For the conversion of my BIL

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I have a BIL who is a recovering alcoholic. To make a long story short, he turns to women and sex for his happiness. He lost custody of his daughter pursuing a woman that he thought made him happy. He turns to everything, but God to help him find true happiness. His last girlfriend was and is married, but he still wants her and would take her back if she left her husband again. He was suicidal not to long ago. Well now again, in one of his AA meetings, he has found yet another woman who he spent the entire weekend with at her apartment. He is doing it again and believes this time, he is doing what God is asking of him. Please pray for this man who is so lost. My husband and I have talked with him about using sex and women for happiness, but it has had no effect on him. He is also very addicted to cigarettes and pornography and talking on the phone. He can’t stand silence. He is a truck driver and could use a ton of prayers for he shows no real interest in getting to know God or following His Rules. He tells us that he wants what we have in our marriage and someone to love and grow old with. We tell him to get his life in order first with God and he would find the right kind of women for he keeps picking ones that are married or mentally ill. Oh yes, he is also still married even though now separated from his wife for over 8 years. He has not filed for divorce yet. I don’t know why.

Please pray for Daniel, my BIL. Thanks for your prayers.
 
Nana you are a good person, always worry for others will pray for Daniel and you and your husband, that god gives you the right words to say to your BiL to turn him away from all this evil stuff :gopray2:
 
I pray that the Lord will touch your BIL’s heart and fill him with His love. May the Lord’s love heal his addictions to alcohol, sex, pornography and all his other addictions. May the Lord heal his self-image so that he will come to know his true self as seen by God so that he may be able to learn to love himself as God loves him and free himself from addictions which are just manifestations of hunger for love. This I pray in Jesus’ name. Amen.
 
Prayers going up for your BIL,may the HOLY SPIRIT guide all of you
 
Praying for your BIL, nana.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
Thanks to all of you and your prayers. My BIL did call last night when I was asleep and spoke with hubby. He informed my husband that he will be moving in with this woman that he just met. DH tried to tell him that he keeps repeating the same pattern over and over again in search of love and that he won’t find what he is searching for in women, but in God. He got angry and said he was preaching to him and hung up, but before hanging up he said he wanted to speak to me. I don’t know if he will call again today. Please pray that I will have the right words to tell him. I have a tendency to be too nice and not tell it like it is, but than other times I have no problems. I have told him in the past that the love he wants so bad is only going to come from God, but maybe this time he will be open to it. I don’t know.

Thanks again for your kind words and prayers.
 
J†M†J
I will pray for your intentions in my rosary tonight.

God Bless
In Jesus through Mary
Steve
 
nana3 said:
Thanks to all of you and your prayers. My BIL did call last night when I was asleep and spoke with hubby. He informed my husband that he will be moving in with this woman that he just met. DH tried to tell him that he keeps repeating the same pattern over and over again in search of love and that he won’t find what he is searching for in women, but in God. He got angry and said he was preaching to him and hung up, but before hanging up he said he wanted to speak to me. I don’t know if he will call again today. Please pray that I will have the right words to tell him. I have a tendency to be too nice and not tell it like it is, but than other times I have no problems. I have told him in the past that the love he wants so bad is only going to come from God, but maybe this time he will be open to it. I don’t know.

Thanks again for your kind words and prayers.
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May The Holy Spirit gift and inspire you with words to say that will open the ears and heart of your BIL…at the moment it seems they are not reaching him. Will be keeping this intention in prayer, Nana…
 
Hello, Nana.
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  How in the world has he gone this long and not gotten anybody pregnant?  Does he think about this stuff?  Wow.  I feel for him.  Sex and alcohol are some powerful addictions because they are legal, readily available, and feel nice.  It's hard to convince somebody of the benefits of chastity knowing that.  I'll pray that he realizes his greatest purpose in this life - to love and serve the Lord.  It's easier to turn away from such things if you are moving toward a more important purpose or task.
Tracy
 
Tracyms1974 said:
Hello, Nana.
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  How in the world has he gone this long and not gotten anybody pregnant?  Does he think about this stuff?  Wow.  I feel for him.  Sex and alcohol are some powerful addictions because they are legal, readily available, and feel nice.  It's hard to convince somebody of the benefits of chastity knowing that.  I'll pray that he realizes his greatest purpose in this life - to love and serve the Lord.  It's easier to turn away from such things if you are moving toward a more important purpose or task.
Tracy
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He has one daughter who is 18 years old from his marriage, but got a girl pregnant 6 years ago in order to “trap” her into staying with him. He told us that he wanted to get her pregnant for women kept running out on him. He has a terrible anger problem that is worse when he is drunk and at the time he was still drinking. Anyway, this little girl, his daughter, now belongs to his mother and her husband for they fought to adopt her. He was given once a month supervised visitation with us. He has taken advantage of them. He also lost his daughter, the 6 year old, because he was busy with his girlfriend at the time who was married and going back and forth between her husband and him. She just used him for he paid all her bills for her husband would not since she was in adultery. He gets involved with women who are not very intelligent. My niece’s mother has to be the least intelligent of them all. She lost custody of my niece because she was lazy and a very dirty person, kept her house like a pig pen. It was horrible! She took drugs and when child services came around to check on her parenting, she had used drugs and it showed up in the urine test. She also had two children prior to my niece and lost both of them in Michigan because of the same thing. After my BIL and her broke up, she swore off men, but immediately got together with another man and got pregnant. My MIL reported her to child services who immediately, at the birth of the child, took the child away from her. The dad did not want the child. It is sad that there are people like this and the children suffer. My niece has so many medical problems due to the drug use of her mom while pregnant.

My BIL still does not take responsiblity for his own actions. Just yesterday, he sent us an email of a letter he wrote to his married girlfriend to let her know it was over and he found someone knew and that because of her, he lost his daughter to his mother. Trying to get him to accept responsibility is impossible. He hates his mother now for taking his daughter. They waited 5 years before doing this because they feared he would come and take her away, for he is the father. I don’t think he would have been able too, but they restricted his visitation so much that he was getting angrier and that is why they felt that they had to adopt her. HIs daugther still sees him here at our house and misses her dad a lot, but because of her mental abilities, doesn’t understand much.
 
nana3 said:
He has one daughter who is 18 years old from his marriage, but got a girl pregnant 6 years ago in order to “trap” her into staying with him. He told us that he wanted to get her pregnant for women kept running out on him. He has a terrible anger problem that is worse when he is drunk and at the time he was still drinking. Anyway, this little girl, his daughter, now belongs to his mother and her husband for they fought to adopt her. He was given once a month supervised visitation with us.
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Oh what a tangled web we weave. My brother-in-law has similar problems - making babies that he can’t take care of. And then he turns around and won’t relinquish his parental rights. People like this make me sick. If you’re not going to do the day-in-day-out stuff that a parent does, then you ain’t the mommy/daddy. It only takes a few minutes to make a baby but it takes years to raise them, and if you can’t do it, then kindly let somebody else do it with a big thank you and a smile. Okay, I’m done venting. (Sorry!) People like your BIL and my BIL lack humility, I think. They are so full of pride that they forget that humility with other people will get them much farther in this life (and the next, really). I will pray that he finds this humility, and maybe things will go better for him. Of course we all need humility in our repertiore of good character traits, let’s not forget that ourselves

Tracy
 
Please continue for pray for my BIL’s conversion. He did something so terrible this week that I got to mad at him. He was at this girlfriends house and they went into the bedroom and closed the door. They remember after some time that the dog was not in the room with them and the last time they left him in the living room he chewed up his girlfriends glasses. So he went out to the living room and the dog chew up some coasters. Apparently they meant a lot to his girlfriend and she started to cry. This is when my BIL got so angry at the dog, who is a puppy less than one years old, and spanked him so hard the dog was yelping. He than threw the dog and he hit the wall. It did not stop there. He picked up the dog again and again threw him across the room into the wall. He did this yet one more time. The last time his dog did not move and was just moaning in pain. He said he thought he had broken his dog’s neck. His wrote an email to us after this event and said he felt terrible. I emailed him back and said that the dog should see a vet and that he should give up the dog to someone else with no anger problem. Of course he made excuses and said that he is just angry at his mother for taking his daughter and not allowing him to visit her. Now we know why he had to have supervised visitations.

Anyway, he refuses to give up the dog. His girlfriend was scared but talked to dh and said that we all make mistakes and that she forgives him for he was sorry. Well he use to beat up one of his ex-girlfriend and threw her out of a window and he felt really bad also about that, but this new girlfriend doesn’t know that. She will see for herself that he can be dangerous.

Anyway, he really needs prayers for he is finally going through the 12 steps for an alcoholic. He has been sober for 5 years but is not living what the steps require of him. His sponsor told him that he need to work on step 4 and 5. He is willing now to start working the steps. He is living in mortal sin but he doesn’t care for she makes him happy. I don’t believe him for he went to one of his girlfriends family reunions and all he talked about to me was a girl that was present there and hot she was. He has a long way to go. Please keep him in your prayers. Dan needs it. He is a lost angry soul.
 
+JMJTJ+

Dan will be in my prayers for his complete healing of body, mind, and spirit.

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Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen
 
marymagdalene said:
I pray that the Lord will touch your BIL’s heart and fill him with His love. May the Lord’s love heal his addictions to alcohol, sex, pornography and all his other addictions. May the Lord heal his self-image so that he will come to know his true self as seen by God so that he may be able to learn to love himself as God loves him and free himself from addictions which are just manifestations of hunger for love. This I pray in Jesus’ name. Amen.
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Father, in Jesus’ name, please grant this prayer.
 
Hail Mary full of grace the Lord is with thee
Blessed art thou among women
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus
Holy Mary mother of God
Pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death
AMEN
 
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