Friendship Ending

[Try2BeHumble]

Hello All,

I’ve written before about my long time friend who is Mormon. We have always been very respectful of each other’s beliefs and focus on our mutual love for Jesus. However in the last two years she has moved to Utah for work and become more involved with her Mormon friends. When she does visit I feel it’s out of convience or duty since we always try to meet when she visits. I have always put more effort into the relationship and even though she says she will try she never emails, calls or texts. I’ve come to peace knowing our friendship is over but I did send a talk about a Mormon who become Catholic asking her opinion and she hasn’t responded which is not uncommon it could be weeks before I hear something. I guess as a friend hopefully she we recognize the distance

It’s hard because she will post stuff about her Mormon faith and I feel disregarded even though I’ve put so much effort into our friendship and sharing my faith. I’m praying God will bless me with a new friend. thanks for listening to me vent

 

[AKDee]

I’ve had several friends drift away over the years, and I’d guess that distance is the largest factor, not the differences in your faiths. Long distance friendships can be hard to maintain, and if someone is busy and has lots of friends where they are, they may not have the same level of commitment to maintaining the friendship.

I’d keep letting her know you’re thinking of her but focus on developing your other friendships also.

God bless you.

 

[utah_rose]

That’s true about long distance friends. But being a Mormon in Utah usually means most of their friends are Mormon and everything is centered around the church. I hope this isn’t so, but sometimes they’re discouraged from associating with people of other faiths. I have friends here who are Mormon, but we generally don’t get together too much. Just keep letting her know you’re thinking of her. I have childhood friends in my home state, and though we don’t talk often, we are still friends.

 

[jane_doe]

In high school and undergrad I loved the close relationship I had with dear friends whom I chatted with at least weekly. Now, entering my 30’s, people having kids, and having moved to a different state, many of my friendships have changed form: we are still close and share our hearts, but it is interactions which happen every few months instead of every few days.

At first this transition terrified me-- I feared I was loosing all of my dear friends… but then I realized this profound trust I had in these friends- that their love would not vanish simply because we were older and could not talk as frequently. Rather, the joy of seeing a friend is still the same joy, no matter how much time has passed.

May God be with you on your journey.

 

[Seashellie]

I’m really sorry for what you are going through. I know from experience it’s very painful to lose your best friend. I moved away and lost touch with my very best friend, only to find her about two hours away. We still just drifted apart. I will be praying for you, that God will see you through this.

Peace

 

[Sunbreak]

I know it’s hard but it’s not uncommon to lose touch with a friend when either you or s friend move away. Some people are good at maintaining long distance friendships but many are not.

 

[jaimeleglise]

It’s hard to lose a friend. Praying for you. God bless you.

 

[7_Sorrows]

praying for you to find a new friend.

 

[Memaw]

praying for you to find a new friend.

Loosing a dear friend because of distance is hard, I know I have been there, done that but I am afraid I am loosing a dear friend and neighbor of 35 years. She is loosing her battle with cancer. Please keep her in your prayers, Her name is Kitty. God Bless, Memaw

 

[7_Sorrows]

Loosing a dear friend because of distance is hard, I know I have been there, done that but I am afraid I am loosing a dear friend and neighbor of 35 years. She is loosing her battle with cancer. Please keep her in your prayers, Her name is Kitty. God Bless, Memaw

that must be very hard Memaw to see a friend and neighbor of 35 years losing her battle with cancer. Praying for your friend.

 

[Try2BeHumble]

Loosing a dear friend because of distance is hard, I know I have been there, done that but I am afraid I am loosing a dear friend and neighbor of 35 years. She is loosing her battle with cancer. Please keep her in your prayers, Her name is Kitty. God Bless, Memaw

Praying for you and your friend Memaw sorry to hear that, keep the faith and praying for you friend to have peace and less pain.

 

[Try2BeHumble]

I’ve had several friends drift away over the years, and I’d guess that distance is the largest factor, not the differences in your faiths. Long distance friendships can be hard to maintain, and if someone is busy and has lots of friends where they are, they may not have the same level of commitment to maintaining the friendship.

I’d keep letting her know you’re thinking of her but focus on developing your other friendships also.

God bless you.

Yeah I definitely think her commitment level has changed and I’m looking to develop other friendships.

 

[Try2BeHumble]

That’s true about long distance friends. But being a Mormon in Utah usually means most of their friends are Mormon and everything is centered around the church. I hope this isn’t so, but sometimes they’re discouraged from associating with people of other faiths. I have friends here who are Mormon, but we generally don’t get together too much. Just keep letting her know you’re thinking of her. I have childhood friends in my home state, and though we don’t talk often, we are still friends.

Unfortunately I do feel that being centered around her Mormon peers and congregation have made that her center. I think the level of effort has completely changed for her. We’ve been friends for 10 years and last year she forgot my birthday which was a milestone year I always spend time selecting gifts that I know she would love but I feel like some of my gifts are an after thought. Not that I’m not appreciative of her gifts but they don’t show much thought.

 

[Try2BeHumble]

In high school and undergrad I loved the close relationship I had with dear friends whom I chatted with at least weekly. Now, entering my 30’s, people having kids, and having moved to a different state, many of my friendships have changed form: we are still close and share our hearts, but it is interactions which happen every few months instead of every few days.

At first this transition terrified me-- I feared I was loosing all of my dear friends… but then I realized this profound trust I had in these friends- that their love would not vanish simply because we were older and could not talk as frequently. Rather, the joy of seeing a friend is still the same joy, no matter how much time has passed.

May God be with you on your journey.

That’s a good thought about different seasons and transitions for others. I think of the saying friends for a season, friends for a season. She mentioned how my faith influenced her to think about hers which I thought was sweet but then she became Mormon. We still chat about our Faith’s but the different denominations can be hard sometimes.

 

[jane_doe]

That’s a good thought about different seasons and transitions for others. I think of the saying friends for a season, friends for a season. She mentioned how my faith influenced her to think about hers which I thought was sweet but then she became Mormon. We still chat about our Faith’s but the different denominations can be hard sometimes.

Growing up, my best friend was a Catholic (I’m a Mormon). We hung out everyday together, shared nearly everything, I spent hours picking out her birthday gifts, I went to her confirmation, helped with her brother’s sacramental wedding: I called her the Sister of My Heart. I loved hearing about her faith and sharing mine: yes, there were some differences but also some similarities, and we did not have to be the same to be friends. As it was, it was nice to have a friend whom I could talk with about God, who didn’t give me backtalk about wanting to save sex until marriage, etc.

Unfortunately… over the years my friend lost her connection to God and herself. She moved in with her boyfriend, speaks ill of the Divine, mocked me for my commitments to God and … suffice it to say that’s she’s in a bad place of mortal sin now. Her loosing her faith resulted in me loosing my friend.

On the other hand, another friend of mine (an Calvary Chapel goer) recently re-discovered her faith, and being able to chat about God with this friend now… it’s so refreshing to get to share all of me.

All this to say: don’t discount your friend simply because she’s in a different church.

 

[Try2BeHumble]

Growing up, my best friend was a Catholic (I’m a Mormon). We hung out everyday together, shared nearly everything, I spent hours picking out her birthday gifts, I went to her confirmation, helped with her brother’s sacramental wedding: I called her the Sister of My Heart. I loved hearing about her faith and sharing mine: yes, there were some differences but also some similarities, and we did not have to be the same to be friends. As it was, it was nice to have a friend whom I could talk with about God, who didn’t give me backtalk about wanting to save sex until marriage, etc.

Unfortunately… over the years my friend lost her connection to God and herself. She moved in with her boyfriend, speaks ill of the Divine, mocked me for my commitments to God and … suffice it to say that’s she’s in a bad place of mortal sin now. Her loosing her faith resulted in me loosing my friend.

On the other hand, another friend of mine (an Calvary Chapel goer) recently re-discovered her faith, and being able to chat about God with this friend now… it’s so refreshing to get to share all of me.

All this to say: don’t discount your friend simply because she’s in a different church.

While I’m sorry to hear about your former friend I’m happy to hear that you found a new one to share your faith with. That is truly a blessing! I completely agree about your statement I would not count my friend out just because she’s in a different church. I think the problem is is that we have grown apart while her Mormon lifestyle and friends have become more important. Maybe it’s because they share their faith in common and she doesn’t with me it makes her feel uncomfortable? She has always respected my faith and we try and learn from one another. My prayer is that the Holy Spirit will speak to her through the talk that I sent her about Mormonism to Catholicism and be reminded of our friendship.

 

[jane_doe]

I think the problem is is that we have grown apart while her Mormon lifestyle and friends have become more important. Maybe it’s because they share their faith in common and she doesn’t with me it makes her feel uncomfortable? She has always respected my faith and we try and learn from one another. My prayer is that the Holy Spirit will speak to her through the talk that I sent her about Mormonism to Catholicism and be reminded of our friendship.

Are you sure it’s because of faith, and not simply being caught up in her new life in a new place? People can get very caught up in things. Could you perhaps ask her about it?

As to possible candidates of something about your faith which could make her uncomfortable (I’m hitting broad topics here)

• Is you primary hang out spot a bar or coffee house?
• Does your social time revolve around alcohol?
• Do you talk about having sex with your significant other?

(I also appreciate the sympathy about loosing my old friend. It is an old wound at this point, but occasionally still hurts. Like I think of her every Good Friday because we would always go to her church as she narrated Stations of the Cross).

 

[Memaw]

Praying for you and your friend Memaw sorry to hear that, keep the faith and praying for you friend to have peace and less pain.

Thank you so much. Friends are so important in our lives we should cherish every one. Even those we have for a short time. God sends them to us for a reason. Kitty and I have done so much together over the years with my kids and grandkids. Sunday we are going to the Holy Door at our Cathedral. We are both widows. She came back into the Faith, (after many years away), after we met, she started going to Church with me. Her husband later became Catholic and her son. We’re still praying for her daughter and family to return. So we have much to be thankful for. God Bless, Memaw

 

[Memaw]

While I’m sorry to hear about your former friend I’m happy to hear that you found a new one to share your faith with. That is truly a blessing! I completely agree about your statement I would not count my friend out just because she’s in a different church. I think the problem is is that we have grown apart while her Mormon lifestyle and friends have become more important. Maybe it’s because they share their faith in common and she doesn’t with me it makes her feel uncomfortable? She has always respected my faith and we try and learn from one another. My prayer is that the Holy Spirit will speak to her through the talk that I sent her about Mormonism to Catholicism and be reminded of our friendship.

Another dear friend that I grew up with is not Catholic and we have been very close also all these years. She lives in a small town about an hour away . We only see each other a few times a year, but talk on the phone every week. Our religious differences has not kept us from being friends. She is like a sister to me. I have known her since 5th grade. When I go down and spend a few days with her, she takes me to my Catholic Church on Sunday and goes with me even. She and her husband helped me so much when I lost my first husband in 1963. Friends come in beautifully wrapped gifts. God Bless, Memaw

 

[Anglewannabe]

. I think the problem is is that we have grown apart while her Mormon lifestyle and friends have become more important. .

Sadly, I have found people to be fickle. While in university, I had a roommate I was good friends with. Before she moved out to go lived with her sister, she was always saying she wanted to stay close. She went to a different school and when the gang at school were talking about what to do on the weekend, she wanted to be with them. It was more convenient to make plans with the people at school than to call me. She is the one who drifted away after begging me not to.

Some people are just lazy and want to do what is convenient. Not that I blame them if they have moved a long distance away. But a good friend would be able to communicate this to you and agree on new parameters of the friendship

I know it hurts to loose a friend no matter what the reason