Forgiveness - definition

[Beautiful]

I am hoping that some CA members will take a moment to briefly define and share what forgiveness means to them. Putting such and idea into words isn’t always easy. Please share your thoughts.

 

[cecilia97]

I am hoping that some CA members will take a moment to briefly define and share what forgiveness means to them. Putting such and idea into words isn’t always easy. Please share your thoughts.

Working through this right now myself on a big issue. I’ve come up with:

• I release you from any obligation to “make it up to me”
• I release you from any obligation to apolgize
• I release myself from thoughts of vengeance against you
• I leave your punishment and/or reward with God where it belongs
• I forgive myself for letting you hurt me
• I try to pray for you even though I might not feel like it
• I hope you get to Heaven
• I try to hope the rest of your life is not bad
• When I imagine seeing you there, my blood doesn’t boil anymore

TALL ORDER, and I know I can’t do these things without God’s help.

Forgot the postscript…

• I don’t have to like you, be near you, or ever see you again
• I don’t have to let you hurt me again

 

[Beautiful]

Working through this right now myself on a big issue. I’ve come up with:

• I release you from any obligation to “make it up to me”
• I release you from any obligation to apolgize
• I release myself from thoughts of vengeance against you
• I leave your punishment and/or reward with God where it belongs
• I forgive myself for letting you hurt me
• I try to pray for you even though I might not feel like it
• I hope you get to Heaven
• I try to hope the rest of your life is not bad
• When I imagine seeing you there, my blood doesn’t boil anymore

TALL ORDER, and I know I can’t do these things without God’s help.

Forgot the postscript…

• I don’t have to like you, be near you, or ever see you again
• I don’t have to let you hurt me again

Thanks for the reply cecilia. I’m starting to write a term paper on the relationship of forgiveness, health and adults and elderly people. For me to read the definition of forgiveness from a scholarly article is one thing but to hear what ‘regular’ people say is another.
Your definition of forgiveness is thought and heart provoking. I pray you are able to work through your current issue.

 

[ald]

Cecilia97’s definition is an answer to my prayer’s. It is very freeing.

Thanks!!! and God Bless You!!

 

[Wully]

• I don’t have to like you, be near you, or ever see you again
• I don’t have to let you hurt me again

As hard as it is to do…does not the above imply a state of forgiveness has not been met? Absolute forgiveness would put a at minimum the relationship between two or more individuals at a relative point of equality before the transgression took place. If no relationship existed this would make sense however take a family member that transgressed upon another and put the above in play. The relationship changed, trust no longer exists, judgments have been made, because of the act. Forgiveness has not been met but possibly tolerance has been.

This magnifies the sin of the transgressor because not only have they offended God and put themselves in jeopardy but by means of casualty caused another to fall into sin without that individual having the ability to save themselves.

 

[cecilia97]

• I don’t have to like you, be near you, or ever see you again
• I don’t have to let you hurt me again

As hard as it is to do…does not the above imply a state of forgiveness has not been met? Absolute forgiveness would put a at minimum the relationship between two or more individuals at a relative point of equality before the transgression took place. If no relationship existed this would make sense however take a family member that transgressed upon another and put the above in play. The relationship changed, trust no longer exists, judgments have been made, because of the act. Forgiveness has not been met but possibly tolerance has been.

This magnifies the sin of the transgressor because not only have they offended God and put themselves in jeopardy but by means of casualty caused another to fall into sin without that individual having the ability to save themselves.

I disagree. You can forgive and not let someone back into your life. In some cases, in fact, to let an abuser back into your life would be self-destructive and maybe even go against our human dignity as children of God.

You can forgive from a distance. You can also forgive without feeling warm fuzzies. Forgiveness is a decision and an action, not an emotion.

 

[marica_mandic]

I am hoping that some CA members will take a moment to briefly define and share what forgiveness means to them. Putting such and idea into words isn’t always easy. Please share your thoughts.

For me easy to forgive is my goal.
When I am arrogant , I can not easy to forgive.
One person from CA have send me great lithany and that is what helped me is my way of be person which so easy forgive.

 

[Madeline616]

I love what I recently heard Jonathan Morris describe as one of the dimensions of forgiveness: “Letting go of a just cause we rightly have against someone.”