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Kenny_Kamel
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I have dealt with anger issues my entire life, I have an ego, and tend to be incredibly emotional about most things. I am quite passionate and care too much according to many of the people who know me best. In my search to find ways of coping with my issues I came across a passage in the Catechism that sums up my feelings well.
1765*** There are many passions. The most fundamental passion is love, aroused by the attraction of the good. Love causes a desire for the absent good and the hope of obtaining it; this movement finds completion in the pleasure and joy of the good possessed. The apprehension of evil causes hatred, aversion, and fear of the impending evil; this movement ends in sadness at some present evil, or in the anger that resists it. ***
My main cause right now is my desire to get married and to get something started with a potential lady of interest. I have become exceedingly frustrated over the past few months, it seems like opportunities pass me by or no one will simply give me a chance. I do not want to become too passive or to aggressive but don’t know what I can do. I feel like I’ve done about everything to make myself into the man I need to be in order to at least obtain further interest and consideration from the ladies I’ve come across. I’m a devout Catholic man with a stable career and finances. My close female relations have been telling me for years things like that I’m going to be an ideal husband and parent and whoever marries me is going to be lucky, etc.
It’s frustrating because I keep receiving quite a bit of praise for all that I do but nothing ever happens beyond that. Many single females will tell me all this stuff well but none seem to have any interest. My married friends love having me around their children and I love being around kids, I have always been good at dealing with them. I am everything and I have everything that a potential wife could desire according to many, but cannot even garner interest.
Regarding CCC 1765, my Love causes a desire for the absent good (marriage and kids) and the hope of obtaining it; this movement finds completion in the pleasure and joy of the good possessed (being married and having kids). I experience a range of negative emotions when thinking about the apprehension of evil namely the fear of the impending evil, which to me is not being able to have these desires fulfilled in my life. I don’t know if this would be considered evil but all I ever feel is anger and sadness because nothing happens in my life. I feel like I’ve been patient and am continuing to do everything to the best of my ability in preparation to fulfill these desires.
Sometimes I feel like I’m wasting away while others are doing what I want to do at a younger age, perhaps not being as apt to do so as I am. I am 30 and have a 37 year old brother who has never had any issues garnering female interest and he’s essentially thrown away every promising relationship he’s ever been in. I don’t want to be 35-40 and be alone with no future prospects. The aforementioned negative emotions lead me into sinful behaviors, since I came into the Church during Easter Vigil 2011 I cannot think of any confession I’ve made that did not almost exclusively deal with sins derived from such.
I needed to write and vent. Anyone that wants to comment, please be my guest.
1765*** There are many passions. The most fundamental passion is love, aroused by the attraction of the good. Love causes a desire for the absent good and the hope of obtaining it; this movement finds completion in the pleasure and joy of the good possessed. The apprehension of evil causes hatred, aversion, and fear of the impending evil; this movement ends in sadness at some present evil, or in the anger that resists it. ***
My main cause right now is my desire to get married and to get something started with a potential lady of interest. I have become exceedingly frustrated over the past few months, it seems like opportunities pass me by or no one will simply give me a chance. I do not want to become too passive or to aggressive but don’t know what I can do. I feel like I’ve done about everything to make myself into the man I need to be in order to at least obtain further interest and consideration from the ladies I’ve come across. I’m a devout Catholic man with a stable career and finances. My close female relations have been telling me for years things like that I’m going to be an ideal husband and parent and whoever marries me is going to be lucky, etc.
It’s frustrating because I keep receiving quite a bit of praise for all that I do but nothing ever happens beyond that. Many single females will tell me all this stuff well but none seem to have any interest. My married friends love having me around their children and I love being around kids, I have always been good at dealing with them. I am everything and I have everything that a potential wife could desire according to many, but cannot even garner interest.
Regarding CCC 1765, my Love causes a desire for the absent good (marriage and kids) and the hope of obtaining it; this movement finds completion in the pleasure and joy of the good possessed (being married and having kids). I experience a range of negative emotions when thinking about the apprehension of evil namely the fear of the impending evil, which to me is not being able to have these desires fulfilled in my life. I don’t know if this would be considered evil but all I ever feel is anger and sadness because nothing happens in my life. I feel like I’ve been patient and am continuing to do everything to the best of my ability in preparation to fulfill these desires.
Sometimes I feel like I’m wasting away while others are doing what I want to do at a younger age, perhaps not being as apt to do so as I am. I am 30 and have a 37 year old brother who has never had any issues garnering female interest and he’s essentially thrown away every promising relationship he’s ever been in. I don’t want to be 35-40 and be alone with no future prospects. The aforementioned negative emotions lead me into sinful behaviors, since I came into the Church during Easter Vigil 2011 I cannot think of any confession I’ve made that did not almost exclusively deal with sins derived from such.
I needed to write and vent. Anyone that wants to comment, please be my guest.