jj, I think you are very responsible to be concerned about preventing people you know from drinking and driving, especially at this time of year when it is very prevalent. What I would do, and have done in the past, is to take people’s keys when they walk in my door. It’s a policy of my house for those who are going to drink. I make them take a taxi. They can get their keys and their car the next day. Works for me the few times I have had to do it.I’m not sure what this is referring to, if this has to do with me saying I’m college age, I mean that many if not most of my friends are 21 or over. I’ll be 21 by the end of the month.
Just as if someone intoxicated was goingn to walk out the door with a loaded gun and thier finger on the trigger …a full-body tackle as a last resort. They will thank you in the morning, and if not, the others who may have been injured/killed will have thanked you.Why follow them?
As I see it, the moral choices are fairly straight-forward. Stop them from driving yourself using whatever means are appropriate, including coersion or paying for the taxi out of your own pocket. Failing that, you must call the police and have your friends deal with the law. With God’s grace, your friends will not have killed or injured anyone before the police can stop them.
Yes, I realize I absolutely cannot let people who are clearly intoxicated drive even if it means physically taking their keys away or calling the cops. It gets harder though when you’re not sure whether their at that point on the spectrum of intoxication where you need to go that far. Like if they just seem pretty loose but you’re not sure if their drunk or not. I know my friends well enough that even if they would be upset with me at the time, they would be happy I stoppped them.Just as if someone intoxicated was goingn to walk out the door with a loaded gun and thier finger on the trigger …a full-body tackle as a last resort. They will thank you in the morning, and if not, the others who may have been injured/killed will have thanked you.
well no reflection on you personally but when I had this same discussion with DD when she was 21, I asked her when she was going to get new friends and a new definition of “fun” and quit going to parties where the principal recreation was drinking. Hardly a definition of maturity and responsibility if the entertainment is watching your friends drink themselves into insensibility.I’m not sure what this is referring to, if this has to do with me saying I’m college age, I mean that many if not most of my friends are 21 or over. I’ll be 21 by the end of the month.
I totally agree. I don’t drink. I think I will start in college but not a enough to get sick or anything. But most of the students at my school’s idea of fun is to drink until you pass out, then wake up and brag about how many times you threw up. My friends don’t drink to that point, but they do drink, but I don’t go to parties where I know I’ll be the only sober one, which means I dont got to parties, period. One of my close friends is very popular and hangs out with a different crowd, getting invited to all the best parties. She risks being busted if she gets caught there (running out the back and falling down the stairs if they hear a siren), has to be the DD every time, gets to help clean up the trash and vomit before the girls parents get home because they’re too smashed to do it, and still says its very fune to be the only sober person there, as she is ‘respected’ for it. She genuinely seems to have fun, but I know I could never go to those parties and be entertained by it - I’d be disgusted and pity those people who are so sick and desperate for attention or to fit in that they drink that much. But most people don’t have the issue with it that I have. It’s really hurt my social life as I basically don’t go out because the only choice is parties such as those, which I’m forbidden to go to anyways by my parents, whom I can’t get anything past.well no reflection on you personally but when I had this same discussion with DD when she was 21, I asked her when she was going to get new friends and a new definition of “fun” and quit going to parties where the principal recreation was drinking. Hardly a definition of maturity and responsibility if the entertainment is watching your friends drink themselves into insensibility.