Oblates are more often called third-orders, or secular orders. There is a
Secular Fransiscan Order (
Wikipedia page).
What a secular community is
NOT: It is not a prayer group. It is not a social activity. It’s very much more serious than these types of groups.
A secular order will normally have a Rule of Life modeled after the religious Rule, and members will pray at least morning and evening prayer from the Divine Office. Just like in a monastery or convent, a candidate will undergo a period of novitiate in which he discerns (and the community discerns) if he has a spiritual calling to this vocation. This would typically be 1-3 years (maybe up to five, but no more). This would be considered a period of “formation.” A novice will usually take an annual “temporary promise,” and will take a lifetime promise upon completion of the novitiate (at which point he is a “professed” member of the community). This is a “promise,” not a “vow” (which binds more strongly), and it can be dispensed.
A married person usually must obtain his/her spouse’s approval to join a secular community (the vocation of matrimony is considered higher and more important than the vocation of the order).
There might not be a secular community in your area. Some secular orders allow people to remain “active” even if they move away from a community (they would be known as “isolates”). But I doubt any would allow someone to undergo formation apart from the community - you would need to be already professed before you moved away.
FWIW, Franciscan spirituality has little to do with animals. Our current Pope is a Jesuit, as you say, but he has great regard for St. Francis and, like St. Francis, he shares a deep compassion for the poor.