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I’ve seen a lot of links for bras for bigger breasted women, but has anyone found a great bra for smaller chests? I’m an A when I’m not nursing and I’m not comfortable with the tanks w/built in bras. I want to find something that is padded so you can’t see when I’m cold, but I also want something to lift me up so I look like I have more. I’ve always hated my chest (except when I’m nursing:rolleyes: )
I used to get teased a lot in school. It still sticks with me.
 
momof4boys said:
I’ve seen a lot of links for bras for bigger breasted women, but has anyone found a great bra for smaller chests? I’m an A when I’m not nursing and I’m not comfortable with the tanks w/built in bras. I want to find something that is padded so you can’t see when I’m cold, but I also want something to lift me up so I look like I have more. I’ve always hated my chest (except when I’m nursing:rolleyes: )
I used to get teased a lot in school. It still sticks with me.
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I linked to figleaves.com/us/home.asp for bigger bra sizes, but they’ve got a full range. The smallest size that you can search by is 28AA and there’s not really a selection at that size, but I looked at 32A and they’ve got a lot at that size.

I can imagine that it’s as much of a pain for you to find a good bra as it is for me. Good luck to you. 🙂
 
Thank you SeekerJen! I found a lot of bras in my size. There’s not much of a selection for me in other places I have looked. 😃
 
I was one of those girls that wore a bra to bed because I felt I had to hide it, real inferiority conflict. I felt ashamed to be a woman. Now I don’t wear them alot.
I also had trouble with them because of gallbladder problems I get pain near my ribs.
None of this was noticed by my mother so if you have daughters, give them a little compassion.
What was suppose to be a joy about coming into womanhood was addressed as being treated to like a slut.

So no I don’t think Mary wore a bra and she probably was very modest aabout it though with robes and sashes or scarfs, similar to the muslims or india with lose clothing.
 
The Blessed Virgin Mary also didn’t post on the internet, drive cars, use microwaves or any other number of things! I’ll be she would have worn a bra if they had them back then!
 
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The Blessed Virgin Mary also didn’t post on the internet, drive cars, use microwaves or any other number of things! I’ll be she would have worn a bra if they had them back then!
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You could be right, but I think she would have been very holy about whatever she did. If she wore clothing that assisted her in her womanhood and breast feeding which they probably did as they had slings for babies carrying water etc. so this is a given.
But I think she would have worn clothing that did not accentuate the breast, like lift and seperate or show the curves. She would have been very holy and not brought attention to herself but to Jesus and His miracles.
 
dessert said:
You could be right, but I think she would have been very holy about whatever she did. If she wore clothing that assisted her in her womanhood and breast feeding which they probably did as they had slings for babies carrying water etc. so this is a given.
But I think she would have worn clothing that did not accentuate the breast, like lift and seperate or show the curves. She would have been very holy and not brought attention to herself but to Jesus and His miracles.
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I’m sure that the Blessed Mother did not wear cleavage baring tops, etc., but what is wrong with a garment that shows a woman’s curved shape? This is how most of us women are built. It is how God made us, and He knows that a woman’s shape is attractive to men. Yet He didn’t tell us to burka ourselves in completely shape-concealing garments. This is because our bodies are not dirty and they’re not unholy.

I don’t know why, but it really bothers me that so many believe that the only way a woman can be holy is if she wears basically a sack that hides the fact that she has a woman’s body. There is a very wide range of styles between “burka” and “streetwalker”, many of which are perfectly modest and culturally acceptable. Even many nuns’ habits I’ve seen are somewhat fitted through the torso. Certainly not tight by any means, but the nuns don’t generally try to hide the fact that they have normal female shapes.
 
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I’m sure that the Blessed Mother did not wear cleavage baring tops, etc., but what is wrong with a garment that shows a woman’s curved shape? This is how most of us women are built. It is how God made us, and He knows that a woman’s shape is attractive to men. Yet He didn’t tell us to burka ourselves in completely shape-concealing garments. This is because our bodies are not dirty and they’re not unholy.

I don’t know why, but it really bothers me that so many believe that the only way a woman can be holy is if she wears basically a sack that hides the fact that she has a woman’s body. There is a very wide range of styles between “burka” and “streetwalker”, many of which are perfectly modest and culturally acceptable. Even many nuns’ habits I’ve seen are somewhat fitted through the torso. Certainly not tight by any means, but the nuns don’t generally try to hide the fact that they have normal female shapes.
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Being that the country was a hot arid desert at times may be why their clothing was loose fitting.
A belt around the waist will certainly show some curves.
Mary was holy in the fact that she was modest, as men can also wear modest clothes, so now I know I will get flack but I don’t like the A-Shirt, but then maybe at the beach or out and about. At one of our club meetings a lunch and speaker thing a man wore an A to it, it was so rude but no one said anything right to him.
A woman who is smaller in chest size can do other things to appear feminine if she cares to. A skirt or dress longer hair or curled, that may help, a feminine looking scarf around the neck, flowers in the hair or special hat etc. There are so many possibilities. It is so sad that only the breasts are the indication today and exactally the mostly only thing people look at to tell between the sexes. So I can understand why you posted that. Have we come a long way, yes maybe towards unisex. Yes I appreciate being attractive and looked at but not stared at and we women like to look at the men too. I think oh there goes a good looking man but it is usually the face and smile I notice and of course I look at the rest.
The face can show a lot of our emotions more than our body posture.

I womans figure can be appreciated as you might say ah there goes a good looking or beautiful woman when you see one. Holiness of the heart, I suppose you can’t really tell for sure unless you get to know the person.
 
journey137 said:
Ok, this is going to sound kind of weird (at least it does to me because I grew up with my mother making me wear a bra to sleep in), but here goes…

I got sick and for almost a week I’ve not been wearing a bra because I was just sitting around the house trying not to spread strep throat. My husband doesn’t mind me not wearing a bra at home or in public either. Fastforward to after the strep throat and now I really don’t want to wear my bras anymore 😊 It’s so much more comfortable without them, um, restricting the natural movement of my breasts. I’m only a B cup and not nursing so I don’t have a lot that needs supported or absorbed and actually my husband said he can’t even tell when I’m not wearing a bra unless he physically checks. Naturally that begs the question, what’s the point of wearing a bra in the first place??? How weird would it be to just ditch the bras (not feminist style - modesty would still be preserved)? What are your other opinions on the matter?
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I think it’s best to wear at least something holding them in place, and supporting them. Even if you are on the smaller side. Maybe a camisole with a shelf bra would be comfy for you. “Barely There” makes comfortable bras. And they are good for women on the smaller side. I think it is more modest that they are held in place by some sort of bra. It doesn’t mean to should get a victoria’s secret push-up cleavage-maker. But you need to find one comfortable for you to wear. And maybe have a few different ones, if you breasts tend to go through a cycle. Sometimes before my period, underwires aren’t very comfortable, so a wear a wireless one. And come evening, i usually take mine of and put on a softer one. my straps begin to ache my shoulders, but i am not physically comfortable braless all the time (D cup). So definitely do what works for you. If you don’t like the straps, try strapless.
 
Fidelia said:
I think it’s best to wear at least something holding them in place, and supporting them. Even if you are on the smaller side. Maybe a camisole with a shelf bra would be comfy for you. “Barely There” makes comfortable bras. And they are good for women on the smaller side. I think it is more modest that they are held in place by some sort of bra. It doesn’t mean to should get a victoria’s secret push-up cleavage-maker. But you need to find one comfortable for you to wear. And maybe have a few different ones, if you breasts tend to go through a cycle. Sometimes before my period, underwires aren’t very comfortable, so a wear a wireless one. And come evening, i usually take mine of and put on a softer one. my straps begin to ache my shoulders, but i am not physically comfortable braless all the time (D cup). So definitely do what works for you. If you don’t like the straps, try strapless.
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If your straps hurt your shoulders, have yourself professionally fitted. You might need to go down a band size or two and maybe up a cup size or two. The band should be doing most of the work, not the straps. I learned this the hard way and now I have permanent dents in my shoulders. For years I thought I was a 34D. I’m a 30E/32DD. Well-fitting bras make an amazing difference. 👍
 
SeekerJen said:
If your straps hurt your shoulders, have yourself professionally fitted. You might need to go down a band size or two and maybe up a cup size or two. The band should be doing most of the work, not the straps. I learned this the hard way and now I have permanent dents in my shoulders. For years I thought I was a 34D. I’m a 30E/32DD. Well-fitting bras make an amazing difference. 👍
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I second that. A proper fit makes all the difference in the world and the best place I’ve ever gotten fitted was Nordstrom. Pricey to be sure, but if you buy 1or 2 there you will know your size and style and can buy anywhere.

Nordstrom is well worth the money when you need to be fitted. You should also be fitted if your weight changes.
 
I can’t stand bras! I’m a 34C or D, so it’s not really optional. I’m only 110 lbs, so losing weight probably wouldn’t help me out at all. I refuse to wear one that’s not a Victoria’s Secret push up, so that might be why I’m never comfortable.
 
I can’t tolerate nylon next to my skin, so I have the joy of trying to find decently supportive, affordable bras that are 100% cotton. :whacky:
 
Oh, the band does all the work on my bra. It’s so tight by the end of the day, even though when I get dressed it’s barely noticeable. I can’t find one that is cotton, soft, a sports bra, wide enough in back and flat enough in front to suit myself, without weird things that show through clothes like giant zipper pulls or clunky sewn-on logos or stripes, or bright colors. It seems like an easy thing to design.
 
SeekerJen said:
If your straps hurt your shoulders, have yourself professionally fitted. You might need to go down a band size or two and maybe up a cup size or two. The band should be doing most of the work, not the straps. I learned this the hard way and now I have permanent dents in my shoulders. For years I thought I was a 34D. I’m a 30E/32DD. Well-fitting bras make an amazing difference. 👍
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I know. I am a 34 D. 32 DD might be a bit better, but that size is impossible to find. I shop mainly at a L’eggs/Hanes/Bali/Playtex outlet.

Not to change the subject, but how many of you wear soft cup bras and how many wear molded bras? I used to wear a molded bra (34D) made by Bali which fit great, but they were a pain to travel with because the cups dented/creased so easily and it would show through my shirt, and they took up so much space in my draw because the cups were so big. so now I wear soft-cup bras and try to find ones that support well. I am looking for a soft-cup strapless bra (i saw one once). Does anyone know any?
 
I generally do not wear a bra during the winter because I’m in baggy sweat shirts. You can’t tell. If no one else can tell, then it’s not an issue.
 
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I generally do not wear a bra during the winter because I’m in baggy sweat shirts. You can’t tell. If no one else can tell, then it’s not an issue.
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that’s a good point. i think the goal should be not drawing unnecessary or unwanted attention to them.
 
Not wierd at all…

In the winter I sometimes go braless because I live in New England and under a bulky wool sweater there is nothing to see.

As for modesty, I do think that women look better with a comfortable, well-fitted bra. Try purchasing more expensive bras, they do make a difference. However, that said, I’ve been a nursing mom for most of the past 4 years (except three months at the end of my pregnancy with #2). When the babies were small, I was huge and my nipples were quite prominent. There is really no way in the summer, no matter how good your bra, to hide these bullets known as my nipples 🙂 If that is immodest, so be it. After all, Mary breastfed Jesus and I doubt she wore a bra.

I think of my breasts as “the girls” and I like to do what is best for them. So for me that is a comfortable, padded, soft nursing bra (yes, I’m still breastfeeding) with no underwires.

Go to a specialty store and find some really nice bras - you deserve it!
 
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