Freaking Out Over Sexual Matters!

[BEattitude]

Why Do We Freak Out Over Sexual Sins So Much? I Agree That They Are Wrong But Lust Is Only One Of The Seven Deadly Sins! If You Look Over All The Posts Sexual Sins Are The Most Asked Thougt And Admonished Sins! Why Does This Sin Get So Much Attention, After All We Can Commit Many Other Mortal Sins More Easily. We Can Even Commit Other Sins In Mind As Easily As Lust!

 

[fix]

I will offer two reasons. There are more, but two come to mind.

1. Sexual sin is rampant, yet almost never discussed in society and in the Church. Oh, there are “on the books” so to speak, yet how often are they preached about or taught?
2. Our culture has become obessed with sexual license. These particular sins are often the basis for societal, and personal, ills like poverty and the breakdown of the family unit.

 

[jediliz]

At Fatima, Our Lady told the three young children that more people go to He** for “Sins of the Flesh” than anything else.

Does that answer your question?

Also, these types of sins have lead to an even greater disrespect for marriage and for children (the murder of 40Million+ children seems to be evidence enough).

 

[setter]

Correct me if I am wrong: The only one’s freaking out are those who feel constricted, surprised of finding out, or actively sinning, by the Church’s consistent teaching in matters of sexual morality. Unfortunately, not too uncommon these days are those clergy who are fearful of presenting the Church’s teachings in matters of faith and morals in a regular and forthright manner, while allowing the cards to fall as they will amongst the flock entrusted to their care.

 

[rcwhiteh]

Why Do We Freak Out Over Sexual Sins So Much? I Agree That They Are Wrong But Lust Is Only One Of The Seven Deadly Sins! If You Look Over All The Posts Sexual Sins Are The Most Asked Thougt And Admonished Sins! Why Does This Sin Get So Much Attention, After All We Can Commit Many Other Mortal Sins More Easily. We Can Even Commit Other Sins In Mind As Easily As Lust!

Whoa, dude, don’t wear out the CAPS LOCK key!!

BEattitude, I guess the way I see it is this: Sex has become so heavily promoted in our society that many people cannot understand how anyone can lead a fulfilling existence if they are not having sex at every opportunity.

Sex is a very basic, primal thing to humans; it can turn a calm, thoughtful person into a slobbering animal very easily. If you notice, hundreds of people ask questions about sex on the Forums, trying to figure out just how far they can go without being sinful because they are hung up on sex for the sake of pleasure.

The Church sees sex as something beautiful, something sacred, and weeps when sex becomes nothing more than an itch to be scratched. Sex, when properly framed within the protection of sacrament of Matrimony and open to the possibility of life, becomes a living symbol of Christ’s giving of Himself to His Bride, the Church. How sad it is to see such a magnificent passion reduced to simple sweatiness.

The Church strives to educate people that sometimes abstaining from sex is a greater demonstration of love than the act itself, and that engaging in sacrmental sexual love can be much more satisfying than simply “getting it on”.

Try not to be too hard on those who are struggling with sexual sin; remember that all sin is evil (though not all sin is mortal), including the sin of being overly judgemental of others. Pray for the strength to refrain from sin yourself, that you may become for others (especially unbelievers) a symbol of God’s grace and protection.

Pax vobiscum!

 

[StephanieC]

If you’re asking based on the number of posts on this forum about sexual matters, I would suggest you consider this:

The sins of pride, anger, gluttony, etc., are indeed just as grave. But wouldn’t you find it easier to talk about your struggles with anger face to face with a friend, your priest, or a spiritual advisor? Now, how about lust? See what I mean? A bit more difficult, no?

So thankfully, we have this anonymous forum that is easily accessible 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, where folks can work up the courage to ask their questions about what (for most people) is usually a very embarassing topic.

Freaking out? Nah.
Higher ratio of posts on sexual matters due to anonymity and easy access to forum? Probably.

Oh, And Don’t Forget: You Don’t Have To Capitalize Every Word! It Makes It Very Awkward To Read What You’ve Written!

 

[fullofzeal]

At Fatima, Our Lady told the three young children that more people go to He** for “Sins of the Flesh” than anything else.

Does that answer your question?

Also, these types of sins have lead to an even greater disrespect for marriage and for children (the murder of 40Million+ children seems to be evidence enough).

Fatima indeed

 

[HoppityRedux]

Why Do We Freak Out Over Sexual Sins So Much? I Agree That They Are Wrong But Lust Is Only One Of The Seven Deadly Sins! If You Look Over All The Posts Sexual Sins Are The Most Asked Thougt And Admonished Sins! Why Does This Sin Get So Much Attention, After All We Can Commit Many Other Mortal Sins More Easily. We Can Even Commit Other Sins In Mind As Easily As Lust!

A subset of the population is very concerned with controlling other people’s sexual practices. This has always puzzled me. I speculate it might harken back to our early days running for our lives from some fanged monster by day, and huddling around a fire by night. Sexual practices were vital for the continuation of the group. A small band had to keep the production line running to ensure survival.

 

[Jennifer123]

Contraceptive and homosexual sex acheive this how exactly?

 

[blessedtoo]

Sex is a very basic, primal thing to humans; it can turn a calm, thoughtful person into a slobbering animal very easily. If you notice, hundreds of people ask questions about sex on the Forums, trying to figure out just how far they can go without being sinful because they are hung up on sex for the sake of pleasure.

Great post!

I would also add that there is very little controversy or debate about the morality of murder (abortion being the exception), theft, child abuse, etc. Just the term “sexual sins” would be considered oxymoronic by our current culture. The numerous posts you see here are the result of mass confusion and a sincere desire to get right with God.

 

[Texas_Roofer]

Correct me if I am wrong: The only one’s freaking out are those who feel constricted, surprised of finding out, or actively sinning, by the Church’s consistent teaching in matters of sexual morality. Unfortunately, not too uncommon these days are those clergy who are fearful of presenting the Church’s teachings in matters of faith and morals in a regular and forthright manner, while allowing the cards to fall as they will amongst the flock entrusted to their care.

Only because you asked, several feel they are trying to follow God’s instructions, however they see issues as “responsible parenting”, world population, allowed and disallowed practices, unity, the natural state of celibacy, etc, etc at times contradictory. This is very frustrating for them. Similarly, those who have difficult spouses have other challenges. See the NT on divorce and adultry. I am sure many fit your post but certainly not all.

 

[Jay2]

Sex is a very basic, primal thing to humans; it can turn a calm, thoughtful person into a slobbering animal very easily. If you notice, hundreds of people ask questions about sex on the Forums, trying to figure out just how far they can go without being sinful because they are hung up on sex for the sake of pleasure.

This is one of the most concise definitions I’ve read.

One of my primary cerebral turmoils with the Catholic Church and it’s teachings is the fact that it is regulated by men who have willingly given up the opportunity to enjoy the pleasures of a physical and mental relationship with a woman.… and they the source of rules/regulations, advise and consolation in matters of sex and relationships…(??)

My doctrine is if my wife says “That feels good…” . I’m not trying to please Vatican City in bed… only my wife.

 

[Jennifer123]

My doctrine is if my wife says “That feels good…” . I’m not trying to please Vatican City in bed… only my wife.

Many people think sex with small children feels good. I don’t believe that you think whatever feels good is righteous, but when we rely on feelings and emotions we can get far away from the Truth.

Sex is good. But like anything else it has a proper role and a proper place. All one has to do is look at our society today to see how anything, like sex…or food…or entertainment…if used improperly as if to gorge on it, is disordered.

Saying that priests have no authority over sexual matters because they don’t participate is illogical. Every one of us has truthful opinions on things that we have not ourselves experienced. I can say homosexuality is disordered even though I have never experienced it.

Priests know commitment and its struggles and triumphs, much like in marriage. They are committed every day to their own vocation.

 

[Missa_Solemnis]

Many people think sex with small children feels good. I don’t believe that you think whatever feels good is righteous, but when we rely on feelings and emotions we can get far away from the Truth.

Sex is good. But like anything else it has a proper role and a proper place. All one has to do is look at our society today to see how anything, like sex…or food…or entertainment…if used improperly as if to gorge on it, is disordered.

Saying that priests have no authority over sexual matters because they don’t participate is illogical. Every one of us has truthful opinions on things that we have not ourselves experienced. I can say homosexuality is disordered even though I have never experienced it.

Priests know commitment and its struggles and triumphs, much like in marriage. They are committed every day to their own vocation.

Well handled :clapping:

 

[blessedtoo]

One of my primary cerebral turmoils with the Catholic Church and it’s teachings is the fact that it is regulated by men who have willingly given up the opportunity to enjoy the pleasures of a physical and mental relationship with a woman… and they the source of rules/regulations, advise and consolation in matters of sex and relationships…(??)

And doctors treat patients with cancer though they themselves have never had cancer. Psychiatrists treat the mentally ill althought they themselves are not crazy (acutally, I think most of them are!).

 

[wjp984]

This is one of the most concise definitions I’ve read.

One of my primary cerebral turmoils with the Catholic Church and it’s teachings is the fact that it is regulated by men who have willingly given up the opportunity to enjoy the pleasures of a physical and mental relationship with a woman.… and they the source of rules/regulations, advise and consolation in matters of sex and relationships…(??)

My doctrine is if my wife says “That feels good…” . I’m not trying to please Vatican City in bed… only my wife.

what about the Eastern Catholic priests who do get married and although not under the Church in Rome, the Orthodox who also can get married.

 

[Jennifer123]

what about the Eastern Catholic priests who do get married and although not under the Church in Rome, the Orthodox who also can get married.

Well, again I would argue that just because they are married it doesn’t necessarily make them any more or less qualified to counsel on marriage and sex.
Celebacy is a discipline, not a doctrine within the Roman Rite, although it is unlikely to be changed. If you are still interested in celebacy, there is a lot of information here at CAF if you do a search. Otherwise I’m afraid we may hijack the thread!!

 

[FCEGM]

what about the Eastern Catholic priests who do get married and although not under the Church in Rome, the Orthodox who also can get married.

A slight correction: no priest, Catholic or Orthodox, may marry after they have been ordained.

 

[FCEGM]

This is one of the most concise definitions I’ve read.

One of my primary cerebral turmoils with the Catholic Church and it’s teachings is the fact that it is regulated by men who have willingly given up the opportunity to enjoy the pleasures of a physical and mental relationship with a woman.. . .QUOTE]

The Church was founded by One who never entered into the pleasures of marriage, except for His marriage to His Bride, so any “primary cerebral turmoil” should take that example into account.

 

[LittleDeb]

Why Do We Freak Out Over Sexual Sins So Much? I Agree That They Are Wrong But Lust Is Only One Of The Seven Deadly Sins! If You Look Over All The Posts Sexual Sins Are The Most Asked Thougt And Admonished Sins! Why Does This Sin Get So Much Attention, After All We Can Commit Many Other Mortal Sins More Easily. We Can Even Commit Other Sins In Mind As Easily As Lust!

Really all of the seven deadlies deal with “how much, why, and when.” Relaxation and inactivity is fine. Too much at the wrong times for selfish reasons is sloth. Look at gluttony. Eating is good, but too much when you don’t need it is almost always selfish. All seven are some variation and combination of how much, why, and when.

Lust gets top billing because it is the one with the most people trying to normalize it. The other 6 have a much smaller following. There aren’t many threads here entitled, “Is gluttony always wrong?”