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I am back again to say that Jesus and Mother Mary didn’t answer any of my partition prayers. 1.The relationship between my mother and brother hasn’t been restored at all. I to my relationship with him is not that strong. 2. I didn’t get a scholarship to study abroad my application I was rejected. I applied with a friend and today she received congratulatory messages for the evening scholarship. 3. I have been praying for a husband trust me I haven’t met anyone. 4. I have been praying for a better house in a better community and environment and I was very specific about the rooms, garage, washing room etc.

I have been praying for these things in a 54day rosary novena but none of them came to pass. I have been asking myself so many questions. Like did me and my family offend GOD in any way? Does GOD even love us? Why would he forsake us? Am I bothering GOD with all my needs?? Before I would say the 54day rosary novena then sleep but now I ask myself questions I can’t answer then sleep. I and my friend prayed for the scholarship guess what GOD answered her prayers, she is now a Chevening scholar. And God never answered even one of my prayers. Everything happens for a reason but what could be the reason? And I want to start another novena on 23rd of June but praying without expecting. I am broken, I have no motivation, I have cried and stopped then cried again. When will I testify to GOD? Anyway I hope GOD blesses you all
 
Don’t lose hope!

God isn’t a catalog where you tell him what you want and it shows up 2 weeks later. Sometimes why things happen is unclear at the moment.

Let me give you an example. I know 2 brothers who got disinherited in favor of some dubious “charities.” They never got along all that well with one another. They contested their dad’s will and eventually settled the matter. They could have griped “dad didn’t love us, this is so UNFAIR!” I told them that maybe the whole situation was Gods way of helping the 2 brothers reconcile with one another - which is exactly what happened.

I can’t say why you got passed over for a scholarship; perhaps God wants you somewhere else.

Please don’t lose hope.
 
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Asha said:
And God never answered even one of my prayers.
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Seems to me that He did answer. His answer was “no” or at least “not yet”. God is not a vending machine where you can insert a prayer and punch a button and a new house falls out of the slot. Ask Him to show you what He wants for your life. Ask Him to tell you what His will is.
 
Asha said:
The relationship between my mother and brother hasn’t been restored at all.
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Your mother and your brother have something to do with that.
When it comes to people, God isn’t a magic wand. He has to wait and be patient with them and us as well.

A lot of things here you wrote is your will and you want it. It’s no wonder you’re frustrated.

We have the chance to offer to God our struggles and difficulties, in union with Christ, for our salvation and the salvation of the world. If you have been neglecting this, nothing else matters. That’s first. That is part of maturing in the faith.

As a child we know to ask and ask and ask, and rightly so. Our parents feed us and take care of what goes on in the day. As we get older, we start to take on adult tasks, and take care of duties. We learn patience, endurance. We can look at the little boy in scripture who gave Christ his few loaves and fish and watched while 5 thousand got fed. We are that little boy today. Do a morning offering and give the struggles of the day so that this desperate world can have grace come into it. That is ours to do. That’s where the power of God is. And, you can trust Him who loves you with all the other stuff.
 
What are you grateful for? Did you pray a prayer of gratitude and adoration to God? If you did, or if you do soon, how is that prayer answered?
 
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I believe God answers prayers in a way that help us find eternal salvation. If you get the house, scholarship and husband, how will that help you find salvation?

Jesus sent you, me and everyone else to be a part of the solution, we are his hands, feet and mouth here on Earth. If there are problems between your mother and brother, be a part of the solution. Ask God to bless your efforts of reconciliation.

Could the following prayer be a clue as to how God answers prayers?

I asked for Strength.
And God gave me Difficulties to make me strong.
I asked for Wisdom.
And God gave me Problems to solve.
I asked for Prosperity.
And God gave me Brain and Brawn to work.
I asked for Courage.
God gave me Danger to overcome.
I asked for Love.
And God gave me Troubled people to help.
I asked for Favours.
And God gave me Opportunities.

I received nothing I wanted
I received everything I needed
My Prayer has been answered.
 
Maybe try praying for God’s will for you to be done, instead of your will to be done. God knows what you need, but also suffering and bearing a certain cross can be a great gift from God that allows us to grow closer to Him.
 
Keep praying and do not give up. Prayers are what we do in our time. Answers are what God gives in his time.

You might consider going for a retreat or a pilgrimage.

A lot of times i in the past i have not received the answer to my prayers. But I do get blesses in other ways. Also, years from now you may see the unanswered prayers as a blessing.
 
God is not a vending machine. He is your Father who loves you and knows you better than you know yourself. It is he who knows your needs even before you ask him, as yesterday’s Gospel tells us.

What you want may not necessarily be what God knows you need. Perhaps he’s letting you remain in your situations in order for you to grow in some virtue.

Your 54-day novena will not bring about what you want if it’s not what God sees is best for you. Whether it’s a five-second prayer or a 54-day novena, every prayer, implicitly or explicitly, should always end with “according to your holy will. May your holy will be done.”
 
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I’m sorry people here are saying God is not a vending machine. I don’t think that’s very sensitive to your feelings of hopelessness.

I’m sorry you are feeling so hopeless, and wondering if God loves you. Do you believe that God is good and trustworthy? Trust in His goodness and mercy even when you don’t see things come to pass as you’d hoped. Trust that he loves you and promises to do the best for you. You are His beloved child, go to Him and tell him you’re very upset. Ask Him to change your heart and give you acceptance and understanding.
 
Prayer is not a transaction : Pray X prayer Y times and you get Z.

Prayer is communicating with God.
Asha said:
. 1.The relationship between my mother and brother hasn’t been restored at all.
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What are you doing to heal that relationship? Are you in counseling? Better yet, are all of you in counseling?
Asha said:
. 2. I didn’t get a scholarship to study abroad my application I was rejected. I applied with a friend and today she received congratulatory messages for the evening scholarship.
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Not everyone wins the scholarships they apply for or admittance to their first choice. Did you inquire what you can do to improve your chances of being awarded the scholarship next term? What other programs did you apply with?
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  1. I have been praying for a husband trust me I haven’t met anyone.
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Again, we pray to discern our vocation, to marriage or religious life. After that, as long as we selecting from others who are eligible to marry, it is up to us. Are you involved in groups where you can meet like minded adults? Do your extended family and friends know you are looking for a relationship?
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I have been praying for a better house in a better community and environment and I was very specific about the rooms, garage, washing room etc.
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Are you actively listed with a leasing agent? Do you have your budget in place and things like deposits, references, credit report, all ready to go?

We pray AND act. Inaction can lead to despair.
 
Lucy, we’re being sensitive. OP has essentially said “I haven’t gotten what I prayed for…why not?” All we can really say is “God doesn’t work that way.”

I also like the concept of we have to help ourselves, and it’s not insensitive to ask OP if she’s doing that. If one is single, and can’t find a spouse, what is OP doing? (Admittedly that’s hard right now because of covid). Is OP going to singles functions? Asking friends to set her up? Doing things like signing up for social activities - church functions; a cooking class, whatever? Those are legitimate things to do if you want to find a spouse!
 
I realize what people are trying to say, and I agree with the theology, but giving a flip answer like God is not a vending machine, in my opinion could be hurtful. I’m sure some people wouldn’t be hurt by it, and would be able to take it in stride, but we don’t know the temperament of the OP, so I think it’s best to err on the side of caution.
 
Eric_Hyom said:
I asked for Strength.
And God gave me Difficulties to make me strong.
I asked for Wisdom.
And God gave me Problems to solve.
I asked for Prosperity.
And God gave me Brain and Brawn to work.
I asked for Courage.
God gave me Danger to overcome.
I asked for Love.
And God gave me Troubled people to help.
I asked for Favours.
And God gave me Opportunities.

I received nothing I wanted
I received everything I needed
My Prayer has been answered.
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Thank you for posting this.❤️❤️❤️
 
Hi OP,
I’m sorry this happened.
Sometimes we pray for certain intentions and none of them turn out like we want and so it’s natural to feel scared and sad and abandoned.

Maybe in your head you even know you’re not abandoned, but your heart feels like you are.

You’ve had some shocks and disappointments—it’s olay to feel your real feelings and bring them to God. A lot of the Psalms are lamentations.

A lot of what you wrote may be works on progress. Your mom and brother still have time to reconcile. You still have time for Mister Right to come along. You still have time to find your dream house (or your good-enough house). There are other educational opportunities in the world.

Please understand I am not diminishing your feelings. Cry, eat a pint of Haagen Daas, pray your lamentations, be good to yourself and get up and keep moving 🙂❤️🙂❤️
 
Asha said:
Everything happens for a reason but what could be the reason? And I want to start another novena on 23rd of June but praying without expecting
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the reason is God will give you something better than what you have asked for. When next you pray be very, very grateful that he has spared you from some bad experience if you had gotten what you asked for.

Trusting God is the hardest thing we can do. We so want to take total control. Trusting God to control our lives is hard!

Ask God to tell you what HE wants for you.
 
Lucy_1 said:
but giving a flip answer like God is not a vending machine, in my opinion could be hurtful.
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I know that sometimes in my life I have had to be convinced that I was on a wrong path. That convincing often hurt. No one is deliberately trying to hurt or diminish the pain of the OP, but we cannot, as in it is not possible to, completely eliminate any possibility of someone taking a clear truthful statement in a hurt manner. Does that mean we cannot say what needs to be said?
 
Lucy_1 said:
I’m sorry people here are saying God is not a vending machine. I don’t think that’s very sensitive to your feelings of hopelessness.

I’m sorry you are feeling so hopeless, and wondering if God loves you. Do you believe that God is good and trustworthy? Trust in His goodness and mercy even when you don’t see things come to pass as you’d hoped. Trust that he loves you and promises to do the best for you. You are His beloved child, go to Him and tell him you’re very upset. Ask Him to change your heart and give you acceptance and understanding.
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To tell people the truth that God is not a vending machine is nothing to be sorry about, and neither is it an insensitive comment. It is the right thing to say to people who feel hopeless and despair and complain because God does not give them what they want. It does no one a service when truth that must be said is instead sugarcoated in the name of “sensitivity” and “hurt feelings.” It is not my intention to hurt the OP, but if the OP does decide to get hurt, then that is something he/she would have to work out. It does not make this truth any less important.
 
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You have to be patient. God operates outside of time. He may also know that some of what you are asking may not be good for you, for reasons He knows but you may not know. That’s where you have to trust God. He won’t forsake you.
 
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