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xsacerdos
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I think the best thing is to MYOB and stop trying to force them to follow your personal belief system. and it sound as if you are trying to do just that. you are responsible for no one’s morals but your own.
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CaptainPrudeman
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They believe they can fall in love with more than one person at a time. My
opinion means nothing
opinion means nothing
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Kei
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If they will not listen to you, if they will not listen to the Church, if they will not listen to reason, then I suppose what else is there to do?
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Elizabeth3
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If you can discuss it with them and they are open to it, then the spiritual work of mercy to instruct the ignorant, would be one thing you could do. The other is to pray for them - say novenas to the patron saints of purity and chastity, make small sacrifices and offer it up on their behalf, light votive candles at church for your prayer intentions and of course, the rosary is particularly powerful
Otherwise, they have free will and we leave them to the mercy of God.
Edited to add that this is an opportunity for you to brush up on your apologetics in favor of chastity. People often need to hear why it’s wrong and how this type of behavior can affect them negatively in many ways -physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. This way if they do ever ask you your views of the matter, you will have a really good compelling answer and will be able to direct them to resources if they wish to study the issue further.
Otherwise, they have free will and we leave them to the mercy of God.
Edited to add that this is an opportunity for you to brush up on your apologetics in favor of chastity. People often need to hear why it’s wrong and how this type of behavior can affect them negatively in many ways -physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. This way if they do ever ask you your views of the matter, you will have a really good compelling answer and will be able to direct them to resources if they wish to study the issue further.
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Tis_Bearself
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This is entirely possible, especially when you are young and unmarried. “Falling in love” at that age is generally some state of starry-eyed romance because you do not yet have the depth of experience and knowledge to understand that true love is a big lifelong self-sacrificing commitment. In fact, there are 40-year-olds who do not have the full grasp of that concept yet.They believe they can fall in love with more than one person at a time.
“Falling in love” at that age usually means you care about somebody and enjoy their company but are not yet at the level of maturity where you are seriously ready to commit to one person for better or for worse. It’s perfectly normal. And you can feel that way about more than one person and not know which to choose. This isn’t exactly polyamory. These people just have glommed onto that concept because today’s society wants everybody to be 100 percent monogamous even if you are college age and not ready to settle down.
When you are not engaged or married, there is no sin to loving a person in a sense of caring deeply about them, or thinking you “love” multiple people. The sin occurs when you start fantasizing about or actually doing physical, sexual things with a person you are not married to, whether it is one person or ten people you are thinking about or doing things with.
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twf
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Yes. I had one female friend who entered into a polyamorous relationship as the second female. It lasted about a year. The first female grew bitterly jealous of my friend and it all fell apart. Surprise.
Tis_Bearself
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it’s what usually happens.Yes. I had one female friend who entered into a polyamorous relationship as the second female. It lasted about a year. The first female grew bitterly jealous of my friend and it all fell apart. Surprise.
I will lay you odds this couple will go off to colleges, each will meet another person they are interested in, the whole poly thing will be out the window inside of 6 months.
Seen it many times only it wasn’t called “poly” back in the day. In the 70s it was called “free love” or “freedom” or something…same process, same result.
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TheLittleLady
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Loving a sinner is a long way from “being complicit”.
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LostSheep7
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Heathens will live like heathens. You can only pray for them.
If their sinful lifestyle bothers you that much, just stop talking to them.
I’ve a childhood friend who’s a sex addict and have done the most heinous things anyone can imagine; I’ve warned him about the eternal consequences of his behaviour, but he simply doesn’t care.
We still good friends, but we don’t hang out very much for obvious reasons.
If their sinful lifestyle bothers you that much, just stop talking to them.
I’ve a childhood friend who’s a sex addict and have done the most heinous things anyone can imagine; I’ve warned him about the eternal consequences of his behaviour, but he simply doesn’t care.
We still good friends, but we don’t hang out very much for obvious reasons.
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