Fourth commandment and how to believe God's forgiveness

[tartpief]

Here’s the situation and I have two questions.

My mom and I were talking on the phone and I told her I am going to stay longer at where I am at now because I am not productive at home. I didn’t raise my voice but I had full knowledge that this would make her unhappy(because it implies being with my family is a distraction to me.) but I told her that anyway. I have other reasons to not want to come home sooner and I guess this caused me to talk to her that way.

I now feel so bad that it feels as if I’ve broken a commandment and committed a mortal sin. But it doesn’t exactly fit the category of dishonoring my parents. I also think likening this to killing somebody is taking this too far. (Note that I am a suspected scruple…)

Question 1: Could this be a mortal sin?

I told my mom I was sorry for having hurt her feelings and I also told her her feelings are important to me because I love her. I meant it. She forgave me and said it’s okay.

But I feel as if God hasn’t forgiven me and he might be planning to make me pay for this in some way.(e.g. delaying fulfillment of my prayer request)
I always feel that way after I sin. I associate anything bad that happens to me after I sin to the sins I have committed before the incident. I don’t view this as punishment but I always have an underlying anxiety that God will bring me suffering to discipline me whenever I sin. Even making a good confession does not take away this anxiety.

I always tell God that he has every right to bring me as much suffering as he wants and I deserve any suffering he brings to my life. I have no objection if that’s His holy will because I love God and I want what he wants.

But I cannot help thinking I am not really believing in God’s forgiveness and mercy as much as I believe sovereignty of God.

Question 2: Can you give me some advice on how to believe in God’s forgiveness?

Thanks for reading.

 

[St_Francis]

First, it seems that you are old enough to have made this decision yourself, so it is not dishonoring your parents. You cannot hold yourself responsible for the feelings of others if you are not doing anything wrong or mean; that would leave you open to acting based on the feelings of others to a point of absurdity, wouldn’t it?

If you suffer from scrupulosity, you should contact a good priest to help you. He will also be able to answer other questions.

Until then, some words from a random stranger on the internet, thank God frequently for forgiving you. Understand that if you reap the consequences of sin then, yes, your suffering is related to your sin. But if the suffering is not related to your sin, it is just a cross God is sending you.

Now, you can fret about what it all means, or you can accept the suffering as God’s will *and offer it up, *which helps Christ, Who died on the cross for you! Even if the suffering is your fault, you can offer it up as reparation for your sins. Other suffering you can offer up as reparation for your sins and those of others, and be happy that God is sending you the cross to offer up in reparation!

Pray more and worry less…

 

[josh987654321]

Question 1: Could this be a mortal sin?

Not to my knowledge.

I told my mom I was sorry for having hurt her feelings and I also told her her feelings are important to me because I love her. I meant it. She forgave me and said it’s okay.

But I feel as if God hasn’t forgiven me and he might be planning to make me pay for this in some way.(e.g. delaying fulfillment of my prayer request)
I always feel that way after I sin. I associate anything bad that happens to me after I sin to the sins I have committed before the incident. I don’t view this as punishment but I always have an underlying anxiety that God will bring me suffering to discipline me whenever I sin. Even making a good confession does not take away this anxiety.

God isn’t like that.
"The Gospel of John:

John 9:1-3

A Man Born Blind Receives Sight

9 As he passed by, he saw a man blind from his birth. 2 And his disciples asked him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?” 3 Jesus answered, “It was not that this man sinned, or his parents, but that the works of God might be made manifest in him.

I always tell God that he has every right to bring me as much suffering as he wants and I deserve any suffering he brings to my life. I have no objection if that’s His holy will because I love God and I want what he wants.

But I cannot help thinking I am not really believing in God’s forgiveness and mercy as much as I believe sovereignty of God.

Question 2: Can you give me some advice on how to believe in God’s forgiveness?

Thanks for reading.

Jesus to St. Faustina -

"My child, all your sins have not wounded My Heart as painfully as your present lack of trust does — that after so many efforts of My love and mercy, you should still doubt My goodness." (1486)

**“My Heart is sorrowful, Jesus said, because even chosen souls do not understand the greatness of My mercy. Their relationship [with Me] is, in certain ways, imbued with mistrust. Oh, how much that wounds My Heart! Remember My Passion, and if you do not believe My words, at least believe My wounds.” **(Diary, 379).

"…when you go to confession, to this fountain of My mercy, the Blood and Water which came forth from My Heart always flows down upon your soul and ennobles it. Every time you go to confession, immerse yourself entirely in My mercy, with great trust, so that I may pour the bounty of My grace upon your soul. When you approach the confessional, know this, that I myself am waiting there for you. I am only hidden by the priest, but I myself act in your soul. Here the misery of the soul meets the God of mercy. Souls draw graces solely with the vessel of trust. If their trust is great, there is no limit to My generosity. The torrents of grace inundate humble souls." (Diary, 1603).

Sacred Heart of Jesus Image - (St Margaret-Mary Alacoque)

http://s7.postimg.org/4jx43bm1n/Christ_7.jpg

Jesus to St Margaret-Mary Alacoque -

**"Behold this Heart which has loved men so much that it has spared nothing, even to exhausting **(Crucifixion) and consuming itself (Last Supper, Eucharist) in order to testify to them it’s love."

http://s28.postimg.org/6bvy5pai5/Prodigal_Son.jpg
Jesus to Catalina:

The Great Crusade of Love - loveandmercy.org/Eng-CL-Reg.pdf

**I would like to be presented like the prodigal son’s father who, aged by the pain of his son’s absence, keeps watch from a window with a small light of hope for the return of his beloved son. I live among all of you in the air you breathe, the water you drink, and the bread you eat, with all the grandiose work of creation that never ceases. In this manner I am among you all, alive, real, with the perpetual sacrifice of the Cross and the glory of the resurrection in each Eucharist. **

Jesus to Catalina:

The Passion - loveandmercy.org/Eng-TP-Reg.pdf

I want to teach sinners that because they have sinned, they should not distance themselves from Me thinking that they no longer have recourse and that they will never be loved as before they sinned. Poor souls! These are not the feelings of a God who has shed all His Blood for you. Come to Me all of you and fear not, because I love you. I will cleanse you with My Blood and you will be as white as snow. I will drown your sins in the water of My Mercy and nothing will be able to snatch from My Heart the Love that I have for you.

Please continue to next post -

 

[josh987654321]

Divine Mercy Image - St. Faustina

http://s8.postimg.org/422f1cyxh/Christ_9.jpg

Jesus to St Faustina

"These two rays issued forth from the very depths of My tender mercy when My agonized Heart was opened by a lance on the Cross." (Diary, 299)

"My Heart overflows with great mercy for souls, and especially for poor sinners. If only they could understand that I am the best of Fathers to them and that it is for them that the Blood and Water flowed from My Heart as from a fount overflowing with mercy. For them I dwell in the tabernacle as King of Mercy. I desire to bestow My graces upon souls, but they do not want to accept them. You, at least, come to Me as often as possible and take these graces they do not want to accept. In this way you will console My Heart. Oh, how indifferent are souls to so much goodness, to so many proofs of love! My heart drinks only of the ingratitude and forgetfulness of souls living in the world. They have time for everything, but they have no time to come to Me for graces." (Diary, 367).

"My mercy is greater than your sins and those of the entire world. Who can measure the extent of my goodness? For you I descended from heaven to earth; for you I allowed myself to be nailed to the cross; for you I let my Sacred Heart be pierced with a lance, thus opening wide the source of mercy for you. Come, then, with trust to draw graces from this fountain. I never reject a contrite heart." (Diary, 1485).

"Tell sinful souls not to be afraid to approach Me; speak to them of My great mercy" (Diary, 1396).

"My daughter, know that My Heart is mercy itself. From this sea of mercy, graces flow out upon the whole world. No soul that has approached Me has ever gone away unconsoled. All misery gets buried in the depths of My mercy, and every saving and sanctifying grace flows from this fountain…" (Diary, 1777).

http://s24.postimg.org/s91lh9u91/Crucifixion.jpg
Jesus to Catalina:

The Passion - loveandmercy.org/Eng-TP-Reg.pdf

**"Contemplate My wounds and see if there is anyone who has suffered as much as I, to show their love…

"Contemplate for a moment these bloodstained hands and feet… This naked body, covered with wounds, with urine, and blood. Dirty… This head punctured by sharp thorns, soaked in sweat, full of dust, and covered in Blood…

"Contemplate your Jesus, hanging on the Cross, without being able to make the slightest movement… naked, without fame, without honor, without liberty…

"Contemplate Me in the image of the Christ that weeps and bleeds. There and in this way the world has Me**

Jesus to Catalina:

The Great Crusade of Mercy - loveandmercy.org/Eng-CM-Reg.pdf

**I want to talk to you about My Mercy; I want to teach you Mercy; I want you to preach My Mercy. But in order to speak of it, you need to feel love because a person who does not love, cannot know Mercy.

1. If you love, it is because I loved you first; just as I am Love. Whoever knows how to love remains in Me and I in him. My Father did not send Me as an offering for you to love Me, but because My Father is Love and I am one with My Father. Therefore, understand that nothing is sweeter than love, for it proceeds from the One who is the Creator of everything.
2. And so, if you want to be merciful to your fellow human being, first you have to love and be compassionate to that person and if you want to receive Mercy, you must let yourself be loved. Mercy is the chain that unites with love, for one cannot love without being merciful. Understand that My love is without measure, it does not feel burdensome, nor does it value effort, it is simply given. You, on the other hand, are weak in love and imperfect in virtue; you are in need of My strength and of My comfort. **

Jesus to Catalina:

The Great Crusade of Mercy - loveandmercy.org/Eng-CM-Reg.pdf

11) Mercy is love, My child. It is union with God and union with God is the certitude of victory and an everlasting abundance of virtues. Mercy is the unquestionable proof of love for Me.

I hope this has helped

God Bless

Thank you for reading
Josh

 

[Eric_Hyom]

Question 2: Can you give me some advice on how to believe in God’s forgiveness?

Thanks for reading.

The more you learn to forgive those who have hurt you, the more you may come to understand how god forgives you.

Blessings

Eric

 

[Jared2914]

Question 1: Could this be a mortal sin?

If you are an adult, you are free to make your own decisions in life. It is a mortal sin to disobey parents while you are a child. Once you are an adult you no longer have to obey any requests they make. You should still value their advice and fully consider it, but you are no longer obligated to follow their advice. As an adult you honor your parents by treating them well. Examples are spending time with them regularly and taking care of them when they are in need. If you are far away from them, you should try to call them (or email/Facebook) once a week and try to visit once a year.

Question 2: Can you give me some advice on how to believe in God’s forgiveness?

Like many parts of faith, you just have to reach a point where you can trust God on his forgiveness. Part of everyone’s spiritual journey on earth is learning to trust God. Believe your priest during your confessions when he says you are absolved. Read the Catechism on God’s forgiveness. You can also read books or Internet articles on forgiveness (take care that they are from Catholic sources). For questions like this, a spiritual director could really help. You can talk to your priest about finding one.

 

[sirach2v4]

There are too many unknowns for outsiders to comment on your discussion with your mom. How old are you? How far away from home are you? are you telling the truth? Do you distrust your parents? Is this a one-time deal or do you make a habit of keeping your own time. are you in good company or bad? are you staying away to use drugs, etc.?

I think you need to acknowledge your parents’ concerns and address them, not merely argue your civil rights.

Until you are 18, you are still a minor and should obey your parents. when you turn 18, you should still respect your parents. If you’re living in their home, you ought to follow the house rules without question. Maybe they might have more wisdom and experience than you. and don’t hate you as much as you may feel.

for heaven’s sake, they still care for you. They want to KNOW that you’re safe. too many things go wrong, especially when young people are assured that they know what they’re doing – they sometimes don’t really know what they’re doing – such as you putting stress on them.