For people with Down Syndrome,Dementia or other disabilities to not be seen as a burden

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I’m requesting if people could pray that those who are “different” in our society start being seen as a joy instead of as a burden.
It breaks my heart when I see all too often that people with disability or illness such as Dementia,Schizophrenia,Autism,Down Syndrome,other Intellectual Disabilities etc are being treated as a burden or put in group homes with an “out of mind,out of sight” mentality when really these people bring so much joy (and lack of pretentiousness etc) to our communities.

Everyone should welcome people with disabilities into our everyday lives and it should not be treated as a matter for “so called health professionals” only so that everyone else can remain detached,untouched,self absorbed or indifferent.

Problem is,sometimes it’s heathcare providers/doctors that encourage this “burden” mentality.
For example,in the below article,women state they often felt pressured by doctors to abort babies with Downs Syndrome (I guess the babies wern’t “perfect” or “normal” enough for the doctors:mad:)

abc.net.au/news/2016-11-22/down-syndrome-parents-pressured-to-terminate-pregnancy/8033216

Thanks in advance to anyone who prays for my intention 🙂
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†

For Help in Trials

Most holy apostle St. Jude, faithful servant and friend of Jesus, the name of the traitor who delivered your beloved Master into the hands of His enemies has caused you to be forgotten by many. But the Church honors and invokes you universally as the patron of hopeless cases–of things despaired of. Pray for me who feels so hopeless. Make use, I implore you, of that particular privilege accorded to you of bringing visible and speedy help where help is almost despaired of. Come to my assistance in this great need, that I may receive the consolations and succor of heaven in all my necessities, tribulations and sufferings, in particular (For people with Down Syndrome,Dementia or other disabilities), and that I may bless God with you and all the elect throughout eternity. I promise you, O Blessed St. Jude, to be ever mindful of this great favor, and I will never cease to honor you as my special and powerful patron, and to do all in my power to encourage devotion to you. Amen.

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Lord, as we would embrace the leper should we seek to follow You, may we also embrace those who who are different and “other” in our society and support their dignity. Amen.
 
Elena321 said:
I’m requesting if people could pray that those who are “different” in our society start being seen as a joy instead of as a burden.
It breaks my heart when I see all too often that people with disability or illness such as Dementia,Schizophrenia,Autism,Down Syndrome,other Intellectual Disabilities etc are being treated as a burden or put in group homes with an “out of mind,out of sight” mentality when really these people bring so much joy (and lack of pretentiousness etc) to our communities.

Everyone should welcome people with disabilities into our everyday lives and it should not be treated as a matter for “so called health professionals” only so that everyone else can remain detached,untouched,self absorbed or indifferent.

Problem is,sometimes it’s heathcare providers/doctors that encourage this “burden” mentality.
For example,in the below article,women state they often felt pressured by doctors to abort babies with Downs Syndrome (I guess the babies wern’t “perfect” or “normal” enough for the doctors:mad:)

abc.net.au/news/2016-11-22/down-syndrome-parents-pressured-to-terminate-pregnancy/8033216

Thanks in advance to anyone who prays for my intention 🙂
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Well said;it is hard though as here in Kerry we are fighting to keep the older mentally disabled IN the excellent group homes they have been in for decades, with a new policy of “decongregation” being forced

As parents of these folk age? What is to happen to the adult disabled who cannot live alone, and they are hard work
Terrible indeed re the abortions …not here thankfully .
 
Hail Mary full of grace the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
While I applaud any move to make the elderly and disabled feel loved and included, I feel the tone of this topic is a little glib, and possibly posted by someone who has not had first hand experience of the care of someone handicapped - it’s not all sunshine and bluebirds.

I inherited the care of my father when my mother died suddenly. He was already suffering from Parkinson’s disease and over the next ten years succumbed to dementia. He was as helpless as a baby but not nearly so portable, or amenable, and could not ever be left alone.

EVER.

Finding babysitters for doubly incontinent and confused octogenarians is impossible: neither is it possible to care for another helpless adult 24 hours a day without support.

Our solution was to place Dad in a care home at the end of the road, where I visited him daily for nine years - usually at a mealtime as he couldn’t feed himself, and that was in any case the only time he was awake.

We brought him home on Sundays, and he always stayed at Christmas until the year when he was up five times a night between midnight and 7am two nights running. It took two people to lift and toilet him, and in between I “did” Christmas for a dozen…I have never been so exhausted, and I realised that the difference between me and professional care staff was that 1. They had all the equipment which made life easier and 2. They went home at the end of their shift and slept at night, while I was on duty 24/7.

So let’s not be too judgmental - if my father had lived with us he might, MIGHT, have been marginally happier, but he would have made five other people very miserable indeed.

And although my sons were heroic in their care of him - such as cleaning him up on occasions such as when he smeared faeces all over the bathroom - I am sure they would have left home far sooner than they did had he been a permanent fixture rather than an occasional visitor.

Sorry for the graphic detail - but that can be the reality, and it is belittling of the suffering involved to be “piously” glib about the “joy” involved.
 
Praying for your intention. Animals are inferior in intellect yet we don’t argue they should be denied existence because of it. GK Chesterton said the more we look at man as an animal the more we see that he is less like one. Man is the only animal who is uncomfortable in his own skin. He is the only animal who can be alone in the forest insanely laughing at his own predicament. What kind of a world puts to death its weakest and most vulnerable? What kind of world puts the handicapped and disabled to death simply for being handicapped and disabled? Wouldn’t the world be a better place if we could look after those who can not look after themselves? What kind of world do you want to live in? A world that shows no mercy for the weak and disabled? Or a world that cares for everyone especially those who need it the most? I choose the latter world. The former is vastly inferior.
 
Gilly_flower said:
While I applaud any move to make the elderly and disabled feel loved and included, I feel the tone of this topic is a little glib, and possibly posted by someone who has not had first hand experience of the care of someone handicapped - it’s not all sunshine and bluebirds.

I inherited the care of my father when my mother died suddenly. He was already suffering from Parkinson’s disease and over the next ten years succumbed to dementia. He was as helpless as a baby but not nearly so portable, or amenable, and could not ever be left alone.

EVER.

Finding babysitters for doubly incontinent and confused octogenarians is impossible: neither is it possible to care for another helpless adult 24 hours a day without support.

Our solution was to place Dad in a care home at the end of the road, where I visited him daily for nine years - usually at a mealtime as he couldn’t feed himself, and that was in any case the only time he was awake.

We brought him home on Sundays, and he always stayed at Christmas until the year when he was up five times a night between midnight and 7am two nights running. It took two people to lift and toilet him, and in between I “did” Christmas for a dozen…I have never been so exhausted, and I realised that the difference between me and professional care staff was that 1. They had all the equipment which made life easier and 2. They went home at the end of their shift and slept at night, while I was on duty 24/7.

So let’s not be too judgmental - if my father had lived with us he might, MIGHT, have been marginally happier, but he would have made five other people very miserable indeed.

And although my sons were heroic in their care of him - such as cleaning him up on occasions such as when he smeared faeces all over the bathroom - I am sure they would have left home far sooner than they did had he been a permanent fixture rather than an occasional visitor.

Sorry for the graphic detail - but that can be the reality, and it is belittling of the suffering involved to be “piously” glib about the “joy” involved.
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Although you had difficulty over providing care for your father your solution was to find someone else more equipped to care for him. Notice, your solution was not to have him executed. I doubt such a thought seriously entered your mind. I suspect you put him in a home because you cared about him and his well being on some level and not simply because you just wanted to get rid of him.
 
fisherman_carl said:
Although you had difficulty over providing care for your father your solution was to find someone else more equipped to care for him. Notice, your solution was not to have him executed. I doubt such a thought seriously entered your mind. I suspect you put him in a home because you cared about him and his well being on some level and not simply because you just wanted to get rid of him.
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What a bizarre response - I was replying to the original poster who spoke against care homes - I don’t think anyone other than you mentioned killing people.

But for the record I did not “seriously” consider killing my father, indeed I did not consider killing him at all.

Nor did I care about his well being “at some level” - I cared about it very deeply, as a Christian and as a loving daughter.

The point I was making is that “caring” - however deeply and lovingly - just isn’t the same as “coping” and glibly equating the two is facile without offering practical solutions.
 
Elena321 said:
I’m requesting if people could pray that those who are “different” in our society start being seen as a joy instead of as a burden.
It breaks my heart when I see all too often that people with disability or illness such as Dementia, Schizophrenia, Autism, Down Syndrome, other Intellectual Disabilities, etc., are being treated as a burden or put in group homes with an “out of mind, out of sight” mentality when really these people bring so much joy (and lack of pretentiousness etc) to our communities.

Everyone should welcome people with disabilities into our everyday lives, and it should not be treated as a matter for “so-called health professionals” only so that everyone else can remain detached, untouched, self-absorbed, or indifferent.

Problem is,sometimes it’s heathcare providers/doctors that encourage this “burden” mentality.
For example,in the below article, women state they often felt pressured by doctors to abort babies with Downs Syndrome (I guess the babies weren’t “perfect” or “normal” enough for the doctors:mad:)

abc.net.au/news/2016-11-22/down-syndrome-parents-pressured-to-terminate-pregnancy/8033216

Thanks in advance to anyone who prays for my intention. 🙂
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Praying…
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O most beautiful Flower of Mount Carmel, Fruitful Vine, Splendor of Heaven, who brought forth the Son of God still remaining a Virgin, assist us in this necessity.
O Star of the Sea, help us, and show us that you are our Mother.

O Holy Mary, Mother of God, Queen of Heaven and earth, we humbly ask you from the depths of our heart to help us in this necessity. There are none who can withstand your power.
O show us that you are our Mother.

O Mary, conceived without sin, pray for us who have recourse to thee. Sweet Mother, we place this cause in your hands. Amen.

Flos Carmeli
 
***Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death
Amen.

:crossrc:***
 
Adding my prayers with everyone for this intention.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed
is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary,
Mother of God, pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death, Amen.
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†

For Help in Trials

Most holy apostle St. Jude, faithful servant and friend of Jesus, the name of the traitor who delivered your beloved Master into the hands of His enemies has caused you to be forgotten by many. But the Church honors and invokes you universally as the patron of hopeless cases–of things despaired of. Pray for me who feels so hopeless. Make use, I implore you, of that particular privilege accorded to you of bringing visible and speedy help where help is almost despaired of. Come to my assistance in this great need, that I may receive the consolations and succor of heaven in all my necessities, tribulations and sufferings, in particular (For people with Down Syndrome,Dementia or other disabilities), and that I may bless God with you and all the elect throughout eternity. I promise you, O Blessed St. Jude, to be ever mindful of this great favor, and I will never cease to honor you as my special and powerful patron, and to do all in my power to encourage devotion to you. Amen.

†
 
I am very fortunate as my mother was advised to abort me! They gave her this advise ON my day of BIRTH. I was an ectopic pregnancy and was told that if she did not abort me she would die and that if she did abort me she would live. My mother chose to give birth to me and we both survived. Nine months after my birth I was diagnosed with Epilepsy. My parents thought that I was brain damaged and that they would have to take care of me until the day that I died. At the age of 26 I had elective exploratory frontal-temporal lobectomy (brain surgery) and have been seizure-free ever since. My mother had already had 3 children before me and had 4 more children after me. I’ve not only surpassed all the doctors expectations, but also my parents expectations. I do not have a college degree but have held very professional jobs and have overcome everyone’s expectation of me.
 
Divine Mercy Chaplet

O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!
O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!
O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

I believe in God, the Father almighty, Creator of heaven and earth, and in Jesus Christ, His only Son, our Lord, who was conceived by the Holy Spirit, born of the Virgin Mary, suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died and was buried; He descended into hell; on the third day He rose again from the dead; He ascended into heaven, and is seated at the right hand of God the Father almighty; from there He will come to judge the living and the dead. I believe in the Holy Spirit, the holy catholic Church, the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins, the resurrection of the body, and life everlasting. Amen.

Eternal Father, I offer you the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.

For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
 
Gilly_flower said:
While I applaud any move to make the elderly and disabled feel loved and included, I feel the tone of this topic is a little glib, and possibly posted by someone who has not had first hand experience of the care of someone handicapped - it’s not all sunshine and bluebirds.

I inherited the care of my father when my mother died suddenly. He was already suffering from Parkinson’s disease and over the next ten years succumbed to dementia. He was as helpless as a baby but not nearly so portable, or amenable, and could not ever be left alone.

EVER.

Finding babysitters for doubly incontinent and confused octogenarians is impossible: neither is it possible to care for another helpless adult 24 hours a day without support.

Our solution was to place Dad in a care home at the end of the road, where I visited him daily for nine years - usually at a mealtime as he couldn’t feed himself, and that was in any case the only time he was awake.

We brought him home on Sundays, and he always stayed at Christmas until the year when he was up five times a night between midnight and 7am two nights running. It took two people to lift and toilet him, and in between I “did” Christmas for a dozen…I have never been so exhausted, and I realised that the difference between me and professional care staff was that 1. They had all the equipment which made life easier and 2. They went home at the end of their shift and slept at night, while I was on duty 24/7.

So let’s not be too judgmental - if my father had lived with us he might, MIGHT, have been marginally happier, but he would have made five other people very miserable indeed.

And although my sons were heroic in their care of him - such as cleaning him up on occasions such as when he smeared faeces all over the bathroom - I am sure they would have left home far sooner than they did had he been a permanent fixture rather than an occasional visitor.

Sorry for the graphic detail - but that can be the reality, and it is belittling of the suffering involved to be “piously” glib about the “joy” involved.
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I have had experience.
My post wasn’t regarding so much where the person/s live but was more about the attitude of many people that view people with disabilities as purely an issue for healthcare providers or for their families.
As you know the end result is often families feeling huge strain.
If people in the general public were less self absorbed and more supportive,involved (in a non intrusive way) or “interested” then that would lessen the burden on families.
Sorry for your experience.I wasn’t suggested that families should be denied their realistic feelings and be in a state of joy but rather that people who are indifferent or see as burden such as doctors or general public come to see the joy that people bring that they consider “imperfect” or “not their problem”.
 
Praying hard especially for baby Reagan who has Down’s Syndrome.
 
Divine Mercy Chaplet

O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!
O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!
O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

I believe in God, the Father almighty, Creator of heaven and earth, and in Jesus Christ, His only Son, our Lord, who was conceived by the Holy Spirit, born of the Virgin Mary, suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died and was buried; He descended into hell; on the third day He rose again from the dead; He ascended into heaven, and is seated at the right hand of God the Father almighty; from there He will come to judge the living and the dead. I believe in the Holy Spirit, the holy catholic Church, the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins, the resurrection of the body, and life everlasting. Amen.

Eternal Father, I offer you the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.

For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
 
Divine Mercy Chaplet

O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!
O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!
O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

I believe in God, the Father almighty, Creator of heaven and earth, and in Jesus Christ, His only Son, our Lord, who was conceived by the Holy Spirit, born of the Virgin Mary, suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died and was buried; He descended into hell; on the third day He rose again from the dead; He ascended into heaven, and is seated at the right hand of God the Father almighty; from there He will come to judge the living and the dead. I believe in the Holy Spirit, the holy catholic Church, the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins, the resurrection of the body, and life everlasting. Amen.

Eternal Father, I offer you the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.

For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
 
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