sex adults

To a greater or lesser degree, there usually is.

People who are willing to be brutally honest will admit that.

Sexual-physical attraction plays at least some role in nearly every opposite sex interaction between healthy heterosexual people.

If you’re a heterosexual person who rarely or never has physical attraction to the opposite sex, you should probably see a doctor. There quite possibly may be something physically, hormonally, or psychologically askew.

 

[CTBcin]

This is nonsense.
It’s assuming that there’s always a sexual tension between opposite sex adults.
Sometimes there just isn’t.

Sorry, I have to agree with @ChristMyLife here. If I am interacting with a woman that I find attractive in one sense or another, that will change the way I interact with her, to a lesser or greater degree. Many times this is an unconscious process. This can be true for women that I only know as acquaintances, but also for close platonic friendships. There’s nothing wrong with that; it’s just human nature. Now, if there’s no attraction there whatsoever, then there’s going to be none of that tension.

 

[billy1]

I somewhat agree with ChristMyLife. I came to a realization that the only way to deal with the matter is to avoid it. So it is wiser to avoid flirting with them which I am willing to do.
BUT preventing females from striking up unnecessary conversation with you can be hard! I am talking about showing some reluctance without coming off as rude.

 

[ChristMyLife]

BUT preventing females from striking up unnecessary conversation with you can be hard! I am talking about showing some reluctance without coming off as rude.

I kind of believe there are two forms of flirting.

Innocent flirting, and inappropriate flirting (well, inappropriate if you’re married, if you’re single it depends - it may or may not be).

Innocent flirting is when you have no interest in pursuing relations, but you are attracted to a woman, and so you are maybe a little nicer or friendlier with her when you talk to her…

Then inappropriate flirting, where you give in to lustful fantasies and start imaging the sexual things you would do and enjoying the fantasy, or when you flirt with the goal of having a sexual relationship…

 

[AdamP88]

Because they understand human nature and know that it’s impossible to interact with the opposite sex in a 100% pure manner. Sex and physical attraction always, ALWAYS, plays at least some part in opposite sex interaction.

Again I’m quoting what you said.

I’m not claiming that it doesn’t often play a part. However there are people that I’m simply not attracted to and in interactions with them there is simply no interest or attraction. Men aren’t attracted to every woman of the opposite sex.

And to say that you can’t interact with the opposite sex in a “100% pure manner” is just rubbish.

 

[ChristMyLife]

can’t interact with the opposite sex in a “100% pure manner

I worded that weird.

I didn’t mean it’s impossible to interact with the opposite sex in a chaste manner, I meant that sexuality and physical attraction is always a factor in those interactions.

 

[AdamP88]

Possibly often but definitely not always.

I mean, there are women that I don’t feel any sexual attraction to.

 

[StephenBales]

Perhaps I misrepresented my stance. Licit, yes, but, in a very literal sense of the word okay, no. I wasn’t aware there was a teaching on this from the Church beyond what’s found in Scripture, (“do not be unequally yoked” is all I’ve ever heard of).

In any case, highly risky.

 

[CTBcin]

In any case, highly risky.

On this point, agreed.

 

[Lara]

But how do you know those very same women don’t find you attractive?

In most cases, ChristMyLife is correct. For instance, I try to choose men for landlords whom I feel some attraction for, and who feel some attraction for me. This ensures they care for me even a little bit when the sink gets plugged. The one time I erred in this regard, the guy turned us out after only two years to increase the rent.