From crush to obsession?

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I have an unfortunate habit of thinking people can read my mind.
 
Actually, the school would not move her out of son’s lunch or homeroom. They wanted to move my kid, who has done nothing but go to school. DH said no…she should be moved. My kid has been cursed with being considered handsome (I’m told this by others) and a nice physique. He was asked to this dance, which didn’t happen because of a weird Nor’easter we got on Friday, by a dozen or so girls. The girl he wanted to take respects him for him, not his looks (she got to know his personality before we saw him). By the time the dance is rescheduled, he’ll probably be at a new school.

I can’t home school him. I have to relocated my dad and have multiple surgeries ahead of me for a crushed tibia.
 
Psycochick?

This is still a teenage CHILD you are dealing with.

The school had a solution you did not want to take. There may be many reasons why they’d want to move your son over the girl…including the fact that once a teacher is well versed in a problem student it is often better not to transfer them to another teacher.

Knowing teachers I know that any information that may be the reason this girl is being “favored” over your son could very well be a diagnosed mental illness. They would not be allowed to tell you that and they would be legally obligated to accomodate her. Which is why you would need your own legal advice regarding the harrasment.

You’re switching schools. You have decided what course of action to take. At this point, outside of legal ramifications, you have nothing more to say/do.
 
You need to report this to the police. The type of thing that this young lady is doing has the potential to affect your son’s reputation going forward. Report her ASAP.
 
Xanthippe_Voorhees said:
Psycochick?

This is still a teenage CHILD you are dealing with.

The school had a solution you did not want to take. There may be many reasons why they’d want to move your son over the girl…including the fact that once a teacher is well versed in a problem student it is often better not to transfer them to another teacher.
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I’m a teacher…we also have to consider the welfare of EVERY child in our care, not just the ones who have issues.
 
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Xanthippe_Voorhees:
Psycochick?

This is still a teenage CHILD you are dealing with.

The school had a solution you did not want to take. There may be many reasons why they’d want to move your son over the girl…including the fact that once a teacher is well versed in a problem student it is often better not to transfer them to another teacher.
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I’m a teacher…we also have to consider the welfare of EVERY child in our care, not just the ones who have issues.
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A teacher has to consider every child in their care, however, a school may have good reason for leaving a troubled child with a particular teacher and moving their victim to another one. There are issues that the OP cannot legally know that may be a play. It’s not as simple as moving the troubled student…sometimes moving the victim is the best course of action for a teacher/school.
 
Sorry about the flippancy regarding our nickname for her. The homeroom teacher is hardly qualified to handle neurotypical children, let alone those with invisible disabilities. Said teacher teaches algebra and 75% of his students (honors and college prep) are failing his class. Parents are complaining left and right, and he’s saying he has a dumb bunch of kids. So, my thought is a more compassionate teacher would work for her if she did have issues.

The latest was her and her sidekick getting up from their seats, sneaking to where my son sits and demanding the boy who was talking to my son stop.
The kid didn’t comply. Later, a kid cornered him in the bathroom, asked him his nationality and said he looked Middle Eastern. So, we now have my son being called a Middle Eastern Islamic terrorist. And we cannot pull him from his school because the only other school in the vicinity has accepted all the transfers for the year.

So, we have a 6’2” elite volleyball player who has started 2 nasty rumors, tried to grabs my kid’s genitals last week (reported and witnessed) yet is deemed one of the most popular and devout girls in the school. If this sounds crazy, it’s because it is. Where’s the protection for my kid? Further, this school is not equipped to deal with kids with severe behavioral issues. I put out thousands tomget my son to where he’s at. Why is he getting penalized.
 
My son has issues but isn’t causing anyone any harm. Where does his protection come into play. The girl and her brother are loud and intimidating. Her junior brother gets cheered on by her while walking into Mass for nearly elbowing my son in the ribs? Yes…all documented and ready for the lawyer and the diocese. I agree that unequal attention is being applied here.
 
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Xantippe, I know all this. My son is on the spectrum. She, by all of her eighth grade classmates accounts, was a choir girl before coming to high school. She wants my kid as her boyfriend (she tells anyone who will listed that he is hers) and, for once, she can’t get what she wants. It may explain why she welled up a little when she heard my son is still discerning religious life (as a monastic brother). He knows his limitations.
 
What would the police do if it’s on school grounds? My son comes straight home from school.
 
Teach the boy how to be slightly obnoxious to the girl instead of his sweet normal self. With a bit of ‘acting’ he can put out or redirect the flame.
 
Tried, and it didn’t work. She would scream at him when confronted and then her minions would try to rough him up in the hallway (both boys and girls). His therapist, before we knew this, told us that she wants to engage him on any level to get her obsession satisfied. There is something seriously wrong with her.
 
I should have mentioned that homeroom teachers were assigned by alphabetical order.
 
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Xantippe and Xanthippe_Voorhees are two distinctly different posters. I don’t believe Xantippe has weighed in on this thread.
 
Have you talked to law enforcement about getting a civil protection order? As far as her grabbing his genitals, it seems that is very close to sexual assault. If this was my situation I would go to law enforcement with everything you have and let them handle it.
 
Could you keep your son off school until you know he will be adequately protected? Get him to write a statement detailing every incident and take it to his principal. If the principal doesn’t do anything, take it to the people above the principal. I would also report it to the police, even if it’s just to get it on record after the nude pictures.
 
Horton said:
Have you talked to law enforcement about getting a civil protection order? As far as her grabbing his genitals, it seems that is very close to sexual assault. If this was my situation I would go to law enforcement with everything you have and let them handle it.
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I would argue it is sexual assault. The OP should definitely go to the authorities. I cannot believe the school is letting this happen.
 
It’s in the works…so many people mentioned sexual harassment. I’m kind of shocked.
 
The school is going on, he said/she said. And the video tapes never seem to pick up anything.
 
My son isn’t an elite volleyball player. His worth is less.
 
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