From crush to obsession?

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Since September. No altercations, well-liked (except by hormonechick and her ilk) by peers and teachers.
 
Can you go back to them? Tell them it’s completely unacceptable and that their response has been nothing short of appalling. The very least they could do would be to move him.
 
The two meetings they called were convenient for them (one time I was in surgery). But, we demanded a change and are holding him out until they comply.
 
That’s good. Stand your ground, and keep calling the school to inquire what it is they’re going to do about everything, and when they’re planning to move him.
 
Thanks Lou. Husband got home from work and we just sent another e-mail. They no longer return our calls. School will be called off tomorrow, thank goodness. We’ll get a doctors note from his psychiatrist this weekend documenting the mental crap. We have them on sexual harassment and porn charged when they pranked my son with the pictures. The lawyer is doing the rest of the legal work to see what other charges can be brought up. But, kids won’t make written statements because they are afraid of psychochick.
 
I can’t believe their attitude. Have you told your lawyer they won’t return your calls? If you can, I would document every time you have tried to call them and they didn’t pick up. Also, email and ask for a meeting to see them in person. If they won’t give you a time, or they don’t reply, send another along the lines of "As my request for a meeting has been ignored/no time has been given, I am going to arrive at the school on X date at Y time. I expect to speak to you about all the issues at such time. If you do not meet me at this time, I will be going to the governors and speaking to them’.

With regards to statements - how would the girl find out who had written them? They should be being collected on a confidential basis - if not, I would make a note with your lawyer in regards to that as well.
 
Lou, the statements have to be written and signed. Otherwise, it’s a he said/she said type thing. There are plenty of guys who are totally disgusted with her. The kids that went to school with her are shocked at the change in her. They are also completely sympathetic. However, since that grammar school was the largest sending school to this high school, these kids were also friends with her because they basically went from kindergarten to eight grade with her. She “demands” that these kids remain loyal to her.

As for the kids from other schools, she only tries to warn them that my son is a sexual predator and an Islamic jihadist.

None of these kids believe her, but she has one heck of a temper and is not afraid to get up in a kid’s face and scream at them. Most of the boys are about 5’7”. She’s tall and has more of a man’s physique (not like, say, Brooke Shields or other tall models). If we can get our kid through Easter, all will be well.
 
Something seems odd. Get on the phone to the Diocese office of Catholic Schools first thing in the morning. Ignoring this sort of inappropriate sexual act is contrary to everything in Catholic education.
 
I’ve already been in touch. They immediately callled the principal, who wanted to meet with us. I called last Thursday. The school principal called us that night to meet the next day, but it was my son’s school dance and we were hosting his date’s family. The whole thing got cancelled due to weird weather. I haven’t let my son go to school this week.
 
We have different parenting priorities, for me a dinner party would take a back seat.
 
I am a little confused. I thought you said they wouldn’t return your calls. But then you said they called you the same day…
 
Here’s the tact they are going to use. Because my son has mild Aspergers, they are going to say his misread many of the things this girl has done. Thankfully, some boys came forward and told the admin how bad it is. But, they will use the “he does a poor job reading social skills” card on us. This is always the case with them. His social skills have gotten pretty good. Sure, he still has trouble with idioms, and he does take things literally at times, he can hold his own. The is what makes me and my DH furious (he also has mild Aspergers). Elite athlete vs Aspie kid. Who’s going to get the fair shake?
 
What do you mean this is always the case? I thought this was his first year at this school?

Is this the same school you were talking about him going to on the old CAF?
 
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Yes. It’s 90Domer or 1990Domer. The forum wouldn’t recognize my name. This is a replay of his Catholic grammar school experience.

Sad thing is, we loved the school. The first month was bliss. I was worried about his social awkwardness, and he fit in fine. This girl had her eye on him even before school started—when they got their class schedules and when my husband took son for uniform measurements.
 
They won’t return our calls. We only got a call because the Archdiocese called them first.
 
It’s a mute point. The meeting was for 3 PM and school was closed at 1:30 PM. Further, this was my son’s date and his family, who were driving 1 1/2 hours to meet us. This was a cyberschool friend and a huge deal to my both our families. Plus, it was rude of the school to suggest that time because they knew our plans beforehand (this girl was not a student there and gave us a ton of grief at the last minute to allow her to attend).
 
So this girl is in essence bullying her entire year group? And no-one is doing anything about it at all? Is this girl’s parents on the board of governors or something? How is she getting away with all this?

I still don’t understand how she’d find out who had written statements. Yes, they need to be signed, but why is who signed them being commmunicated to her?
 
I think this is a good time to put this to rest. Frankly, it’s a near occasion of sin writing about this. He’s going to be moved, and that’s that. I hope the next school will serve him better.

Frankly, I have thrown in the towel on Catholic school education. Heck, the Mennonite school we’re sending him to seems more Catholic than the Catholic school he’s at. Funny how about half the kids at the Mennonite school are Catholic…and not of the cafeteria variety.
 
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