Forbidden to attend Catholic Baptism

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rondirect said:
Your “dear friend” did you wrong, sorry to say. Even if it was an issue with his wife and the family, he should have been a man and stood up for you and your partner and I believe that was the real issue.
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Actually, when a man’s wife and family come into conflict with a man’s friend, he needs to put his wife and family first. Your spouse and your marriage are more important than any “friend”.

I do think, as I stated above, the man could have handled this a lot more sensitively and kindly than he did.
 
I agree. And for all we know, this parent has been through compassionate admonishment with the OP, yet the OP insists on defending his choice of active homosexuality.
 
rcwitness said:
If the parents find that his attendance is counter supportive, then he is better off not attending. Especially when his lifestyle choice contradicts Baptism according to our faith.
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Please explain how his attendance could ever be counter-supportive. When you attend Mass, do you know everyone there and their relationships with the person(s) they are there with?
 
This is absolutely wrong. Catholic sacraments are cmunity events, open to all (well excluding sacraments of healing). The child is being initiated into the Church, therefore it is an important event for the entire Church. One cannot be excluded from a Catholic Church.
 
But that is still wrong. Liturgical events, including weddings and baptisms, in a Catholic Church are open to all.
 
Tis_Bearself said:
Actually, when a man’s wife and family come into conflict with a man’s friend, he needs to put his wife and family first. Your spouse and your marriage are more important than any “friend”.
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OK, I can agree with that. However, I am caught up with the the possibility that the friend just used the church teaching card and did not tell the OP the real truth.
 
I didn’t say we have to attend, you said it was the parents’s right to tell someone they could not attend, it is not their right.

A few years ago, at a parish finance committee, one of the prominentparishioners whose daughter had just been married expressed displeasure at the number of people uninvited who showed up to the wedding mass. The pastor firmly corrected him.
 
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We should think practically here. This is a Catholic Baptism and a parent does not desire someone living in contradiction of the faith to appear to be supporting the Baptism.

It’s more about respecting the parents then absolute right.
 
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I am not commenting on if it is wise for the OP to attend.
But if a baptism is before mass, at midnight, on Christmas day at 730pm, it doesn’t matter, if it’s in a church, it’s a public event. That’s my point. No one has the right to say “you can’t attend”
 
rondirect said:
However, I am caught up with the the possibility that the friend just used the church teaching card and did not tell the OP the real truth.
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It’s entirely possible. There’s definitely something weird going on when a “dear friend” who appeared to have no problem with you before suddenly plays the “Church says such and such” card out of the blue.
It might be as simple as becoming much more concerned about moral issues in response to the large responsibilities of being a husband and father, but in any event, it all could have been explained better and it indicates to me that Dear Friend isn’t such a dear friend now.
 
What the parent most likely meant, was that his lifestyle was in contradiction to supporting the grace of his child’s Baptism, so please do not pretend to support by attending.
 
Yes he did, and his friend wanted to know if it was Church teaching. We should be clear on the various parts of the dad’s statements. Saying it is the dad’s right is wrong. That part of the answer should be easy.
 
Yet, I support the parent 100% in expressing that the OP should not think he is attending to support a Catholic Baptism.

Don’t throw this parent under the bus!
 
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At a Catholic Baptism, the congregation is asked to renew their own Baptism vows, in support of the candidate receiving the washing away of sins, and reception into the community which professes the Apostolic faith.

“Do you reject Satan, and all his lies?”

Active homosexuality being approved by the Lord is a terrible lie from Satan.

Stand up for the Catholic faith, people!
 
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rcwitness said:
What the parent most likely meant, was that his lifestyle was in contradiction to supporting the grace of his child’s Baptism, so please do not pretend to support by attending.
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OP is Episcopalian. I imagine he wanted to go to celebrate the child’s initiation into the church of the parents choice. Just because he, himself, doesn’t subscribe to Catholicism doesn’t preclude him from celebrating that the baby’s parents are part of a religion they seem to love and they are able to have their child join them in their faith.

Your posts imply there is something wrong with what I suggest, above. There isn’t.
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Really? He is supporting the faith that his own homosexuality is deadly?
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Not supporting the faith at all. Celebrating with the family for the reasons I outlined. It isn’t the same thing.
 
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Really? He is supporting the faith that his own homosexuality is deadly?
 
Not supporting the faith, at all. Celebrating with the family for the reasons I outlined, above. Two different things.
 
Doubtful. I think the parents don’t want to make waves with others who will be in attendance. Either that and/or they aren’t the dear friends OP believes them to be. Doesn’t matter which one, they aren’t deserving of having OP celebrate anything with them. What an attitude.
 
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