So here’s my dilemma: should I pray that she doesn’t convert or should I pray that God lead where ever He deems fit? If I pray the latter and she converts, how am I supposed to know I’m in the right denomination?
Look at the fractured nature of Orthodoxy, with EO Churches and Patriarchs going in and out of communion with each other. This can’t possibly be the “
One, Holy, Catholic, and Apostolic” Church we confess in the Creed.
Going by the amount of flak I’m taking for insisting on this, I must have touched upon a nerve with some posters. But yeah, look at the Moscow Patriarch going in and out of communion with the Ecumenical Patriarch of Constantinople. Negotiations in Switzerland to bring back Moscow into communion with Constantinople, after Constantinople’s recognition of the Estonian autonomous EOC against Moscow’s wishes, and Moscow stopping to commemorate the EP in the diptychs. Look at the ongoing Old Calendar-New Calendar controversy, not only with ROCOR, but in Greece, Romania, and Bulgaria as well, with the Church of Greece and the monks on Mount Athos at a standoff. Look at the situation in Ukraine - the EO Church in Ukraine split into three, with one Patriarch (the Kyiv Patriarch, former Metropolitan of Kyiv under Moscow’s jurisdiction) being excommunicated by another one (by the Moscow Patriarch).
I don’t have to go too far to see the disunity within Orthodoxy - only to my native city in Romania. In a city where Serbs and Romanians (two Orthodox nations) used to live together for 800 years, they went out of communion with each other during the 20th century, because the Romanian EOC adopted the New Calendar, and the Serb EOC did not. In my native city, we have two EO churches set 100 yards apart from each other - a Romanian EO church that follows the New Calendar, and a Serbian one that follows the Old Calendar. Two EO churches within 100 yards of each other, out of communion with each other. That is a testament to the fractured nature of Orthodoxy.
Meanwhile, in the same city, we have Catholic churches easily accommodating multiple Catholic Masses in multiple languages. One of the Catholic churches I attend there has services in Romanian, Hungarian, German languages. There was no need to build a separate Romanian Catholic church, a Hungarian Catholic church, and a German Catholic church, within 100 yards of each other. We are Catholic, that is we are universal, and one church building can accommodate multiple nations and multiple languages, because we are
one, despite our differences in language. The Catholic Marian shrine used to have services in 6 or 7 different languages, when it had pilgrims speaking that many different languages. But the Eastern Orthodox Romanians and Serbs had to construct two separate churches for themselves, within 100 yards of each other.
Also, btw, my ROCOR (Russian, Old Calendar) acquaintances told me that if I converted to Orthodoxy, I would be expected not to attend the Romanian EO Church, because that’s a New Calendar church.
Look at what has been going on historically. The Metropolitan of Moscow Isidore deposed and jailed by the Russian Tsar, because his delegation accepted the Union of Florence (1439), to restore unity with the Catholic Church. That’s how the Patriarch of Moscow came to be - the Tsar deposed and threw into jail the Metropolitan of Moscow under Constantinople’s headship, and proclaimed that Moscow was now an independent autocephalous Church with its own Patriarch appointed by the Tsar, independent of Constantinople. Than, Constantinople refused to accept this new Moscow Patriarch for a full century, but it caved eventually and accepted it.
Look at how the entire delegation but one from Constantinople, headed by Patriarch Joseph II, with some 23 Metropolitans and countless Byzantine scholars in attendance, almost unanimously accepted the Union of Florence - only one bishop, Mark of Ephesus, rejected the Union from the Byzantine side. Yet as they returned to Constantinople, the monks, priests, and laity at home revolted and rejected the Union agreed to by their leaders.
These are not signs of the “One, Holy, Catholic and Apostolic” Church of the Creed. The EO Church is not One, and not Catholic. It is not One because there’s no unity in it, and it’s not Catholic because it’s not universal (Catholic means universal).
Christ prayed at the Last Supper “that they may be one”. Well, if you want to find the Church whose members are “one”, that’s NOT the fractured Eastern Orthodox Church. That Church is the Catholic Church, in unity with Peter’s successor the Pope.