For those faithfully waiting for a declaration of nullity

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I humbly ask for prayers for me, and others like me, who are waiting the decision of the Tribunal for my request of a declaration of nullity. I also ask for strength and fortitude to continue to live a life as a fully practicing Catholic.
I started my proceedings in Sept on 2006 and have haven’t heard anything since last summer. Every time I call to inquire, I get no answers. I long to remain faithful to the Church but and growing weary in waiting for their answer.
Many, many thanks!
Gemmer
 
I will pray for you to have strength and faith, and the courage to accept God’s will, no matter what it might be.

I’ve been there (though only for 13 months) and I know how horrible that wait can be.

You will be in my prayers.

~Liza
 
Thank you very much Liza. I was for a time praying to accept whatever decision I was given and then I began to feel uneasy as the weeks dragged into months of waiting. I do want to be accepting but also know what I would want the decision to be if asked. I do need to be able to be at that point where I can accept whatever the decision is for me.
Many thanks,
Gemmer
 
Praying for you Gemmer. Your patience is an inspiration to me. I filed a year after you did and am already having to remind myself that I need to be patient.
 
I was doing ok for a while and then met a man I would like to pursue a relationship with but realized that I can’t do that as long as the Church sees me as still married. He was very understanding and it hasn’t been easy at all but he has been very loving about stepping back and allowing me the time I need to wait and heal and grow through this process. I do wish there was some sort of support for those waiting annulments or more spiritual guidance with how to get through this time. My diocese only recommended counseling and seeking books on my own…they wouldn’t even give book title recommendations to me…seemed kind of strange but they must have their reasons that I don’t know about.
Thank you for your prayers.
 
dulcissima said:
Praying for you Gemmer. Your patience is an inspiration to me. I filed a year after you did and am already having to remind myself that I need to be patient.
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I will pray for you as well, dear one.
 
Been there too! It is a long wait, Gemmer! I don’t remember exactly how long it took, but it was at least a year. I will keep you in my prayers.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
Who is your Advocate in the process, my friend? It is typically the priest you first approached about the annulment, generally from your parish. You may find that he would be more than happy to be approached and help you, and pleased that you thought of him. So often, the petitioner is turned over to the Tribunal and that is all you think to contact for information and support. The Advocate, however, is truly in the position of being there for you.

My process took nearly three years. I think the 18-24 month period was the most difficult, then I moved onto a different plain, accepted the fact that the Tribunal’s decision may be to find the marriage valid, was at peace with that, and then time went very quickly and there was the decision stating nullity. The confirmation of that decision by another archdiocese only took a few weeks after that. Like you, I was hesitant to even open myself to a new relationship until I knew my status within the church,

My prayers are with you.
 
Keeping your hopes and intentions in daily prayer…May The Lord grant you courage, trust and strength…
 
J†M†J
Praying for your intentions:

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

God Bless
In Jesus through Mary
Steve
 
IrishAm said:
Who is your Advocate in the process, my friend? It is typically the priest you first approached about the annulment, generally from your parish. You may find that he would be more than happy to be approached and help you, and pleased that you thought of him. So often, the petitioner is turned over to the Tribunal and that is all you think to contact for information and support. The Advocate, however, is truly in the position of being there for you.

My process took nearly three years. I think the 18-24 month period was the most difficult, then I moved onto a different plain, accepted the fact that the Tribunal’s decision may be to find the marriage valid, was at peace with that, and then time went very quickly and there was the decision stating nullity. The confirmation of that decision by another archdiocese only took a few weeks after that. Like you, I was hesitant to even open myself to a new relationship until I knew my status within the church,

My prayers are with you.
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My advocate is a lay woman like myself. My pastor was the first person I asked about the annulment and he told me that our diocese took the parish priest out of the application process with annulments. He is there to provide spiritual guidance but nothing more. :mad: :confused: Not sure I completely agree with that but I went to the Tribunal and applied there.

Everything was going along at a fairly good pace and then about a year ago progress stopped. The only explanation I was given was that they were sending my former spouse for an evaluation. All other questions I have gone unanswered. I’m simply told it is my lot to wait and pray. :confused: I guess I’m not sure why I can’t be told when the evaluation was requested and how long they expected it to go on.

And so I wait. I stopped asking questions and pray to have patience (I personally think I’ve learned this skill already but…) and for acceptance of the decision. I appreciate any and all prayers in this. Many people do not understand why I wait. It is most frustrating.
 
gemtwin84 said:
I humbly ask for prayers for me, and others like me, who are waiting the decision of the Tribunal for my request of a declaration of nullity. I also ask for strength and fortitude to continue to live a life as a fully practicing Catholic.
I started my proceedings in Sept on 2006 and have haven’t heard anything since last summer. Every time I call to inquire, I get no answers. I long to remain faithful to the Church but and growing weary in waiting for their answer.
Many, many thanks!
Gemmer
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Praying for you, Gemmer. It is not easy, but God will sustain you through this if you continue to lean on Him.

Have you requested a status update in writing? My tribunal tells people “don’t call, we will not give info over the phone, you must write”. The reason being that they can’t verify your identity over the phone.
 
No, I have not written them. That is a good idea. They have never said they wouldn’t talk with me. In fact, up until the time of the evaulation request we had some really nice chats on the phone…then suddenly, I started getting stonewalled. I was really confused.

I will consider writing though since it has been several months and I’ve had no word from them. Thank you.
 
Praying for you gemtwin84, and all others in this trying predicament. :gopray:
 
Gremmer,
I just wanted to say thanks for posting this prayer intention.

I, too, am waiting for a decision from the Tribunal. It is 15 months and counting and I find myself becoming very discouraged and feel that my ability to remain faithful is being compromised.

My best to you. I appreciate the prayers of others and will keep you in mine.
 
It will be a year next week since I turned in my papers–I have not had that first notice yet–they were turned in to a lay person who told me that she had sent them on almost immediately–the bad part is that they will not even talk to me about doing it for my current husband who was married to a catholic–he is not./ They tell me that he too will have to seek the full annulment as he and his former spouse were married in the catholic church–so after/when/if I receive mine–he will have to try to get one for himself–and then and only then will I be able to receive the Eucharist. How long will that all take? It could be years and years.
 
Jbatch!

I feel your pain and frustration. I had some friends that were in a situation similar to what you described and they were advised to live like brother and sister, if you know what I mean, until both their annulments came through. I don’t know what their decision on that piece of advice was but know for myself . . . . . I would have great difficulty, being that I am a weak and sinful person, with this if I had a good marriage.

Is it possible? Sure it is, there are several saints who were married and were able to live in this manner to bring the glory and honor to God. Was it easy? Probably not.

One thing for sure, being a good Catholic is rarely easy but, we are called to be faithful, not perfect.
 
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