Friends that "dump" you during hard times

[igator99]

I know the old saying about how you find out who your real friends are during hard times, but how do you get over it when people you thought were friends end up cutting you out of their life during hard times? I have lost at least 3 good friends, correction, thought they were anyway during this struggle I have been going through. It hurts very much

That is pretty much the nature of people. I lost both my parents by the time I was 18. I learned will quick that “Aunt so and so” and “Uncle etc…” were not my real realitives. Even my real Aunts and Uncles for the most part abandoned me. I found this to be true with friends. People will walk in and out of your life. Socrates summed up friends the best.

 

[yessisan]

As dulcissma said, don’t go cutting them off entirely without good cause. They may very well just be perplexed.

Well, bayou just lost her child and if her friends cut her off like that she has very good reasons to cut them off. She’s been going thru a lot of things lately and if a friend of mine had done that to me when I lost my baby, I would never speak to them again.

I’m sorry you’re going thru this bayou.

 

[Sailor_Kenshin]

I know the old saying about how you find out who your real friends are during hard times, but how do you get over it when people you thought were friends end up cutting you out of their life during hard times? I have lost at least 3 good friends, correction, thought they were anyway during this struggle I have been going through. It hurts very much

Yes, it does.

Not sure how to get over it. You can tell yourself that God will bring better friends into your life, but it still hurts. We’re only human.

 

[igator99]

Well, bayou just lost her child and if her friends cut her off like that she has very good reasons to cut them off. She’s been going thru a lot of things lately and if a friend of mine had done that to me when I lost my baby, I would never speak to them again.

I’m sorry you’re going thru this bayou.

People are staying away because she lost a baby? Thank the good lord you are rid of them. May God bless you in this time of deep despair. I just said a prayer for you.

 

[bayoubutterfly]

thank you all again. Yes, I lost a baby in December 7 weeks into my pregnancy, and I’m also going through a divorce. Many of my friends just kinda dropped off the face of the earth, unless I contacted them first, but some are just completely ignoring me. Some because of the fact that my soon to be ex and I are being civil!! they think I shouldn’t even be nice to him, but we have kids and I don’t want them to see a really bad divorce.

 

[Sailor_Kenshin]

thank you all again. Yes, I lost a baby in December 7 weeks into my pregnancy, and I’m also going through a divorce. Many of my friends just kinda dropped off the face of the earth, unless I contacted them first, but some are just completely ignoring me. Some because of the fact that my soon to be ex and I are being civil!! they think I shouldn’t even be nice to him, but we have kids and I don’t want them to see a really bad divorce.

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