IMO:
- Make the responses you’re supposed to make, if you can.
- Assume the postures you’re supposed to assume, if you can.
- Pray, regardless of the language.
That’s it. The attitude of having to be one of the nineteen EMHCs or thirty greeters to be “fully” participating is a worn-out remnant of the post-Vatican II hypefest and is insulting to anyone who does not. Do we go to mass for the sake of participating just to participate? I hope not, because I could just as easily go play laser tag on Sunday mornings if “participating” in something is all that matters, and it’s distressing when someone thinks so. It’s always funny when you go to a parish that has someone to light candles, someone else to turn on the lights, someone else to retrieve the incense, someone else to pour wine in each of the chalices but one, someone else to retrieve the hosts, someone else to say “hullo thar” to everyone, someone else to put the cloths on the altar, someone else to “announce” the start of mass, someone else to assist the clerics in vesting if needed, someone else to perform each insignificant, menial task “just because we can”… well, you get the idea.
My point is that oftentimes, it seems the very act of participating in
something overshadows every single real reason why we attend mass in the first place, and church staffs perpetuate the attitude.