So I suppose I started this conversation in a backward sort of way. Sometimes I bring extremes of situations into a conversation earlier to isolate a principle in order to ask how that principle interacts with less extreme situations. In this case, Heaven is the extreme in our relationship with God and exposure to his grace/love. I don’t think there is disagreement there.
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Let me be clear that, by introducing my actual question in stages, I’m not trying to set anything up in an unfair way, but just to isolate the points that exist in my mind and to make sure that the conversation doesn’t go off in too many tangents, which is why I wanted us to get to a happy place on the Heaven question before moving on. I’m really having a struggle with a few concepts, and I’m hoping the wise contributors here might give some insight for my continued prayer and contemplation of at least one of them.
(Sorry, had to cut out the middle to get my post to fit >_>)
I’m going to try to answer this as best I am able. I hope I actually address your concerns and haven’t misread.
Predestination only exists to the extent that God, being outside of time, has “foreknowledge” of our final fate. The problem with using this type of language is that it implies a temporal component to God’s knowledge which doesn’t actually exist. God doesn’t have “foreknowledge,” He only has knowledge. He is not, as it would seem from our perspective, looking into the future to see where we eventually wind up. For God, all of time exists simultaneously as an ever-present Now. He knows our final choice because we have already made it, and are in the process of making it, and will make at some point in the future. (Again, applying temporal language to something that has no temporal component, but it’s the best I can manage to explain it.)
As for the supply of God’s grace; while it is true that different people receive it in different amounts (Mary, for example, receiving a greater “amount” of it than anyone else throughout all of time), God does not limit His grace to one person or another based on how we
will respond to it, but rather based on how we
do respond to it. It could be described similar to a habit. The more we do a particular habit, the more ingrained that habit becomes and the easier it becomes for us to continue doing that habit. Similarly, the more we respond to the grace God offers, the easier it will be to respond to it in the future.
This response to God’s grace could be considered a form of exercise, say… push-ups. As I grow in the habit of doing push-ups, I find myself able to do more and more of them over time. Similarly, as we exercise our positive response to God’s graces, we become capable of receiving them in even greater amount. If, on the other hand, we continually ignore God’s graces, we atrophy, and become less and less able to respond to them. In the Bible, the obstinate refuse to respond to God’s Grace is portrayed as the heart being hardened. Eventually, we could conceivably reach a point where it is next to impossible for use to respond to God’s graces, and therefore we do not receive any of them. In reality, no matter how hardened out hearts become, God will never stop granting us His grace; otherwise it would be impossible for a hardened sinner to repent and return to God.
God’s graces only stop once we’ve died and locked our wills against Him. (Even then, I don’t know if we could say we technically stop receiving all graces, since we continue to exist, which is itself one of God’s gifts.) If our will are oriented towards Him, then we receive all graces in unfathomable amounts…
This is my understanding of the topic. I hope I’ve made it clear, and that it addresses your concerns. I’m pretty sure everything I’ve written here is in keeping with Church teaching, though if anyone knows of a point I’m mistaken on, please let me know.