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Please pray for my wife and I. We are both Catholics but we were married in a civil ceremony this past January. We are trying to convalidate our marriage but her parish is giving us a difficult time with her records.
 
Adding my prayers for these intentions.

Hail Mary, full of grace the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners
now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
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REMEMBER, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly to thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother; to thee do I come; before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy hear and answer me. Amen.
 
A_New_Leaf said:
Please pray for my wife and I. We are both Catholics but we were married in a civil ceremony this past January. We are trying to convalidate our marriage but her parish is giving us a difficult time with her records.
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I am new to Catholicism, so forgive me if I am off. Is there a family member who has her records? Parents or God Parents maybe? When I was an infant my mother had me Baptised Lutheran. Thankfully, when I started to convert to Catholicism I was able to dig in some old papers in a trunk my mother left me when she passed away and I found my Baptism certificate. Maybe your wife’s family also has her paperwork somewhere in a box or file. If not, is there any way to go in person to her parish and get the copies that way?

My husband was raised Catholic. I was previously married and divorced. We married 10 years ago in a civil ceremony. Once I have my Decree of Nullity for my previous marriage we plan on convalidation. I have about a year to wait as I just turned in all the required paperwork last week due to having to wait for some things to come in the mail.😦 I really need to get cracking on getting my husbands records from the parish of his youth. Thank you for reminding me that it’s not just my paperwork that needs to be in order!

I feel so much sympathy for you. It’s hard to wait to have your marriage recognized. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
 
MJJean said:
I am new to Catholicism, so forgive me if I am off. Is there a family member who has her records? Parents or God Parents maybe? When I was an infant my mother had me Baptised Lutheran. Thankfully, when I started to convert to Catholicism I was able to dig in some old papers in a trunk my mother left me when she passed away and I found my Baptism certificate. Maybe your wife’s family also has her paperwork somewhere in a box or file. If not, is there any way to go in person to her parish and get the copies that way?

My husband was raised Catholic. I was previously married and divorced. We married 10 years ago in a civil ceremony. Once I have my Decree of Nullity for my previous marriage we plan on convalidation. I have about a year to wait as I just turned in all the required paperwork last week due to having to wait for some things to come in the mail.😦 I really need to get cracking on getting my husbands records from the parish of his youth. Thank you for reminding me that it’s not just my paperwork that needs to be in order!

I feel so much sympathy for you. It’s hard to wait to have your marriage recognized. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Congratulations on coming to the Church! Thank you for going through the work of going through the marriage nullity process. I hope that it goes well for you. Just a tiny, quick clarification. A convalidation is not a “marriage recognition” ceremony. It is a wedding ceremony since the Church believes the couple to be single until that point. If one goes through the convalidation thinking all it does is let the Church officially “recognize” an existing marriage, then the convalidation is invalid and the couple continue to be unmarried. I hope this makes sense. Anyway, God bless you on your faith journey!
 
SerraSemper said:
Congratulations on coming to the Church! Thank you for going through the work of going through the marriage nullity process. I hope that it goes well for you. Just a tiny, quick clarification. A convalidation is not a “marriage recognition” ceremony. It is a wedding ceremony since the Church believes the couple to be single until that point. If one goes through the convalidation thinking all it does is let the Church officially “recognize” an existing marriage, then the convalidation is invalid and the couple continue to be unmarried. I hope this makes sense. Anyway, God bless you on your faith journey!
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Thank you for your well wishes 🙂

I am aware that the convalidation is the Catholic marriage rite. It’s a strange thing for us.

When I originally “married” I held very little religious belief (I was somewhere between Pagan and Atheist), married because I had a child and felt it was the right thing to do, and was positive the marriage was a mistake and would end. I literally only went through with it because I felt I owed it to my child to be married to her father. It was nothing more than a legal document to me.

When I married my husband it was a civil ceremony that felt very spiritual/religious. There was a “magic”, a presence there with us. We fully intended it to be a lifelong bond, come what may. Unbreakable.

I truly believe God never saw my first marriage as valid. I truly believe that God sees us as married and has since the moment we spoke our vows. So, for us, the convalidation is more an official ceremony for the Church to reaffirm what we know in our hearts and a renewal of the vows we spoke a decade ago.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners
now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
A_New_Leaf said:
Please pray for my wife and I. We are both Catholics but we were married in a civil ceremony this past January. We are trying to convalidate our marriage but her parish is giving us a difficult time with her records.
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Prayers for you and your beautiful wife.

Congratulations on this desire to have your marriage convalidated. You will have such wonderful excitement on the day you receive this convalidation of a Sacramental Marriage.

For your peace of mind and heart, try thinking of new words in identifying the troubles you feel. We can actually lift our own hearts when we rephrase our thinking.

“Her parish is giving us a difficult time”… can make your heart feel so low…

“We have a few snags in beginning our process of convalidation”… can place the emphasis in a different way… leaving out the “idea some people want to bring us difficulties”.

May you both have peace during this journey. May you seek comfort in the Heart of Jesus. Keep yourselves close to Him and a life of grace.
 
MJJean said:
Thank you for your well wishes 🙂

I am aware that the convalidation is the Catholic marriage rite. It’s a strange thing for us.

I truly believe God never saw my first marriage as valid. I truly believe that God sees us as married and has since the moment we spoke our vows. So, for us, the convalidation is more an official ceremony for the Church to reaffirm what we know in our hearts and a renewal of the vows we spoke a decade ago.
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Dearest MJ,

Church teaching is that even though God sees the love a couple has for each other, He does not bind the couple together until and unless they are free to marry.

So the Church teaches that God Himself will not bind you to another man - unless and until you two are free to marry.

Being “free to marry” happens after the Church (the human voice to God - binding and loosening on earth) has granted the annulment.

At the Convalidation, the couple is asking the Church to witness their vows - and God binds the couple as one - united for a lifetime.

What will happen at your convalidation is that you two are no longer only legally married but truly married by God.

I do not write this to sound unloving, but to express that even though in our hearts we feel God has united us in marriage… it can not be true if we are still not free to be married. Because its not about how we feel, but about the Truth of God and marriage. Our human emotions can block us from knowing Church teachings are True.

Congratulations on your desire and walk to receive this beautiful Convalidation.
 
RoseMary131 said:
Dearest MJ,

Church teaching is that even though God sees the love a couple has for each other, He does not bind the couple together until and unless they are free to marry.

So the Church teaches that God Himself will not bind you to another man - unless and until you two are free to marry.

Being “free to marry” happens after the Church (the human voice to God - binding and loosening on earth) has granted the annulment.

At the Convalidation, the couple is asking the Church to witness their vows - and God binds the couple as one - united for a lifetime.

What will happen at your convalidation is that you two are no longer only legally married but truly married by God.

I do not write this to sound unloving, but to express that even though in our hearts we feel God has united us in marriage… it can not be true if we are still not free to be married. Because its not about how we feel, but about the Truth of God and marriage. Our human emotions can block us from knowing Church teachings are True.

Congratulations on your desire and walk to receive this beautiful Convalidation.
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You are a most kind person to help with my education as a budding Catholic. Thank you. Hopefully there will be a speedy annulment and a following convalidation.

Dear Lord, please grant those waiting to marry in Your Church a speedy resolution to their difficulties and peace and patience in their hearts while they wait. Amen.
 
MJJean said:
Dear Lord, please grant those waiting to marry in Your Church a speedy resolution to their difficulties and peace and patience in their hearts while they wait. Amen.
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Amen.

A beautiful prayer.
 
Our Father,
who art in Heaven,
hallowed be Thy name,
Thy Kingdom come,
Thy will be done on earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day,
our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us,
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.

Amen.
 
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