For young adults, hooking up is all the rage

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Ah yes, going to a High School has made me aware of this, er, trend. I cant believe the marital act is being called a trend :mad:
 
It’s nothing new. Just a new name for it.
30 years ago we called it “having a one-night stand.”
Or a series of them.
Get drunk or stoned.
Flirt.
Go to bed together.

Nothing new here.

Sadly. 😦
 
Fornication is now trendy?

But that may be going too far. Apparently, “hooking up,” can mean something happened, or it can mean nothing happened.
Vagueness is its hallmark. “A girl can say, ‘I hooked up with so-and-so,’ and no one knows what she did. It protects you and makes you a player at the same time,” says Aparicio, who admits to her share of high school hook ups.
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Vagueness is the hallmark of quite a lot of current American culture.

Sounds like these girls need to have a guest lecture from Dawn Eden.
 
I just started a new job (I’m 18) and the first question I was asked by one of the cooks was when I was going to sleep with one of the waitresses.
No where has our degenerating culture been more obvious to me then at that moment.
 
It is a little bit more extensive than just “one night stands” from what I’ve observed as a young adult. With the growing amount of people who are “friends with benefits,” etc. It’s really sad, I’ve had many friends who fall into the lies of society, and end up becoming severely depressed.
 
Not to diminish the horrifying nature of “hooking up”, but I think (hope?) it’s not as widespread as one might think. Yes, I know people from high school/university/work who think this lifestyle is fine, and question why on earth I’m not doing it. But most of the sexually active people I encounter are in relationships (not that that’s better- you get my point). And while some of it is really happening, I think the article made a good point that some of it is embellished or left to the imagination, just to get that reputation (though not sure why you’d want it).

Maybe I live in a dreamworld :confused:
 
Lil_M said:
Not to diminish the horrifying nature of “hooking up”, but I think (hope?) it’s not as widespread as one might think.

Maybe I live in a dreamworld :confused:
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I know for a fact it is extremely widespread at my university. The guys and girls are equally promiscuous. I know a guy who keeps a condom right by his prayer book in his wallet. I know countless girls who are on the pill and let me tell you its not for health reasons. It’s to get action.

Peace be with you all,

Neomi
 
There was a time when money was the number one “false god” that the first commandment warns us of. Now that “god” is sex.
 
LovedForever said:
It’s nothing new. Just a new name for it.
30 years ago we called it “having a one-night stand.”
Or a series of them.
Get drunk or stoned.
Flirt.
Go to bed together.

Nothing new here.

Sadly. 😦
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It’s called promiscuity.
There was a top 40 pop song all over the radio waves recently celebrating it.
Sad.
 
Let’s add my story here. I was one of the princes for the Valentine’s Dance, we do skits at a school assembly and we can go to the dance if we want to. I figured I may as well, I don’t dance, but maybe I’d find someone to talk to. That was a major mistake. I saw several couples I know, and talked with two girls from… other schools might call it “home room,” for homework, school announcements and ballots and presentations and things. I believe I next went over by where people were dancing to talk with the quarterback, he’s a good guy. Then I went to talk to my lab partner in Electronics, and I still didn’t dance. A few guys came and said I should be dancing, I resisted, and they said I should “let myself out and have some fun.” One was pointing at my genital area. A bit creepy, though I understood what they meant a little bit after they left. I noticed a girl staring at me, then she danced over, and pinned me against a pillar, giving me a lap dance, for no reason at all. I pulled myself away, and walked outside to clear my head (this involved shedding several tears for the poor misguided girl.) I went back in and sat down. I was considering whether I should just go home, (should have just gone when I first walked out) and a few different guys informed me that there were several girls who wanted to dance with me, and informed me that I could “just stand there and have them dance around me.” One of the guys thought it would be funny to lick my hair. I got them to leave, and a bit after that, to my recollection, one of the girls from home room wanted me to watch her water while she danced, and I was just so tired and conflicted that I pretty much just mumbled a “fine,” and just sat there until she came back. Then I went around the corner to talk with several of my old teachers, then left. I spent the whole time horrified at what was going on, including tearing up at several points over the immorality. The evening culminated with bawling my eyes out in the safety of my own home. I was so excited all week, and now I’m off to confession. My scruples (you may see them in my other posts) are not going to let me rest if I even think about going to prom my senior year now. Deep sigh
 
Yep, seeing sex as just another activity like bowling or going to a movie. No wonder the result of the act (a baby) is so unwelcome. —KCT
 
RLT said:
It’s called promiscuity.
There was a top 40 pop song all over the radio waves recently celebrating it.
Sad.
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AAAHHHH!!!
My sister blasts that song throughout the house all the time!!!
Try to pray the rosary with that in the background!!!
 
perez639 said:
I know for a fact it is extremely widespread at my university. The guys and girls are equally promiscuous. I know a guy who keeps a condom right by his prayer book in his wallet. I know countless girls who are on the pill and let me tell you its not for health reasons. It’s to get action.

Peace be with you all,

Neomi
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This makes me very wary of encouraging my kids to go to college. 😦
 
Riley259 said:
Hooking up is term for meaningless sex and apparently it’s an epidemic among the young, especially college age kids.
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When I was in college in the early 70’s it was the same story. There was no AIDS. It was the height of the sexual revolution and the pill was in widespread use. It was out of control.

It’s only by God’s grace that I emerged integrated and able to find the perfect Godly wife.

There’s nothing new really. Frank Zappa said “If you want to have sex, go to college. If you want an education, go to the library”.

My daughter attends a university in Boston. (Cosmic reciprocity)
 
I’m a sophomore at a Catholic college, and while I might be naive or in my own sort of bubble, I don’t think it’s as widespread as that article makes it out to be. We have a pretty (relatively) strict code of conduct…premarital sex can result in expulsion, and we have single-sex dorms and enforced visiting hours.

At least for students here, there is no precise definition of ‘hooking up.’ While it definitely is some sort of random sexual activity/physical intimacy, my own perception is that most students here who talk about ‘hooking up’ don’t mean actual intercourse. (‘Making out’ and perhaps a little more…)

Not that this is that much better, really, but I do think that overall there is at least some understanding that sex is more special than something to be shared in random encounters with an anonymous partner.

I’m positive that the same can’t be said of the vast majority of other universites in the US. Except for a few Catholic/Christian colleges who adhere to a moral code (I’m not talking about Georgetown here…), universities do little to stop anonymous sex or even make students aware of the emotional/physical consequences. Many even seem to encourage it by handing out condoms, sponsoring a ‘sex week’ (pioneered by that wonderful Ivy League institution, Yale University!), etc. It’s a scary world out there! 😦
 
Rach620 said:
I’m a sophomore at a Catholic college, and while I might be naive or in my own sort of bubble, I don’t think it’s as widespread as that article makes it out to be. We have a pretty (relatively) strict code of conduct…premarital sex can result in expulsion, and we have single-sex dorms and enforced visiting hours.

At least for students here, there is no precise definition of ‘hooking up.’ While it definitely is some sort of random sexual activity/physical intimacy, my own perception is that most students here who talk about ‘hooking up’ don’t mean actual intercourse. (‘Making out’ and perhaps a little more…)

Not that this is that much better, really, but I do think that overall there is at least some understanding that sex is more special than something to be shared in random encounters with an anonymous partner.

I’m positive that the same can’t be said of the vast majority of other universites in the US. Except for a few Catholic/Christian colleges who adhere to a moral code (I’m not talking about Georgetown here…), universities do little to stop anonymous sex or even make students aware of the emotional/physical consequences. Many even seem to encourage it by handing out condoms, sponsoring a ‘sex week’ (pioneered by that wonderful Ivy League institution, Yale University!), etc. It’s a scary world out there! 😦
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Thanks for an insider view.
 
"For young adults, hooking up is all the rage…"

For *some *young adults.

Among me and my friends, a majority of which are not christian, hooking up isn’t popular.
 
Being a Baby Boomer, I have to say that my observation is that most young adults are in way better moral shape than a lot of folks from my generation when we were their age. I’ve noticed a lot of these kids aren’t buying what we tried to sell them, and have more respect for their grandparents than they do for us. Also, the priests we have coming out of the seminaries are the best I’ve seen in my life. Things will get better, I’m sad to say, once my generation gets too old to have any influence on the culture. John Paul II hit the nail on the head with the “New Spring.”
 
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